Signs you're a medium (and the test that proves it)

The signs you're a medium are ordinary, and you can prove it to yourself tonight without a single card or crystal. From a mum who woke up to her gifts at 33.

You don't have to believe in psychic mediumship. The proof is in the pudding. It's everywhere around you and you can prove it to yourself. It's not a believing thing like believing in fairies or believing in Santa. It is a truth which is right in front of you.

What are the signs you're a medium? The signs aren't about seeing grandma in the corner. It's not about seeing dead people. It's not about getting a massive download from the Galactic Council of Light about your next mission here on planet Earth. It's so much subtler. You walked past somebody and you just knew something was off. Or maybe a name or person popped into your head only to find an hour later that person is on your newsfeed or has messaged you. We pass this off as coincidence. It is not a coincidence. It is your psychic abilities. And the test is just as ordinary. You say what arrives before you analyse it, and then you find out.

These are the everyday occurrences, the normal things, the intuition that we all have that we quite often just dismiss, because in the second we thought it, we thought we are making this up.

So this post is in two halves. First the signs, so you can recognise yourself. Then the test, so you can stop asking.

Watch the lesson: The psychic medium test: prove it to yourself, free, with chapters you can tap and the full transcript.

Who am I to tell you this?

I wasn't born being a psychic medium, I wasn't the kid who was seeing ghosts at all, but there was this knowing that I had, this sense that I was here for more.

I was a hairdresser for 18 years and one of my major values is connection and communication with people. Being a hairdresser really suited me. Coming from a long line of mediums, I thought I absolutely had no genes that were intuitive or psychic. So I just thought I was perfectly average.

And yet. When I was 18 years old, I was an apprentice hairdresser. And one of my friends who I worked with, I was like, let's play a game. I thought it was a game. It was fun. It was joyful. We were out the back having our coffee break. And I said, I want to predict your future. And I was being real funny.

She said to me, probably about 10, 15 years later, hey, Vic, do you remember that time we were sitting in the back room having a coffee break and you predicted my future and we were being silly? And I was like, yeah. And she said, this is what you told me. All of it came true. I was like, what? I was 18. I was doing an apprenticeship for hairdressing. I didn't have my tarot cards. I didn't have the candles or the music or the crystals or anything like that.

That is the whole post in one story. I said what arrived, before I had time to analyse it, because I thought we were playing. The proof turned up years later.

Then I was 33 years old, standing in the kitchen preparing dinner for my family. I'm looking out the window at the kids playing in my beautiful garden when I sensed something behind me. I sensed a warm feeling to my left and my ears started heating up. I felt tingles, like someone was walking on my grave. I turned around and there was no one there. I just passed it off as a coincidence, my great imagination, just being a little bit silly. And then it happened again. And I realised this was not a coincidence at all.

Nobody had warned me this would happen. Nobody told me at 33 years old, I would be going through an awakening. I had no idea what an awakening was, but it did. I truly thought I'd gone a little bit crazy. But the truth is, I had just forgotten my gifts.

I wasn't born awake seeing spirit. I wasn't born awake, conscious, knowing what my path was. It wasn't until I was 33 years old, I had my second child.

What are the signs you're a medium?

Here is what I want you to notice about every sign on this list. None of them are Hollywood. You don't have to be seeing supernatural things like Hollywood shows us to be gifted, because we all are gifted.

• You know who's ringing. Had a spidey sense that something's going to happen, or someone's going to ring you? Maybe a name or person popped into your head only to find an hour later that person is on your newsfeed or has messaged you.
• You feel a room. You walk into a room and you can feel the energy within the room. You cry when you're hearing stories of other people and their experiences. And you can feel other people's emotions ever since you were little, but you probably didn't know what to do with it or how to handle it, because no one's talked about that.
• The songs. The looping songs, that certain part of the chorus that goes around and around and around in your head for hours, or days, or even weeks. They talk to me in songs and lyrics, and it's emotional. One day I had a song, Don't Cry for Me Argentina. And then I realised that the message was for my friend, Tina.
• Dreams that feel like visits. I remember having another dream where I was sitting on my granddad's knee and I was hugging him. I said, granddad, I don't want to go. He's like, you've got to go. I was like, I love you. Because I knew I was in a dream. And I knew the only way I could access him and receive his hug and sit on his knee like I was a child again was in my dream. Was that just a dream?
• You feel too much. As an empath, you have taken on many energies and emotions, simply because of your big heart and compassion. Someone is smiling and talking to you, and you feel the weight they haven't said.
• The repeats. A feather. Landing. A one, one, one. A monarch butterfly. Not once that day, but everywhere you go. A name. A certain name constantly popping up. We deem them as coincidences.
• You've been told you're too sensitive. If we are too emotional, if we're too sensitive, we're literally told that there is something wrong with us. That line is a sign in itself, and I'll come back to it.

If you have been experiencing things, you're not imagining it. You just forgot, or you didn't see the significance.

And if you only recognised one or two, that's enough. Even if it was small, even if it was massive, it is worth being witnessed.

Why are the signs so ordinary?

Because that's how Spirit works. We want something loud and bold, like someone calling our name, so our brain can tune into it. The truth is, spirit comes in whispers and little nudges and little flashes.

Messages are usually felt within the body. Seeing spirit is usually in the imagination. Hearing can often be with your own voice. These subtleties have not been what we've been taught when it comes to Hollywood, when it comes to what we believe psychic mediumship is.

So you have been receiving the whole time. Here is the mind blowing bit. You're receiving the information, but your brain is doing a great job at putting it in the junk pile, deemed not important, before it comes to your conscious awareness.

Picture this, you're in a room, it's a party. Say it's a Christmas party, it's really loud, the music is going, there's a ton of people in there. And all of a sudden you hear through all the noise, all the chaos, all the party vibes, you hear your name being called. You look across the room over all of these people and you see your best friend calling your name, waving. Your brain honed in because it's been trained to hear your name. Tick. That is important. The brain did a great job.

Your brain has simply never been trained to treat a feather, a song or a name that pops in as important. So it files them.

It's in the everyday miracles that we are having our awakenings. And the more we see this, the more we open up.

I grew up with my mum always saying, what a coincidence, what a coincidence, what a coincidence. And now I know it's not a coincidence. Nothing is a coincidence. There are literally synchronicities continuously around us all the time. And honestly, it's pretty freaking miraculous.

Were you connecting as a child?

Yes. This is the part most people skip, and it changes the whole question. You are not wondering whether you can become something. You are remembering something you already did.

You were aware of energy, of spirit around you, and you were receptive to receiving information. But somewhere along the line, you were conditioned to forget.

Babies know what they want. They cry when they are hungry. They cry when they have to have their nappy changed. They cry if they don't like somebody. They cry if they want their mum. They giggle at people that they feel resonance with, right? They play. Little babies know how to do this. And you know how to do this too. But the brain took over the gut. And we were told to think before we speak. We were told to think before we act. We were told to think, think, think, think. But the truth is you and your inner knowing can connect to spirit easier than you think.

I remembered being in my bassinet or my cot, whatever you call it, when I was a baby. I was only probably a month old. I remember screaming and I could tune into my mum in the other room. I was told I was a really hard baby. That's the first part of conditioning. You were a hard baby. You were a bad baby. I was a great toddler because I started becoming conditioned.

Then school. Spirit comes in and you notice it, and then your brain goes, put it into the junk pile. You were taught that at seven years old, somewhere between five and seven, you put it into the junk pile: not relevant, Mum and Dad won't approve, not how I'm going to be accepted into this family, for my survival. You've been doing it your whole life.

So you shut that door of that gigantic mansion with millions and millions of doors. You shut that door of miracles because it didn't fit in this dense reality. And then you shut that door to mediumship because you didn't want to be weird or get hurt.

Because truthfully, we forgot. We forgot our abilities. From very young as a child, growing up to being an adult, we started blocking. And we did this for survival. It's simply not our fault. But it's our responsibility to remember that we are already gifted. And we don't have to be a chosen one to be a medium, because we are all chosen.

What did you know was real when you were a little girl, a little boy?

Sit with that question for a minute, because your answer is a sign too. You were enough when you were channelling at five years old.

Is being too sensitive a sign you're a medium?

You're not too sensitive for the world. You're tuning into the frequency of spirit.

I want to say that twice, because you were probably told the opposite your whole life. Stop crying, I'll give you something to cry about.

Your sensitivities are not your weakness. They are your radar. And empaths, in my opinion, are untrained psychics.

I know this from the inside. I was going through my awakening about 10 years ago. I remember lying in bed going, I'm exhausted, I can't handle people. The little bit of energy that I gathered every day felt like it just got taken out of me as soon as I gained it. I could never sleep enough. I was living off sugar. I was just trying to stay awake. I didn't realise that I was one big open portal that didn't understand how to manage, harness, and translate the energy that I was feeling.

Feeling the room is step one. The truth is you're not just here to feel the world. You're here to read it. You're not here just to feel the world. You're here to translate. You're here to understand.

Here is the simplest tool I know for the days you've soaked up a room. I go to the supermarket and I walk past this lady. When you walk past somebody, you can have an energy transference. By the time I'm down the end of the first aisle, I'm feeling these feelings, and by the time I'm in the second aisle, I'm getting a visual of green and I'm seeing a supermarket and I'm hearing the word brother and I'm just like, what is going on? Who does this actually belong to? I knew instantly it was her.

Don't feel bad for knowing things. You weren't spying on them. We do this all day, every day. This is how we network as human beings, as energetic creatures. How often are you picking up on people's energies thinking it's yours? How often are you being super psychic and passing it off as coincidence?

Making the energy of a sensitive empath into a powerhouse empath that is psychic. How would it feel to flip that script?

Is it too late to be a medium?

You're not a late comer.

I thought that I had skipped the gift. I thought that only certain people had the gift of mediumship and they always saw with their eyes or heard with their ears. Then I turned 33.

It doesn't matter what age you are because you were connecting to spirit when you were really little. You're connected to spirit your whole entire life. You're just not present enough to acknowledge that you're connecting to spirit, that you are spirit.

It is not a bad thing that you put your spiritual gifts on the bookshelf in the back corner for a while, because you're returning to it now. And it's just sitting there waiting for you to unlock.

Some of us do not get the calling, and wake up and remember our soul gifts, until we are older. So many of the women that come to me in midlife, they become the most extraordinary mediums because they've had a full ordinary life full of human experiences. So they can bring their wisdom and their knowledge and their intuition to the forefront with their mediumship gifts.

Sometimes it's literally like taking the cobwebs off something that hasn't been used for a while. It's like riding a bike. You never forget how to ride the bike. You just have to get practiced and find your legs again.

Remember, you are always exactly on time.

Why can't you prove it by thinking?

Because you can't think yourself psychic, you are psychic.

Most women who ask me, am I a medium, have been trying to answer it in their head. Reading. Watching. Weighing up. And the head is the one place the answer never lands. You can't succeed as a medium from intellect. You can understand it, but it doesn't mean you're great at it. You have to experience it.

You don't need to see it to believe it with psychic abilities, because you are it. And we're going to do another exercise today so you can have more evidence, so your brain can feel safe to receive your intuitive hits. So the problem isn't about your belief. It's about your trust.

I had this knowing that I was a psychic medium and I didn't have any proof or evidence and I thought I was a bit nuts. So I wanted to prove one way or the other, am I nuts or am I psychic? I asked a client of mine from the salon if I could practice a reading on her.

So we go into my lounge and we sit down, and I grab my cards and I start shuffling them. And I heard this little voice in my head. It was my own voice that said, put down the cards. So I put down the cards and I was like, okay, I'm going to trust the process here. And I closed my eyes and I said, what can I see? And I went into my greatest imagination and all of a sudden I see a man. He looked like the guy of Gone with the Wind, Clark Gable. And then I see the way he's standing and his height and how thin he is and he's got a moustache. And then I can see a child pop up, another child pop up.

When I first started using my greatest imagination, I thought I was full of it. I thought I was a fraud. Until the sitter I was practicing my reading for told me it was one of the best readings she'd ever had. She'd been trying to access her uncle for three years.

I couldn't believe it. I covered my mouth and I said, are you lying to me? Because I had never in a million years thought that my imagination would be the thing that would be the psychic mediumship abilities. I was expecting to see in my mind's eye something separate from me, to hear something separate from me.

Notice what I did not do. I did not sit there asking whether Clark Gable made sense. I said it. How did I know that it wasn't my voice? Because it was in my voice. It sounded like me. It was in my head. How did I know? It wasn't. Because it was instant. The easy and the effortless was the yes.

The mind likes to analyse. The ego is loud and really likes to distract. And spirit is quiet and subtle and comes into the body.

One of the biggest things I say in MM is, unapologetically trust the first thing that comes through, even if it doesn't make sense to you. Because 99% of what you see, hear, feel, know, won't make sense to you. But it will make sense to the sitter. And it definitely makes sense to Spirit.

That is the test. Not thinking. Doing. The same thing I did at 18 in the break room without knowing it was a thing.

Try this tonight: the test that proves it

But I don't expect you to believe me. I don't expect you to have blind faith with me. So here is the test. It takes a minute, and you don't need cards, candles or the lights down low.

• One. Pick a person. Someone you'll see or speak to tomorrow. A friend, your sister, the woman at the school gate. Not someone whose week you already know.
• Two. Drop in for ten seconds. What am I sensing? How is my body feeling? What's going on with me and my body right now? Closing your eyes for 10 seconds to reset, noticing what you're tasting and what you're seeing behind your eyelids, or with your eyes open, what you're sensing on your skin, what you're smelling, what you're hearing, coming back to those five basic senses.
• Three. Say the first thing. Out loud or on paper, say what arrives about that person before you analyse it. A colour. A word. A feeling. A place. Santa, if it's Santa. I saw Santa and then I started going, does he have a white beard? Does he like the colour red? And then eventually I said, look, mate, I just see Santa. Don't tidy it up. Don't make it sensible.
• Four. Write it down with the date. The coolest thing about journaling as a tool is you might be like, I don't know! But write it down anyway.
• Five. Ask them tomorrow. Say, this is going to sound silly, but does green mean anything to you this week? Then be quiet and let them talk. Even if you get a no, you're so much closer to getting your yes.

Then, before you go to sleep, one more line. Spirit, show me a sign in the next 24 hours that you are guiding me. Often we expect spirit to work instantaneously, and often they do, but we are inviting deep subtleties, signs where we can connect and piece the puzzle together to create a story.

That's it. And at the very least, if it's just strengthening your muscle, then good job. Well done. The more we practice, the more we evolve. Do it with a different person every day for a week and you'll have a page of evidence in your own handwriting.

Full disclosure. I might be a fraud. Full disclosure. I might get it wrong. But that's not going to stop me from trying. Borrow that line for tomorrow.

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Questions women ask me

How do I know I'm a medium and not just imagining it?

The fact that you're asking a question, am I making this up or is this real, is actually a good thing. When we question, it doesn't mean there's something to actually question or that there's a fraudulism or a fakeness. It means we are doing discernment. If it's loud, if it's charged, if it's dictating or bossy or demanding, that is of the mind. If it is subtle and lands in a random image like Santa or a random thought like put down the cards, that is Spirit.

Do mediums run in families, and what if mine doesn't?

People think that mediums are super gifted or super weird or super woo-woo, and usually come from a long line of mediums. And yes, this can be true. But really, all personalities, all ages and stages can tune in to their mediumship abilities. There is no one that is more gifted than anybody else. It's just, we have to remember who we are.

What's the worst that can happen if I try?

The very worst that can happen if you step into these skills is that someone will say, oh, you're going a bit woo-woo, aren't you? Oh, that was a bit weird. Oh, don't get too weird now. Let them call you a weirdo, because they're probably a normie, and who wants to be a normie anyway.

You are already a medium and you talk to spirit, you just don't know it yet. Everyone is a medium. Including you. Do the test tonight, and then you will.

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