Is Spirit talking to me? 4 subtle ways most people miss

We are waiting to hear Spirit's voice loud and clear, but it doesn't work that way. I see this happen with so many people. They come to me and they go, I can't connect with Spirit. And I say this one thing: you already are. Often a thought or a feeling will drop in so clear and so calmly. It's not our voice, but we just think, well, hey, that was nothing. So we brush it off. And I want you to hear me. It was something. It is something.

In this video, I'm going to take you through four ways that Spirit is already connecting to you. I want you to take note of what pops up for you, what resonates with you. Because honestly, once you open your eyes and you shift your perspective on this, everything will change when it comes to your mediumship and channelling abilities.

I remember feeling embarrassed at 33 when I started going through my awakening. I was seeing and hearing and sensing, but it was all very subtle, and it took me a good year to actually say, okay, I think this might be from Spirit. I thought it might have been my mind, because I was interested in spiritual development. Also, I had a whole lot of fear that came with that. But some of the signs were just so common. The 111s, as well as the ears popping, the songs looping, shadows in the corner of my eye, as well as wacky dreams, sometimes scary dreams, and simply a gut knowing, or a Spidey radar sense, even on my skin, if something didn't feel correct.

Now, when I look back, I'm like, whoa, they seem pretty obvious to me now. But the reason why I was embarrassed was because I thought Spirit did not come through subtleties. I thought Spirit came through loud and clear, and we would just see a dead person who would talk to us, because that's what the movies share. And the spirit stories I had heard were all spooky and pretty intense, like Ouija boards moving and glass shattering. No wonder we were scared, and no wonder I was embarrassed, because mine wasn't Hollywood. Mine wasn't big and exciting and scary. It was literally butterflies and like feathers falling from the sky.

But what I've come to realise is this is the exact doorway to open up to Spirit. These signs and synchronicities, these subtleties, are the language of Spirit. And once I decided to dive on in and connect, my world opened up. I simply did not have anybody to put it in layman's terms for me, about how to connect in with Spirit.

Let me know what are some of the signs and synchronicities that you have experienced in your life. We all have common signs that are important to us, like seeing a magpie, or maybe it's a rainbow. What are those things for you? Because even though other people may experience those signs and synchronicities, it doesn't mean it's not important. In fact, it is truly important. And the reason why they are subtle, the reason why they are common, is because we are all Spirit having a very similar experience. Spirit in a body connecting to Spirit with no body. We are already channels. We are already guides, and we just happen to have this incredible body that we can anchor all this information into, which makes us fantastic mediums.

The thing that held me back for the longest time was waiting. So do you feel like you're waiting to see or to hear? This is the biggest trick of all, because Spirit is already speaking to you, and we need to shift our perspective on what it looks like being a medium. So I have a couple of things I like to say. One is, everybody is a medium. Two, to know Spirit is to know yourself. And three, you're the strongest entity in your reality. If you know these three things, then your life will change. If you live these three things, your life will absolutely transform.

Four ways that Spirit is communicating with you. The first one is, you feel energy that is not yours. This is the gift of the empath, and surprise, surprise, every single human being is an empath. It is on a spectrum, depending on how conscious you are with what you are sensing. We are energetic beings. Our first language is energy. Now, if you're like me and you are sensitive, I've got a lot of open centres, so I'm a bit of a sponge. I'm like a sponge empath. What that means is I can be taken out by other people's energy, including Spirit, but I've learned how to manage with standards and boundaries. I've got to be able to manage what is mine and what is not.

So what do we do about it? Because we don't want to take on every single person's energy. It's too much. There's only enough room for one spirit in this vessel. When we're taking on everybody else's energy, we're getting drenched, and it can be extremely overstimulating. So what we need to do is push out everybody's energy. Don't put up big walls, but push out their energy and say, I'm claiming my own space. And then when you want to connect in with Spirit, you can actually ask Spirit of the highest vibrations and frequencies, of the true white light, to step into that space to give you information. This will come in the form of feeling their energy, feeling their thoughts, feeling their memories, feeling their preferences.

Try this out. I hope you're taking notes, because this truly works. What are you feeling that is not yours? The biggest trick here is to be able to distinguish what is yours and what is not. So here is another tool I want you to write down. Does this energy belong to me? If it doesn't, I let it go. Say that for every thought, every feeling, every intuitive hit, every awareness that comes in, with that curiosity: is this mine, or is this somebody else's? If it stays with you, maybe it's original to you. If it leaves, maybe it was somebody else's.

Please remember, you are Spirit and you have a body, and we connect to other spirits with bodies and other spirits without bodies, taking on energy. So if you are an extreme empath, if you're very porous like me and you absorb everything, we need to learn how to detox that energy, create a beautiful safety bubble, and of course, drop our barriers, so we're not putting up massive big walls, because that does block us. And just hold the standard. You can give up what is not yours to let it go, or you can invite that energy to come into your space and play, and you can start having a conversation.

The second way that Spirit communicates. This is really simple, but bear with me, because without these fundamentals we cannot expand. You just know. This is the claircognizance. You just know you don't want to go to that event. You know that you're not alone in the empty room. You know that something is not quite right with a particular person or situation, or you know that the invitation you just got is not correct for you. Maybe you sense that there is a space you don't want to go into in somebody's house.

My sister and I stayed in a motel on the way home from a retreat, because we wanted integration time before we got back into our busy families. She said, that's my room, that's your room. I stood at the door and I said, I'm not going in there. I'm not for the life of me going to sleep in that room. I knew something either happened in there, or there was some type of spirit or residue, and I didn't want anything to do with it. I felt that in my gut. I knew in my soul I didn't want to go in that room. I ended up sleeping in my sister's room, and in the night she said, Victoria, where are you? I said, I'm right next to you. And she said, turn on the light, I thought you were standing over me. No wonder I got the spooky feelings. So I knew not to go into that room.

Sometimes you just know things. Maybe it's not that fantastical. Maybe you just know that something's not quite right with your child, but they're at school. I was standing in the kitchen cooking dinner, and my daughter was over at the neighbours, and all of a sudden I just got this chill through my body. I started feeling worried, and I was like, I want her home. She came in the door about ten minutes later and went straight into the shower, which was very strange. I asked her, are you okay? And she said, Mum. What she had been hiding was that the neighbours' dog had nipped her. She was petrified, because she didn't want to get the dog in trouble. Of course, she was okay. But I felt so deeply there was something wrong, and that Mum's instinct was the knowing.

Have you ever experienced that? I know you have, because if you're watching this, you're an intuitive being and you are living a conscious life. You have awarenesses. You have a Spidey radar. You just know you don't want to go into that corner of the room, or you feel eyes on you, or you need to connect in with somebody. Have you ever had that feeling, like, I just want to connect in with this person and see if they want to catch up for a coffee? You go do that thing, and then you realise, oh my god, you're my best friend. I've just met my soulmate friend. So this is the energy of, you already know. And you see, it's not really super spectacular, because this is naturally your gift.

The third sign. It's been a massive part of me communicating with Spirit, because Spirit communicates with us in simplicity, to make it nice and easy. And please remember that Spirit works very hard to create connections with us. It can take them so long to create the signs and the synchronicities for us to see at the perfect divine timing. Spirit is miraculous. And it's those signs and synchronicities, repeating on repeat.

I remember a time where I really, really needed a sign from Spirit. My whole life was feeling upside down. I was working in the salon in the little town I worked in, and I said, I need a sign that I'm on the right track, that I'm doing the right thing. Show me a red truck. A red truck literally drove past, in the sleepy little town where there's not even any traffic lights. And then I was like, okay, now show me another red truck. And another one went past. Then I was like, okay, show me another red truck, and another one went past. In a tiny little town where there's no traffic lights, where there is literally one strand of shops, three red trucks. That is a repetitive sign.

What about the 1111? 1111 was constantly guiding me, and I mean it was everywhere. Every time I picked up my phone. Number plates, just everywhere. I followed that sign for years when I didn't know what it meant, and I just kind of passed it off as a sign that I was on the right track. Now I know it was my guides guiding me the entire time. At the time I didn't know about angel numbers. I didn't know that anybody else had these repetitive numbers. And since then, the 333s, all the different numbers, they all have a different essence and meaning when they come through for me. Of course, it's a different meaning for all of us. Every one is significant to you and specific.

So what signs and synchronicities have you had? For me, a lot of birds. An owl, or in New Zealand, a morepork, always means wisdom. A fantail is always a sign of Spirit visiting, and they will often come into my house and just fly around and tweet away. Never bumping into walls, just kind of flirting and playing. I always know it's a loved one in Spirit. I've been able to create my own spirit dictionary of signs and synchronicities, because I have been able to track it. I know that on the left hand side, when I get a warm feeling, it's female. I know if the warm feeling is on the right hand side, it's male. So I always check in, always. It is your very own library, your dictionary of Spirit.

The fourth one. Most people miss this, and it is the most subtle. It is so subtle, and it's happening all the time, that we literally bypass it. It is the thought. Spirit and guides and even our higher self and angels all come through in the form of thought. It is the easiest way to come through, and also the most complex, because our brains do a couple of different things. We have so many thoughts every single day, so we've got a big junk pile. When a thought comes in, if it's worthy of being acknowledged, we go down the rabbit hole and we follow that thought. But if our brain doesn't think it's relevant, it goes into the junk pile. And often when Spirit is bringing through a thought or a memory, the voice is subtle, so we just kind of let it go. I want you to stop doing this.

How can you tell if it's Spirit? Sometimes it just gets put straight into the junk before it even comes into your conscious mind. But if it does come into your conscious mind and you're like, huh, that's interesting, that's subtle, that doesn't feel like me, it's very nuanced and very delicate. It's nearly like you can just grab it. Then you need to anchor it into your body and go, is this worthy of me to explore, or should I let it go? This is when having a pen and paper and writing things down, like, oh, this one little thought popped in three days in a row. You've written it down in your diary. Maybe it's worth going down that track and exploring it a little bit more, and start channelling with it. Start to ask questions.

So the biggest thing is, the thought is worthy of exploring, but the ego is so loud. So how do we do this? Presence. When you are present in the now, acknowledging the body, acknowledging what is around you, and not being addicted to the mind chatter, the monkey mind, your thoughts become clearer. Spirit's energy comes through you, and this is how you get the information.

How do I explain it when I'm on a live and I'm doing these random card pulls for people that I've never met? I cannot see their face. I'm pulling a card for this lady, and then all of a sudden, when I'm talking about her father coming through, I get Elma. E, L, M, A. Elma. Does that mean anything to you? Yes, that is his name. Now, how did I do that? I'm not known for getting names. I always say I don't get names, which is actually not true. That's a mistaken belief. But I cleared so much space, and I was so present in the moment, focusing on the card, focusing on the person I was reading for, the sitter, that Elma just dropped into my thought.

To know Spirit is to know self, which means when you're present with yourself, you automatically know what is yours and what is not. This takes practice. It's the simplicity. It is the nuances. And of course, it is those delicate thoughts that you nearly bypassed and let go because they weren't significant or loud. Spirit's voice is not loud. It's often so quiet. It's like a whisper. And I really invite you to hear the whispers. By doing this, we need to be present, which means you might want to meditate or walk or do something that brings you into the now. Even doing housework, even when you are watching your kids playing, being present in that one thought stream will help Spirit to drop messages straight into your inbox, straight into your vessel.

My friend, rather than chasing Spirit, trying to grab something that's external, just be really present in a space that I call spirit mode, and allow yourself to receive whatever comes through without trying to control it. The world is your oyster, and Spirit communication is super easy for you. Something I want to say to you as well is, we expect to know. We want to be certain. It's never going to happen with mediumship. You have to have more trust, more faith, and more presence. Write that down. Trust, faith and presence. This is a mysterious craft. Really, it's natural to you, because you already are it. You are Spirit.

One of the biggest things I teach is that most of what is coming through to you for another probably won't make sense to you, because it's not for you. You are being the vessel, the presence. The word Elma, or a name that starts with a J, or the smell of grass, whatever is coming through, is so random that you think this can't make any sense. But when you're present enough and you trust the process, and you go through these four different ways of connecting and you start marrying them together, your life will expand, as well as your mediumship abilities, because we get to live as a medium. The more you live as yourself, the more you live in integrity, authenticity, presence and gratitude, your abilities start to expand. To be a medium, we must realise that Spirit is already speaking. So stop waiting for the one day, and start realising you are it now.

So now we're going to do a two minute practice to really anchor this all in. There's been a lot of information, and just know whatever is meant to land in your body, in your aura, will do. If it's safe for you to do so, I invite you to close your eyes down. Feel your feet on the ground. Take a nice deep breath in, filling up your belly, and exhaling slowly out your mouth, letting go of anything that no longer serves you. Now I'm going to invite you to drop your barriers down, down, down. Come into your heart space. Feel gratitude for showing up for yourself, and expand your energy in all directions. Keep breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth.

Now I want you to visualise a golden bubble around you. This is your beautiful aura. Breathe in golden light, and breathe out golden light, lighting up this bubble, this aura, getting rid of any noise, so you can create space for your very own energy. This is great for that first way of connecting to Spirit, which is your feelings and senses. Clearing out the aura is so important. Just keep breathing in golden light and breathing out, filling up that aura, pushing out anything that no longer serves your energy. Push it out, push it out. Now expand this golden light to fill the entire room. That's it. Expanding beyond your body and aura. Your energy is much larger than your body.

And now I invite you to ask the question: what do I need to know right now? Maybe you visualise the top of your crown opening and words dropping in, in your very own voice, your very own thoughts. Feel what you feel. Know what you know. And what can you hear right now? What do I need to know right now? Letting it land. Letting it land. Letting it land. Beautiful. And now bringing yourself gently back to your body, wriggling your fingers and toes. A nice deep breath in, breathing out, and opening your eyes.

A two minute practice you can do every day. Grounding, gratitude, expanding golden light around you, breathing into your aura and pushing out anybody else's energy, opening your crown and asking Spirit to bring through a message for you. You can use any question. This is a beautiful daily practice. Let me know how you have experienced all of this in your body, your knowing and your thoughts.