How to develop mediumship: the 4 foundations and 5 stages

Becoming a psychic medium is not about becoming gifted. It's actually about unlocking the gifts that you already have. And there are some simple ways that you can help to unlock this and to continuously grow with your mediumship abilities. It's about becoming more regulated, more discerning, and more structured. But most people quit before they even get started. First of all, let's refine what mediumship is correctly.

I'm going to share with you three things where there might be a little bit of a mistake in belief. One, seeing spirit everywhere, just simply not true. Two, being the chosen one, simply not true. Three, having a supernatural personality. Nope, not true. All of these three things are a myth. So, let's throw them away and get into what is mediumship. Three things about mediumship that you do need to know.

One, to know spirit is to know yourself. Two, a regulated nervous system, your body being in alignment is how you access your gifts. And three, everyone is a medium. All you have to do is tap in to your skill set and remember who you are and all the gifts that you have. Our body is a portal. Our body is this vessel where we can receive so much information.

Now a lot of people make the biggest mistake of thinking that mediumship comes from their brain. That consciousness comes from their brain. The funny thing about this is you can't think yourself psychic and you cannot think yourself conscious. It's more about who you be. It's about being the embodiment of your psychic abilities. Four principles that we're going to go over in this video.

Regulation, clarity, structure, and evidence. These are really important. They are foundations for your mediumship journey. I see way too many people getting out of their bodies and trying to chase ghosts, trying to chase using the Ouija boards or thinking that spirit is on a pedestal. You have got to go within and really take this step by step so you can discern. So when you are regulated, regulation is going to help you to be able to hold to be able to have a capacity that is larger than if you were not in your body.

We are always waiting for the drama. We're always waiting for the ghost. We're always waiting for the spook. This is not Hollywood. And it's not your fault because it's definitely been imprinted. It's been embedded. It's been programmed into your psyche for so many years. When we are regulated, we come into the space of clarity. Clarity of what am I seeing?

What am I sensing? What am I knowing? What am I feeling? And this is where the road map starts to unfold. Now, a lot of my clients come to me and they're like, I can't see a thing. They block themselves very early on when they were really little children. And when they come to me, they start opening up. Now, it might take a week, it might take a month, it may take three months.

And those that said they couldn't see eventually if they stay the path they are able to see. They have unblocked where they blocked themselves, where they were programmed from others. They realise there's nothing to fear because seeing doesn't have to be intense. In fact, for me, seeing is very subtle. And when I'm regulated, I start to see what it is that I'm meant to be seeing. And I start putting the pieces of the puzzle together.

So, I'm working with the communication of spirit. We want clarity because we're regulated. Everything that comes through is clear. Even if it seems a little bit dismantled and it doesn't make sense to us, it is clear and we can trust it and we know that it will take form and make sense in due time. Of course, this is when the third principle comes in which is structure. Your structure will naturally come to you when you're doing your mediumship.

But to begin with, having a mentor or having a coach or following a series like this here on YouTube and writing down all of this will actually give you the structure to start. Maybe you've got a candle and a crystal. You've got some beautiful music, some high frequency music, and you invite spirit to come in. This is a structure, a nice simple structure. Sometimes we just need a a pen and a paper. And then when we've got this, we can start our structured journey.

And of course, what is the fourth one? Well, this is the exciting one. This is the evidence. Number four is evidence. We will get evidence. And there's something I need to tell you about this. 90% of what you see, maybe even 99% is not going to make sense to you. When we are reading for someone else, even when we're reading for ourselves, sometimes it doesn't make sense.

When we are getting a random name or we're seeing this face that we've never seen before or we're getting numbers or we're seeing a horse or how would this make sense to us because we are tuning into somebody else's energy or our guides, our spirit teams are trying to show us something that we require guidance with. Now, when it comes to evidence, this is when I personally like my pen and paper. This is when I like my structure. I write down everything that's coming through. Even if I've been sitting in meditation, I come out of it. I write everything down and it looks very random.

So this is when you want to throw perfectionitis out the window because if it doesn't make sense now, it will make sense in the future. Evidential mediumship gives us the confidence. It gives us the clarity. It makes us feel regulated. And we've got a structure. Okay, take a nice deep breath because the next thing we're going to get on to is the five stage development path.

So, you're definitely going to want a piece of paper and pen. And feel free to pause the video, take notes, and then push play again. Number one, the awakening. Now, I'm guessing if you're watching this video, you've probably been through an awakening or maybe 10, but usually there's a big bang awakening. Unless you've been brought up with this because you had a very spiritual parent or caregiver. Now awakenings don't have to be so big and so dramatic.

They can be small and more subtle. Okay. So the second development stage is doubt. Now you are here to feel the doubt and feel the fear because it's here to serve you. And it's you that can actually self soothe yourself. This is what I did. I got a piece of paper and I wrote at the top of my piece of paper. I always have a piece of paper and a pencil and I wrote, "What do I truly believe?" Or you could do, "What am I afraid of?" And you write everything down.

And the coolest thing is is you can go through and go, "Is this true? Is this true? Is this true?" And what you'll find is amazing. When you're coming from your very own clear mind, when you're coming from this regulated space, you will find that you've been told a lot of things to believe. So, how do you know it's true? So doubt is healthy. You need to doubt because you need to discern.

You've got to use your own mind, but mostly listen to what your human body is telling you. A contracted feeling is going to be like, "Oh, no." You know that no feeling, right? If somebody calls you by a different name or says, "Do you want to come out and do this?" And you're like, "Oh, no." Like it's a shrinking, contracting feeling. But a yes, heart space expansion, like I said before, makes you feel so warm and fuzzy like you're floating on a cloud. Now, of course, there is also the resistance feeling. Resistance is when you feel like, oh, someone goes, hey, here's the stage.

I'm giving you the platform. You might have resistance, but maybe you really want to get on that stage. Maybe you really want to get on there and share with the world. But of course, it's a skill set. It's a confidence thing. What if I get completely rejected because I'm changing my belief system. So I sat there and I felt into my very own truth and I came up with that theory.

If I follow love, then how can I get it wrong? And this is my key to discernment. Your brain has been programmed. So, what I invite you to do, and I'm going to teach this to you in the series, is to literally come down into your heart and expand and expand and expand and expand rather than trying to make everything finite and crunched in and solid and dense. When we expand and we come from our heart, the sky is not even the limit. So, we can just literally go, okay, doubt, I see you.

Okay, fear, thank you, my friend. And shake its hand and go, "Is there something I need to be afraid of here? Or is this Hollywood? Is this what I've been told?" And here's the biggest thing you need to understand when it comes to doubt and fear. Are you the strongest entity in your reality? Are you? Cuz I know now I am. You are your own protection by holding yourself deeply.

And there's quite a few different ways that we do this. And energetic boundaries is one of them. Boundaries and standards. Understanding what you're available for. If you've got loose boundaries with humans in your life around you and in your relationships, you're probably going to have loose boundaries with spirit. So, the standards and the boundaries is something that I work on before I even get people to do readings.

One of the other things when it comes to structure and your development is practicing because every day I'm pulling cards for myself. Every day. I might be journaling or I might be pulling a card for someone else or I might be tuning in or I might be serving like doing a YouTube video. Every day, at the very, very least, I'm checking in with my guides and my loved ones in spirit and just saying and doing a little prayer or setting an intention. Okay. Number four, discernment.

Discernment is your safety. And this is why I really drill in about the regulation, about the clarity, about the safety, the protection, if you will. Discernment is not about trying to give people the evidence. Discernment is about saying no, being brave enough to say no. And not just kind of, people go, "Oh, can you give me a reading?" And quite often I'm like, well, no, it's it's not the time and space to do that or I'm not feeling like it's correct. Or discernment is about going, "No, I don't want to talk to that spirit that I feel that is coming in." Now, your work hours with spirit is up to you.

Maybe 12:00 at night is the perfect time for you to practice your mediumship. For me, no, I'll be sleeping. So discernment is super important so you can actually be the best medium you can possibly be. Number five, this may surprise you. Mastery and integration. Mediumship is not just a skill that I have. It is who I be. Talking to a spirit guide, pulling out my cards, doing the everyday practices is my normal.

Talking to my children about what they are sensing or seeing or my friends has become an absolute normal reality for me. Therefore, I attract more of that continuously. Yes, I'm going to come across people with different belief systems. That's totally okay. I'm open for all belief systems. I accept everybody for what they believe. It's none of my business what anyone believes.

And it's nobody else's business what I believe truly and honestly. Of course, we have different connections with different people. So, of course, having this mastery and integration is super important because we can discern, we can protect ourselves, we can hold ourselves, but being professional, being intentional, being calm, and being heart led, not closing up and going, "Will they reject me?" This is being in your own power, being integrated. The mastery of you is about being in your power. It's not about trying to reach your higher self. It's not about trying to like get outside of yourself.

It's not about thinking yourself psychic or conscious. I promise you, if you look at these five steps that we've just been through, you're creating a space. If you can sense and feel, then you can sense and feel others around you because you truly are not solid in any form. If you can stay the course and keep learning and growing, applying and taking action, okay, action is really, really important, you will grow. If you stop trying to micromanage and control how your mediumship looks, you will be open to possibilities that you can only imagine. If you are still watching this, you are here for this. It is meant for you.