How to prepare for mediumship: clear your fear before you connect

Welcome to day one of the Mastering Mediumship masterclass. I am human in a body, so I do mess up sometimes, as do we all, and it's really important to acknowledge this as a medium. Today we are going to be talking about preparing to be a medium. We're digging into the cycles, deep, deep cycles, and also playing with energy. There's a few things that we require to go through before we actually start doing mediumship.

This is all a collective. This is all about all of us being here together. I couldn't prepare this class a week ago. It wasn't channelling through then. What happened was it channelled through about fifteen minutes ago, because I was actually sitting there tuning into who was going to come to this class, so I could create it around the people that were coming.

The first thing I want you to understand is mediumship has all got to do with energy. It has got nothing to do with our mind or our brain. The only thing that we use our brain and our mind for is putting the pieces of the puzzle together, like charades. If we think about things too much, it gets all muddly and confused, and we go, I'm not a medium, I'm not this, I'm not that. You guys will know exactly what I'm talking about, because you have human brains and you have been conditioned.

I am Victoria Bond. I am a psychic medium. I'm also a coach, a mum, a wife, a friend, a sister. I am many different things, as are you, because we are many different things. We are also many different energies. Unless you are willing to own all of who you are, you can't be the best medium. You can't be the best anything, because you're hiding half of who you are. You all have the ability to be anything that you choose to be. You have total choice.

Some people might just think, I'm just Mum, I'm just a crazy daughter. My parents think I'm hilariously crazy. To other people I'm their coach or I'm their medium. Different things to different people, and so are you. So I'm going to ask you to drop all of your barriers now and come in with fresh eyes. Come in without the attachments of the past on what you think mediumship is. Consciousness is everything, and knowing that you have total choice gives you the control back, and the power.

So what is a great medium? There are many types of mediums. There are people who are probably mediums who are using their own insecurities to keep you small. They might do tarot, and there's nothing wrong with tarot, I love tarot, but they might say, break up with your partner. Any medium that tells you what to do is not a great medium, in my experience. And that is because, what if you were already functioning from a higher consciousness and you had bigger dreams than they ever had? They can only use their own experience to go off. So if you've gone to a medium who's playing small, then maybe they can't see the possibilities that you see.

I'm here to show people that they all have their own unique gift, and that there are no limits to what we can create with our lives. I've had mediums limit me, and I've seen a lot of people limit their lives because of what a medium told them. You may have gone, oh my goodness, the medium told me I was going to meet the man with the blonde hair, and then a beautiful hottie walks past you with dark hair and you're like, that's not the one. But what if that person was ten times better and it was your soulmate, and you went, goodbye, the medium told me so? So where have we given away our own power to mediums in the past?

When I ask you questions like this, I just want you to ask yourself, does it feel light and expansive, or does it feel heavy? Do you get a yes or do you get a no? Because I've already asked you to think bigger, bigger than what you have been taught to think, beyond what you think this life is, and start tapping into what it really is. Start to create your own reality. Not Mum's, not Dad's, not Grandma's, not your friends'. Create your own, which will look different, because we are all different.

A great medium acknowledges themselves as energy, because we are energy. A great medium knows that there's no difference between them and Spirit, apart from the fact that we have a body. So high five to all the human beings here. We've got a body. Hallelujah. We can dance, we can play, we can laugh, we can run, we can feel. How many of us are not acknowledging how extraordinary this suit that we're in is? This body gives you indications of what Spirit is trying to tell you.

If your body died right now, you'd still have your spirit. You'd still be a person, you just wouldn't be in a body. A great medium knows that, and that's why the fear is taken away. Too many of us see Spirit up here on a pedestal. Oh my God, a spirit's talking to me and it's three o'clock in the morning, so I must stay awake all night long. That's called loose boundaries. You, in your own right, are a fantastic medium, a fantastic spirit, a fantastic being, and you have a soul. Spirits don't have a body, so they don't go into doubting themselves.

So being a good medium means knowing that there is nothing to fear, and being aware of energy. I want to talk about fear. Does anyone fear Spirit? Fear seeing them, fear hearing them, or fear what is going to happen if they open this huge portal of mediumship? Where does this come from? It comes from what I talked about before, the mind. As a teenager I watched things like The Ring. How scary is The Ring? It is next level scary. And being brought up a Catholic girl, I was all like, oh dear Lord, imagining all of the scary things.

But there's nothing to fear. The fear has come from the conditioning that has been put on us. Now, what is conditioning? Conditioning is people telling us things. Watch out, the devil's on your back. That one still actually gets me. Why do we align to this conditioning? Because we're young and we don't know any different, and we think that older people are wiser and we've got to listen to them. And because we are brought up in this reality of drama. We connect over drama. Talking to Spirit isn't actually that dramatic. Talking to Spirit is talking to energy, and if you acknowledge that you're not just this body, that you're a being and that you are energy, you can connect to them very easily.

The truth of the matter is we're all going to have a different experience with it. My experience started a few years ago. All of a sudden Spirit started talking to me, so you can imagine, I thought I was crazy. I was seeing feathers and wings and angels, and they're talking to me. I can't sleep, my ears were popping. So these are some of the signs. I can see static, and right now I can see quite a lot of static. I can barely see your faces, because I'm tapping into your energies, not what you look like.

What happened was I started noticing these signs from a girl from school. She was an acquaintance, and we lived in this gorgeous little town in New Zealand. She had died, but she kept coming to me, and I thought, this is weird, because we weren't great friends at school, so why the heck would she be coming to me now? I truly believe that she brought us all together. It was after a whole year of her smacking me in the face with butterflies and feathers, to the point where everywhere I looked I was like, butterfly, butterfly, butterfly. And then pink, because pink was her colour, and wings and angel songs. Tons of signs and synchronicities, so much so that I was starting to talk out loud and going, what do you want?

She needed to get my attention. So I finally took the plunge, and I said, right, okay, I will contact your mum. And I don't take this lightly, because her mum lost her daughter. This is big stuff. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. So I got her mum to come over, and I opened my mouth and all this channel came out, and all of a sudden I realised that I was feeling what she was feeling. I had tears coming through my eyes, saying these things that I could not have possibly known.

Every shop I went to, there were these little tiny angels, and they'd pop out at me. Have you ever been in a shop and a book just popped out, and you're like, I've got to buy that? This happened about twenty eight times, and I was like, oh my God, Spirit is making me buy something here. So I gave her mum a little present, a little angel, and her mum burst out crying for the first time, and she said, this means everything to me. Now I don't know exactly what that meant to her, but that is what mediumship is.

Ninety percent of the stuff we say, we don't know what we are actually saying. Of course we can hear the words, but we don't know what we're saying, because it's really not for us. We're a part of the thing, but how am I going to read from my head? I'm not. I'm going to channel through information, and I'm going to trust and surrender. So Spirit can come through in the physical. How many of you give someone a present just because, and you don't know why, but it was calling for them? How do you know it wasn't their grandma giving a present, or their sister?

I had red roses all day long in my head. I was messaging people, saying, the red rose is looking at me, I wonder if this belongs to you, and they said, yes, that's my grandma. And my husband came in that day and gave me a red rose. He never does that, but it was poking out from the fence. He didn't know that I'd been talking about red roses and Spirit all day. Interestingly enough, that red rose belonged to two people with two grandmothers, because Spirit does not work just in solid forms. When we are functioning from energy, one thing can mean two or three or four. When I pull a card for one person, someone else might say, that resonates with me, because we are all connected. We are all one. We are this collective energy.

If we can understand what energy really is, and how to tap into that from our being, not our mind, from our being, not just our body, and from our soul, not just our spirit, so much more can occur beyond this reality. I'm truly just channelling this with a couple of notes. When I was having my spiritual awakening, I turned off the TV. I couldn't handle too much noise. I had no TV on, no radio on, and I just wanted to be alone, because I was so empathic. I couldn't walk past someone without feeling every energy. You just know their energy, and then all of a sudden you're like, am I having issues with my husband? Because we make everybody else's stuff ours, because we're not this small. We're huge, really, really huge.

A great medium asks questions and acknowledges their gifts, and the person who you're reading for, and Spirit. How many times have you had readings before, and you've worn very plain clothes and hidden your rings, so they can't read your body language? I used to be that girl. I used to go, Father, Son and Holy Spirit, Hail Mary, full of grace, and put my rosary beads in my pocket and go, oh, I hope the devil doesn't jump on my back this time, I'm going into the crystal shop. But I couldn't stop myself, because I was so intrigued.

So how many of us have done that, and we've been in fear, going, what are they going to tell me? And then taking their word as gospel, and we've sat there and waited for all that stuff to happen, while we're actually missing all the other millions of possibilities around us, because we're trying to function from the external, from what somebody else is telling us, rather than what we already know. A medium can give you pointers on what you require. They can tell you what you can come in and shift energetically. They can say, maybe just keep an eye out around here and watch your energy around here. But they've got to keep it open.

We've got this idea that to be a medium you have to talk to dead people, and that you're born with a gift and you've been seeing Spirit since you were two years old. There are platform mediums, and they do see very clearly. It doesn't mean that we're not mediums. If you think about it, you've got the All Blacks and the netball players, and they're really, really good at what they do, but it doesn't mean that we don't go play netball for fun. So we are all mediums, but we seem to put the separation between what a medium is and what a medium isn't. It's really about understanding what a medium is to you, and cleaning up your fear, so then you can step into it.

A great medium is conscious, and is always working on their consciousness. They do not judge. There are things I used to judge when I was religious. I have no judgment of stuff like that anymore, because I'm here to serve with love. It's really important as a medium to always come from an expanded consciousness and not a judgment, because a judgment will make everything solid and dense. A judgment gives you tunnel vision.

Where have we been brought up and told that a baby is born a sinner? Let me know if this triggers you, and let me know if this resonates with you, because I was told that as a baby you weren't born pure, you were a sinner. I don't care how old you are listening to this. How many of you think that you are a sinner, and how many of you think that you are not worthy because of what you have chosen and the experiences that you've had? We have all done stuff that we're not proud of. But does that make you a sinner, or does that make you experienced? Our purpose is to experience life in all of its forms.

So why am I bringing this up? Because the first thing I want to share with you is to prepare yourself. I know that I'm a medium, and I know I'm here for great things, huge things. So the first thing I had to do was clean up my own junk. What does cleaning up and preparing mean? It means cleaning up your blocks. Your blocks are the fear. Acknowledging it is the first step, because you can see it, and then all of a sudden this shadow goes and you can get the information. Then you can realise, okay, why is this a mistaken belief?

It's very important to be able to clear up your stuff fast and move on. A lot of my mediums cry. I cry. You wouldn't think so, I'm pretty tough, I'm a very dominant energy. It is the strongest, bravest thing you can do, to cry or laugh, to bring it out. You can clean it up so much faster than holding on to it for fifty, sixty, seventy years. Why do you think so many people in their seventies and eighties all of a sudden are conscious and awake? Because it took them that many years to clean it up, because they weren't aware of it.

So anyone who goes, yeah, I'm in a bit of fear, it means that you can see it, and you've brought it into your consciousness, and you can clean it up. So preparing means cleaning up and releasing your blocks, getting efficient at doing this regularly. I do this daily. I go to the beach, I journal, and I basically pray. Now I don't pray to a man God. I just believe it's this higher consciousness, and I love tapping into that. And knowing your guides, and the energy of your guides, and knowing how to set intention and being strong with that.

How can you believe that it's really your guides, or that you're really giving a great reading, even though most of it doesn't make any sense to you? How can I trust that you're understanding anything I'm saying? I can't. I'm just trusting that the channel is coming through pure, and that whoever needs it will get whatever they require. So preparing, and making sure you're a clean, pure energy when it comes to your mediumship, is amazing. If you're prepared, it means you're strong. You are stronger than you're knowing, and you are functioning from consciousness. Being a medium is being an awareness of everything.

Nothing is stronger than you. Nothing. So Spirit aren't up here on a pedestal. They're just Spirit. If I died, I wouldn't want anyone to go, oh, hail Victoria, she's so much greater than me. I'm just me, and I just want to share my gifts. My Mum probably does a lot of prayer for me at church, and I say, bring it on, Mum, thank you, I'll take prayers. If everything comes from love and no fear, then I believe it is a contribution, whatever it may be.

Digging deep around our cycles is really important. If you want to be a medium, you've got to get really real about yourself and take full responsibility. We all have shadows. Digging deep around any trauma and being able to bring that up in a safe space is massive when it comes to being a medium, because you are going to use your experiences to help others. Spirit will show you feelings as well. You can see, you can hear, you can know, you can probably smell. I've been smelling things like my granddad. All these different senses happen, and it changes and morphs all the time as you're growing in your mediumship. But if you've got a whole lot of baggage that you don't want to look at, there's only so far you can go in your mediumship.

Knowing your guides, too. I don't want to make it too solid or dense. Some people go, I've got this guide and he looks like this and his name is this, and I've done all that before as well, but now I'm like, okay, they swap and they change, and I've got way more than one. I was having a session with an osteo, and I was in my feminine energy, allowing myself to receive. I saw a six foot being, and then I felt my team of guides around me. I was speechless, and it's not very often that I'm speechless. I realised she's not working alone. So whether you're a beauty therapist, a hairdresser, a massage therapist, a medium or a coach, you are a channel. You are a medium already.

So the shadow self, how do we deal with this? We journal, we do breath work, we allow ourselves to release by crying. To round out everything we've talked about: being conscious, tapping into energy, and preparing. Preparing means cleaning up your own stuff, cleaning out your aura, cleaning up any trauma as it comes up. We can't get through all of it in one hour. But if you fear Spirit, I would actually go to your journal. My journal is always by my bed, and I would write, why do I fear Spirit? What is my point of view on Spirit?

Spirit is a person with no body. That's what Spirit is. I look at Spirit through walls. I don't see them literally solid in my room. I get my eyes shut and see Spirit to my left, at the back. You can't do that functioning from your normal eyes or your normal body. You have to do that from your being. So preparing yourself means, for me, I cleaned my room. My room is tidy and clear so I can be a clean channel, so I don't get distracted. The first thing I do is say, go clean your house, go clean your car, go clear your wardrobe and get rid of the old so you can bring in the new. And when your trauma comes up, it's okay to release it, to honour yourself, to do whatever it takes, even if it's taking three days off work to be with yourself.

Now I want to do a deep meditation to prepare you and to activate you, to turn on your body and to allow you to receive. Mediumship, we want to raise our frequency and our vibration. That means the old has to go, so I'm going to invite you now to release the old. Close your eyes. Take a nice deep breath in through your nose and fill up your belly. Hold it for the count of four, and release out your mouth, bringing yourself down into relaxation. Breathing in again through your nose. Hold it. Palms up, willing and ready to receive, and breathing out. One more time, in through your nose, hold it, and breathing out. Bring your body down into relaxation, feeling your feet on the ground.

Feel your heart centre. Feel the middle of your heart centre and acknowledge your being, your being that is with your body. Spread that beautiful warm feeling from your heart throughout your entire body, and glow that feeling up to make it the brightest, whitest light, a bright white light throughout your entire body. On your next breath out, expand that white light into your aura, so you're in a glowing cocoon. On the next breath out, fill up the room with white light.

Drop all your barriers again. Drop them down, drop them down. You're in a safe place. You're safe. Expand your energy to fill up the town that you're in, the city, the country, around the world and all the way out to the universe. Expanding, expanding, expanding. If you feel like you don't know what you're doing, it's okay, because you don't need to think this. Just do it. Dropping your barriers, feeling your body, acknowledging how big you truly are beyond the body. You don't need anybody else but yourself. You are the strongest entity in your reality. You are in fear of nothing. You are aware of everything.

Dropping any judgment of what you think mediumship is. Visualise from your heart a billion sparkles going from your heart centre, out a million miles in every single direction, shining your light as bright as you are. There's no more hiding, my friends. You are here on purpose. You are no accident. Visualising a white light coming from Source, from the divine, all the way down through the top of your head, activating your purpose, activating your heart, and allowing yourself to be whatever you're choosing to be in this lifetime. That white light goes down the back of your legs and through your feet into the centre of the earth.

Now say it with me. I am a magnificent medium, and I do things the way I choose. I am a magnificent medium. I embrace my unique power. I am a magnificent medium, and I don't need to know how anyone else does it, because I already know. Lastly, feel the love for yourself. You can hug yourself, you can touch your face, your hands, your heart. Acknowledge your beautiful self, and be grateful for you. Out of the millions and billions of people on the Earth, there is no one like you. You are unique. You are here on purpose.

Everything you have done has been perfect up until this moment, and now you get to leap and change and choose more. Dropping all of the mistaken beliefs, let it all melt off you into the earth. Be who you want to be. Release what you need to release. Let the angels and your guides help to clean you up. Mediumship mastery is all about coming back to who you truly be, and you are perfect, and you are divine. Breathe in through your nose, bring a whole lot of oxygen into that belly, and breathe it out. When you're ready, wriggle your fingers and your toes, and bring yourself back. No more hustling, no more over giving, no more trying so hard. It's time for you to turn up the volume of you.