How to tell your mind from Spirit: 4 tells to trust what you receive

You felt something. A thought just popped in. A wave of emotion or feeling just came through your body. You had a knowing that was deep in your bones. Within a second of this experience, you had a voice in your head that told you, you're just making this up. This voice has stopped more people than we even know from developing their very own gifts, their unique abilities that are sitting there waiting to be developed. The voice is stopping people even more than fear is.

What is actually coming in from an intuitive perspective, a psychic perspective? And what actually is our mind? Is the voice our mind, or is the voice our psychic? In this video, there are four main tells that I'm going to share with you, so you're going to be able to distinguish the difference, and we're going to do a demonstration together so you can actually get some evidence of what is real and what is not. This is going to help you with your spiritual development, your psychic abilities and your channelling, because discernment is absolutely key.

If you're anything like me, and you question everything, but you go to the extreme and you start talking yourself out of your own greatness, this video is for you. Two years I did this with one spirit. And the interesting thing is, when I started to listen to what she was saying, and started taking notes, and I stopped talking myself out of my own genius, I was able to give messages. I was able to help heal different parts of her relationship with her family. It was phenomenal. I wouldn't have been able to do that if I'd got in my own way any longer. Two years was more than enough.

Now I want to make this a little bit more relatable, because not everybody can relate to a spirit talking to them. Another thing that has happened to me my whole life, and I dismissed it as coincidence, is I would have a dream about a friend, or I would have a feeling, an emotion, about somebody. They're smiling and they're talking to me, and then a few days later they're like, oh my god, I'm having a really hard time. And it's like, oh, I kind of knew that, because I felt so much emotion when you were talking to me, but you looked totally fine. Or I had a Spidey radar about someone who I thought had my best interest at heart, and you're like, oh my god, why didn't I listen to that intuitive drop in?

Having a little worry about my daughter. I'm cooking dinner, and all of a sudden I'm like, I'm really worried about my daughter. And then she comes inside, and a dog had bitten her, and I was like, oh my god, I knew something had happened. These are the everyday occurrences, the normal things, the intuition that we all have, that we quite often just dismiss, because in the second we thought it, we thought we are making this up.

There's a different texture between a dream that's kind of warped and weird, the subconscious, what you were watching and the busy monkey mind kind of dream, and the dream where you're like, I feel like I'm actually with you, having a coffee date. I had a dream continuously about a friend, three or four nights in a row, and in these dreams I just felt, oh my god, I've got to reach out to her. So I messaged her and said, are you okay? I knew I had to reach out to my friend because of the dreams I had about her, reoccurring. The truth is we pass off intuitive downloads, thoughts, feelings and knowing as coincidences, as everyday occurrences. But it's just not true. It is how we are meant to live, and it is fantastical. That's why we're like, oh my god, I was dreaming about you, and then you messaged me. It happens all the time.

The truth that nobody explains is there's two different things. There is the mind, but then there's also the reception, and the funny thing about it is they feel so similar. So no wonder we get confused. If I was going to give you an example, it's like fear and excitement. They're the same vibration and frequency. Am I excited, or am I anxious? They're very similar. They're quite a heightened vibration. So thought and reception can be similar as well. And the little tricky thing is, the mind comes in and starts analysing it. That's why I said, when you give it a second, you start going, oh, did I make that up? And that voice comes in.

So one is your mind, your thinking, overprotective, intelligent, sometimes overanalysing mind. And the other one is being receptive to information around you, just like all the examples that I've given, and this is coming through you, not from you. It is a quiet signal. It is the quietness, the subtleness, the power and the strength underneath the noise. Once you understand the difference, everything changes, because you realise there's a quietness, a humbleness, a strength, versus the monkey mind, which is more analytical. Once you distinguish the difference, it's really impossible to go back into confusion. But first of all, you've got to be able to see it.

If you've ever met identical twins, if you're best friends with identical twins, they look completely different to you. You don't get confused. But to begin with, you're like, you're twins, you look absolutely the same, I cannot tell the difference. Why can you tell the difference between identical twins? Because they've got different energies. They've got different auras. They've got different conditioning and different gifts. Your mind and what you receive can be seen as similar, but when you look closer you'll realise one is signal and one is noise, and that is the difference.

So, into the four tells that I promised you. The first one is effort. When you are thinking too hard and you start trying to find the answers. I see this happen all the time when people are doing readings. They take too long because they're trying to think themselves psychic. That there is the mind. But if it comes effortlessly, almost too easy, this is you channelling the information through you, not from you. I want to keep that really simple so I don't confuse you. If you're thinking too hard and you're searching for something, there is the mind.

If it just arrived, just like the time I saw Santa in my mind when my friend asked me to do a reading for her. I started going into my mind. I saw Santa, and then I started going, does he have a white beard? Does he like the colour red? And I'm asking these questions, and she's going, no, no, no, no. And then eventually I said, look, mate, I just see Santa. And then she was like, that's it, that's it. Do you get what I mean? If I just said, oh, hello, Santa, and said it, it seemed too easy. But it was quiet and so easy. It was when I started searching and trying to grab information external that I was getting all the nos. But the easy and the effortless was the yes. So that is the first tell: are you reaching, is it effort, or is it effortless, that comes in an image, a feeling, a knowing or a thought?

So the first practice here is, I want you to have your feet on the ground. You can just keep your eyes open. This is just a nice little quickie. Feel your feet on the ground, nice and centred. Maybe this is just pausing. Maybe you're doing the dishes or something right now. Whatever you're doing, just notice your feet on the floor. That's all you need to do to ground down. Now, where in your life did you have a thought, a knowing or a dream, maybe a sense, a feeling in your body of emotions, and that came into fruition? It was easy. It was effortless. And what is my point here? You didn't sit there trying to tune in to a crystal ball, trying to see what was going on. It was effortless. In fact, it was so effortless you didn't even know it was going to come until it came.

Tell two: whose voice is it? I remember when I went to do my first reading. I was absolutely petrified, freaking out. I held a deck of cards, and I literally heard a voice that said, put down your cards. How did I know that it wasn't my voice? Because it was in my voice. It sounded like me. It was in my head. How did I know it wasn't? Because it was instant. Put down the cards. If it was my mind, I would have been asking questions. I would have gone, should I be using these cards? I don't know if I should use the cards. Maybe these cards aren't the best type of cards. But you wanted to do a card reading, so why don't you do a card reading? Okay, Victoria, just stick with what you were going to do. I would have gone into a conversation in my head.

Maybe it wouldn't be that intense, but there would have been a buildup of conversation. Where when it's coming through you and not of you, it's instant. It's like it's instantly dropped in and filtered through. It was quiet. Put down the cards. That is the tell: whose voice is it anyway? If it's calm, if it's signal, if it's quiet, it is a voice coming from something in a high vibrational frequency. If it is backwards and forwards, dictating do this or don't do this, or monkey mind, or has a charge to it, it is definitely coming from the mind.

So let's just keep it real for a minute. Sometimes a shiver is that we're cold. It's a human body thing. Goosebumps can be that we're cold as well. Sometimes a feather is just a feather. A floating leaf is just a leaf. Sometimes sadness is because we are going through something, or maybe we are grieving and it's like a little wave of grief. It's not always Spirit. I say that to you because often we are bypassing Spirit, but sometimes we're reading too much into things, and this is where the mind comes in again. The first thing I want to say is, is it signal or is it noise? Have I been overthinking and overanalysing?

The third tell, and this is the quiet tell. Signal is quiet. Ego and mind is loud. I've already made this point, but I wanted to really anchor it in, because I notice in my everyday life, if I want to be right about something, it seems to be kind of loud. And if I seem to be getting charged up about something, I will pretty quickly acknowledge, oh, I'm coming from my ego. I'm not coming from my all knowing soul. Because the all knowing soul and Spirit does not push or try to prove or try to convince. Full stop.

So if you've been saying, I've got a guide that's been telling me this and this and this, dictating, or my guide has been quite pushy, or my guide won't shut up and is so loud, I'm like, honey, that might be your mind. I don't say that to make people feel bad about their experiences. It's really important to understand how we communicate. If it's loud, if it's charged, if it's dictating or bossy or demanding, that is of the mind. If it is subtle and lands in a random image, like Santa, or a random thought, like put down the cards, or maybe a feeling that overcomes you and you're like, I just feel kind of sad.

In my first few dozen readings, I would feel so emotional when I was connecting in to the sitter, the person I was reading for, whether they were in person with me or online. And then I realised it wasn't a loudness. It wasn't pushy. That is what I did when I connected, because I was feeling Spirit. I know it's not mine. But when I'm trying to prove or convince and get a really good message, and I start thinking, I've lost the channel. It's very, very important that we aren't going with the noise, or the proving, or the persuading. That there is the ego. Ego is not a bad thing, by the way. But when we're trying to read, we don't want to be coming from ego. We want to be coming from heart and space and truth. It is subtle and it is quiet and it lands beautifully. And here's a hot tip: most of the time, it doesn't mean anything to us.

Tell four: slow down to speed up. Here is a tip. Spirit is fast and we are quite slow, but we have to slow down, and we've got to ask Spirit to meet us where we're at. A bit of a paradox, but stay with me. When it's our mind, we are expecting a full picture. Is my nana there? We often are expecting to see the full nana, from head to toe, talking to us just like we can see them in real life, giving us a message. That's what we expect, because that's what we see in our everyday human life. But Spirit, although Spirit is super, super fast, they show us in segments, bit by bit by bit by bit.

What I noticed with my mediumship, and remember, we all do mediumship differently. This is what I'm trying to teach here, that we are all so uniquely different, but we're all mediums. Like I always say, everyone is a medium. I would be like, oh, a grandmother energy. That would come in a feeling, a very subtle feeling, or I would have a little thought of my grandma. How do I know that it's not my grandma? Because I'm reading for another person, so everything that's coming through is for the other person. It's a subtle energy, and usually you feel your heart warm, because they're coming in with love. And then I always see the hair.

I've done so many readings where I'm like, so I'm seeing grey hair. Oh, I'm seeing hair on the sides. Was there a comb over? I'm seeing dark curly hair. And if it's a nana, at first I was like, oh my goodness, every time I'm reading I'm seeing this nana hair, because everyone seems to have the same kind of perm, or the set going back, and a slight tinge of purple. I realised all these nanas were showing me their hair. Fine, sparse hair, or thick dark hair, all these different things. So they would show me an image of their hair, not everything. And then I'd be like, hmm, okay, I wonder how tall you are. I wonder what clothes you wore. And I'm asking these questions, and the images come little bit by little bit by little bit, and next minute I'm seeing nearly a full image.

What I want to really share with you right now is, it's subtle. I'm always talking about these big experiences, and yes, we do have big, huge experiences, and they are fantastical, and you have them as well, until we talk ourselves out of the greatness. But it's subtle. It lands, and then it lands, and it lands, and it lands. The next minute, I'm like, oh yeah, I talked to somebody's grandmother who had curly hair, and she had this knitting bag, and she loved to have pies, and people go, whoa, that's so fantastical. It didn't happen instantly. Spirit is fast. We ask them to slow down, and we actually have to slow down the mind, but we have to speed up the reception. You don't need to remember all of that. Your spirit already knows.

The truth is, if you are very loud in your mind, you may be missing the signals. You may be missing what is filtering through when it comes to Spirit, or your intuition, or your guides coming through. So it's really important to ground down and to come into your heart. I also want to preframe. Quite often when people start to work with me and I'm inviting them to come inward, there can be a little bit of resistance. But when it comes to being psychic, intuitive, being a channel, living this way, you need to understand that all of this is an inside job. It's not an external grabbing. You can't succeed as a medium from intellect. You can understand it. It doesn't mean you're great at it. You have to experience it.

A lot of people say, I can't meditate. It's because you're in your intelligent mind and you're busy, and you haven't created the space to meditate. That's why a lot of people get sleepy with my voice, because I speak through a language that is relaxing to the nervous system. When we calm down, when we come inward, we come from the space of intuition, not from noise. I've got to get this right. I can't meditate. I don't know how to read. What if I get it wrong? I don't want to get embarrassed. I don't want to prove that I'm a fraud. Honestly, we have thousands and thousands of thoughts. Of course you're going to have fraudulent thoughts. But when you meditate, the whole point is to come through your heart filter, not through the filter of your mind.

So we're going to do the practice now. Find a space where you will not be disturbed for the next few minutes. You're going to be closing your eyes down, so if you are driving, please come back to this later. Put your feet on the ground and feel your feet on the ground. Feel the roots coming from your feet, anchoring into the earth and around the earth. Really anchor yourself. Close your eyes down and take a nice deep breath into your chest and into your belly. Breathe out slowly out your mouth, like you're breathing out through a straw. And again, breathing in through your nose, filling up your belly, filling up your chest. Hold at the top, third eye gaze, just for a moment, and now breathe out like you're breathing out through a straw. One more time. You'll notice that your collarbone will lift a little bit. Third eye gaze for a moment, and now breathing out long and slow. Beautiful. Calming that nervous system down.

Your eyes are closed. Now drop your barriers down. This is all the protective mechanisms that you've put up during the day. Bring them down, down, down. You are safe, guided, loved and protected. Now I want you to energetically visualise dropping your head down into your heart and down through the floor. And again, dropping your head down into your heart, down through your body and into the floor. Visualising a white light coming from the cosmos all the way down through your body, cleaning and clearing and activating your vessel, right into the earth, and glow up the earth underneath your feet. Beautiful.

Now I want you to visualise a golden ball around you, probably at least three to four metres out, up and down and side to side. You are in one big golden ball. Breathing in gold, and now breathing out gold, filling up this bubble full of gold. You will notice that there is a door somewhere in this bubble. Maybe it's in front of you. Maybe it's above you, below you, to the side or behind. Find the door. Notice the door knob. Soon you're going to open this door, and when you open this door, there's going to be a loved one in Spirit, or maybe a guide, maybe even an animal spirit, that is going to be there for you. Don't think about it. Stay focused on your breath. Breathing in for the count of four, breathing out for the count of four. You may or may not see, but the point of this exercise is to feel.

You can now go over to that door and open it, or maybe it opens itself. A spirit is now stepping into your golden bubble. For the next few seconds, I want you to notice how you feel. I want you to notice the difference between how you felt before the door opened and the spirit walked in, and what you are feeling now. Beautiful. Now say your goodbyes to the spirit who has joined you in the golden bubble. Shut the door behind them, coming back to your very own energy, and ask all of that energy to leave with Spirit. You can remember how it felt. Maybe there was a thought. Maybe there was a vision. Maybe there was a knowing. Maybe it was the feeling that I invited you to explore.

Start bringing yourself back now to your body, from wherever you have drifted. Noticing what you can taste in your mouth, what you can smell through your nostrils, what you can hear with your ears, what you can see behind your eyelids. Wriggling your fingers and your toes. Three, two, one. Wide awake and energised. Welcome back. That was so much fun. Where was the door? Did you see the door? Did you just know the door was there? Maybe you got nothing. If you got nothing, please know that that is okay. We are simply working on the muscles. This is not a test.

Do you know who came through for you? Was it a guide? Was it a spirit animal? The whole point was to feel the difference between you, and then when we bring another energy in. Maybe you felt sadness, or excitement, or love, or compassion, or maybe you can't even explain what you felt, but you felt the difference. If you're like me, you have to do things quite a few times to go through the experience and actually acknowledge a difference. And this is okay as well. It's not one and done. This is building our muscles for spiritual development. Let me know what your experience was.