How Spirit talks to you (the signs and messages most people miss)

How Spirit talks to you, the signs and messages most people miss, and the one thing to do tonight so you stop missing them. From a regular mum who woke up to her gifts at 33.

Spirit is already talking to you. You are already receiving. You're most probably missing the subtle signs that Spirit is giving you every single day. Spirit is already guiding you.

How does Spirit talk to you? The truth is, spirit comes in whispers. In little nudges and in little flashes. Messages are usually felt within the body. Seeing spirit is usually in the imagination. Hearing can often be with your own voice. These subtleties have not been what we've been taught when it comes to Hollywood, when it comes to what we believe psychic mediumship is. Spirit is right here. You do not need to go chase spirit or go find spirit. Spirit is right here. You are spirit.

Maybe you don't need more signs. Maybe you need to understand the ones that you're already receiving. That is what this post is for. Her four ways, the feathers and songs and numbers and dreams, the body, your loved ones, and why the message goes messy on the way through.

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Is Spirit already talking to me?

Yes. And I know that because it was talking to me for years before I listened.

I was 33 years old, standing in the kitchen preparing dinner for my family. I'm looking out the window at the kids playing in my beautiful garden when I sensed something behind me. I sensed a warm feeling to my left and my ears started heating up. I felt tingles, like someone was walking on my grave. I turned around and there was no one there. I just passed it off as a coincidence, my great imagination, just being a little bit silly. And then it happened again. And I realized this was not a coincidence at all.

Nobody had warned me this would happen. Nobody told me at 33 years old, I would be going through an awakening. I had no idea what an awakening was, but it did.

I was a hairdresser for 18 years in a little town in New Zealand. And honestly, I was brought up Catholic. So around 33 years old, after my son, Christian, was born, ironic, I decided to put religion and the beliefs that I'd been taught and brought up with to the side and find my own way, meaning, what do I truly believe? And the reason I did this was because I had what I call my Big Bang Awakening. I was getting the songs looping, the buzzing in the ears, the numbers, the recurring numbers, as well as the feathers and the butterflies and all the things. And I thought, maybe I'm going crazy or maybe I am psychic.

I had a hair salon below my house. I had songs that would just would loop constantly for days on ends. I had mind chatter. I barely slept. And I just constantly was thinking about people that had actually passed away and a little bit confused on why I was thinking about those people. It's like they were trying to talk to me through my dreams and through my everyday life. I thought I was going a little bit batty and I even took myself to the doctors to say, hey, these these crazy things are happening to me. Only to be sent away to tell me there was nothing wrong with me.

It was years of my ears popping. And I even went to the doctor and I was like, I don't know, but I feel like there's water in my ear. I went and got some of those candles to burn because I was like, there's something wrong with my ears. The spirit was trying to talk to me. And as soon as I started listening, all of those symptoms went away.

It wasn't until I was pregnant with my son, my second child, Christian, and after I had him that I started putting two and two together that the signs and synchronicities, my dreams, the songs I was receiving in my head continuously was actually spirit trying to talk to me.

I truly thought I'd gone a little bit crazy. But the truth is, I had just forgotten my gifts.

If you have been experiencing things, you're not imagining it.

Why do most people miss the signs?

Because we are looking for the wrong thing. A feather. Landing. A one, one, one. A monarch butterfly. Not once that day, but everywhere you go. A name. A certain name constantly popping up. We deem them as coincidences. We see them as, oh, it's so subtle. It's just another coincidence. We want something loud and bold.

Here is a truth that changes everything. Spirit is not somewhere else yelling at us to receive their information. Spirit is not yelling from somewhere else. Spirit is whispering. But we are just not hearing them because we are waiting for the thing that is loud. It's not that we can't reach them. It's that we're not actually listening to the quiet whispers and how they're trying to connect with us.

It's kind of like we're looking for the lightning in the sky, but we miss the rumble, right? If you're looking for feathers that are connected to spirit, you may not notice the three butterflies that are flying straight past your eyes.

Your brain is filing it under junk

You are receiving information, and you're not blocked. You're receiving the information, but your brain is doing a great job at putting it in the junk pile, deemed not important, before it comes to your conscious awareness.

Spirit comes in and you notice it, and then your brain goes, put it into the junk pile. You were taught that at seven years old, somewhere between five and seven, you put it into the junk pile: not relevant, Mum and Dad won't approve, not how I'm going to be accepted into this family, for my survival. You've been doing it your whole life.

So the shift is small. This is your invitation to shift your perspective just by 1%, even the tiniest bit.

What are the four ways Spirit sends messages?

Names, dates, signs and feelings. That is the whole language, and you have already been spoken to in every one of them.

One. Names

A medium sees a name, a name that they could not possibly know. The whole room goes quiet and there's someone in the crowd that says, oh my goodness, that is the name of the person that I lost, that I was hoping would come through today.

I was doing a Facebook Live. On a Facebook Live, you can't see anybody's faces. You can see their names if they're commenting. And I was pulling some cards. I pulled a card for a lady. And it was her father that came through. I was just tuning into the feelings and the vibrations, remembering there's a lot of people in the audience. And I can't see this person. I don't know this person from a bar of soap. But I knew that there was a father energy here for her. And then a name popped in. Alma.

It happens in ordinary life too. You walked past somebody and you just knew something was off. Or maybe a name or person popped into your head only to find an hour later that person is on your newsfeed or has messaged you. We pass this off as coincidence.

Two. Dates

I would get a name pop in of someone that I knew who had passed. And I would then know to message the parents of that spirit. They happened to be my bosses and I love them. They were like second parents to me. And I'd message them and go, hey, how's it going? Thinking about you. And they used to say, Victoria always messages us on our children's anniversary, because they had two children that had passed over. I didn't know it was the anniversary.

And if names and dates are not coming to you yet, hear this. I remember not being able to get names. I remember not getting dates. I remember not getting anything significant to be able to hold on to. But when I realized that I had a mistaken belief, and that it was a story that I was telling myself, everything changed. Names started dropping in, as well as dates.

Three. Signs

The first one, you probably guessed it. Repetition. Repetition of numbers. Repetition of symbols, of songs, of seeing maybe the same red car going on by, or maybe a different type of bird. If something happens a few times and it's repetitive, it is a sign from spirit.

When something happens again and again, take note and ask, is this for the highest good of me? Is there a message here for me? Or do I need to let something go?

Four. Feelings

You were at the sink, or maybe you were walking up the stairs with a basket full of washing, or maybe you were driving in your car and there you felt it. A warm sense that your loved one and spirit was with you. As quick and fleeting as that was, so was the thought that came in and said, that's actually impossible.

Evidential mediumship comes in three forms. The emotional, the physical, and the mental. Feelings are the one we have been told to doubt the most, and they are the one that never lies. Your feelings don't lie. The senses on your body don't lie. The goosebumps don't lie.

What do feathers, songs, numbers and dreams mean?

They mean what they mean to you. But here is how each of them found me.

Feathers

Maybe you stopped for a moment to catch your breath on a walk and you see the feather. Maybe that song is playing again and you know that's them.

Maybe you're expecting a big feather rather than just a little simple sparrow feather. And maybe you're like, that can't be a sign because it's not big enough or bold enough or unique enough. You know that it's a sign because you just asked a question.

Songs

They talk to me in songs and lyrics, and it's emotional. One day I had a song, Don't Cry for Me Argentina. And then I realized that the message was for my friend, Tina.

If you have ear popping, if you have the high pitch sound or the songs, you can literally say stop. Thank you. I got it. Take a little note down. What is that song? What are the lyrics?

Numbers

Picture this, I'm 23 years old. I'm engaged, I've got a date for my wedding, the wedding dress, the bridesmaid dresses, the invitations, everything. And I have this gut feeling that I need to go do my own thing. The relationship is simply not working, not for a lack of love, not for a lack of trying. Being a good little Catholic girl, I did a lot of praying. I believed in angels and I believed that answers were going to come to me.

Every time I looked at my phone or the clock, there was one, one, one, one, one. Every time a car would go past me, it would seem to have one, one, one on the number plate. Everything seemed to have the sequence, one, one, one, one. Has this ever happened to you? When numbers have been reoccurring, or maybe it was another symbol, or maybe it was another sign, or a number, or a word, or whatever. This was crazy. And this gave me the confidence and the faith to end the relationship. The hardest thing that I ever had to do.

I didn't have any symbols apart from 1-1-1-1, which for me meant I was on the right track. I used it from 23 years old until nearly 43. And I realize it means something different for everybody. But that sign took me to all of the other signs that I needed. And now I've got my very own library.

Dreams

Maybe you're expecting your dreams to be colourful and bright, to give you full-blown evidence. But you don't really remember them. You just wake up with a residue of this warm heart and the person that you dreamt of.

I remember running up to my granddad. All of a sudden, I'm eight years old again in my dream. I run up to him and I jump in his lap and he's rocking me on his rocking chair. And I said, granddad, I don't want to go. And he goes, you've got to go. You can always come back. And I said, but I don't want to go because this is a dream. And I know that I'm not going to be able to access you again. And he said, Victoria, I'm always here.

I woke up and I felt sad because I knew that was my granddad. And it made me realize how much I missed him. Was it a dream? No, it was a visitation in a familiar place on his rocking chair when he did have a body. And he told me, I will always be here to calm you whenever you feel distressed.

Your own spirit dictionary

This took me a few years to develop because I was trying on other people's symbols. I'm like, what does a 333 mean? What does a 111 mean? And I realized that quite often people would say a monarch butterfly means that my grandma's around. And I'm like, to me, it means that a spirit called Emma is around. Wow, we've got different interpretations and perspectives. Therefore, we need our own system.

Create your own spirit dictionary. Your personal library of meaning built one entry at a time. You can borrow it. You can try on somebody else's pants. But eventually you'll just want to get your own.

How does Spirit talk through your body?

Your skin prickled. You got the goosebumps on your body. The hairs were standing up on end. Nothing changed in the room, but you had goosebumps and all of your hairs are standing up on end. No, you're not just tired. No, it's not just a spirit standing on your grave, because you're still alive.

There's no faces. There's no film behind your eyes. There's nothing popping in or sparking out of the corner. You just feel. And somewhere along the line, you decided that because you can't see, that means you are not a medium. Well, my love, you have got it all backwards.

Door one is all about feeling. This is clear sentience. This is actually my most powerful one. But it never used to be. I used to be able to feel nothing. Feeling comes natural to us because we are feeling, sensitive, empathic and compassionate human beings.

Here is what it feels like when it lands in your body. Every nudge, every flicker, every goosebump, every tingle, all of it, is proof. It is evidence that you are a spiritual being with superpowers.

The voice in your own voice

Your higher self, your future self, your guides and spirit are often talking in your very own voice. I remember when I went to do my first reading. I was absolutely petrified, freaking out. I held a deck of cards. And I heard a voice that said, put down the cards.

How did I know that it wasn't my voice? Because it was in my voice. It sounded like me. It was in my head. How did I know? It wasn't. Because it was instant. There's a charge to it. That charge is not spirit. Spirit doesn't have a charge. It is a subtlety. If it's loud, if it's charged, if it's dictating or bossy or demanding, that is of the mind. If it is subtle and lands in a random image like Santa or a random thought like put down the cards.

If you've been trying to feel spirit or feel another, and you've been feeling like you're blocked, you are trying too hard. So the little trick is: what am I sensing? How is my body feeling? What's going on with me and my body right now? Closing your eyes for 10 seconds to reset, noticing what you're tasting and what you're seeing behind your eyelids, or with your eyes open, what you're sensing on your skin, what you're smelling, what you're hearing, coming back to those five basic senses.

The truth is, we are feeling spirit and we are all intuitive. We are all psychic, but we have to tune in in our very own unique way.

What are my loved ones trying to say?

If you have ever whispered, are you there? If you've ever like lit a candle and on an anniversary or to think of a loved one that's passed and you've like felt a warmth or maybe you had a really vivid dream that night and you were thinking that did not feel like a dream. You are not alone.

You are spirit. Literally, you just happen to have a body. And spirit, our loved ones, just don't have a body anymore. Just because they have no body any longer doesn't mean that they are not feeling, right? Just because we have a body doesn't mean we're not spirit. Those that we love that have passed away, that are spirit and no longer have bodies, they are here too. We just need to tune into another frequency.

When your loved one comes through in spirit, they're not here to give you a dramatic reunion of everything they've been up to. They're not here to give you a grand structure and strategy for your life. They're coming through to give you a subtle message. And that is usually, I love you and I'm okay, and you're going to be okay too.

This isn't Hollywood. That does not happen very often. They're not coming through with massive big warnings or predictions. They're coming through in a subtle way to share how much they love you, that they're okay, and that you're going to be okay as well. More often than not they just want to say, I love you, I miss you, I'm proud of you, keep going. This is why I do what I do.

A mistake is thinking that spirit, a grandparent or a loved one, is just going to show up and go, hello, I'm okay and I love you, in our 3D form, maybe holographic, kind of transparent. That's just simply not how it works out for most of us.

Grief is still grief, and it is human. You can still keep a high frequency while grieving or feeling emotions because you're human. The point is not perfection. The point is consciousness.

The afterlife is not a particular place. It is a state of energy. And your loved ones are still loving you. They have not left you.

Why does the message get messy on the way through?

Maybe spirit is already communicating, but the messages are getting lost because it's messy. This is what we mean by distortion. It is messy. And the distortion is from our end, not spirits.

Your mind is a filter. Spirit gives you information. Then your conditioning says that's impossible. I'm not psychic. That's dangerous. I'll get it wrong. People will think I'm crazy. We filter.

This is what it looks like in the moment. You receive a little bit of goosebumps, a feeling, your heart starts opening, maybe you see a little flicker. And then as soon as that comes in, it disappears. Your mind comes in and goes, but what if I'm making this up? As fast as it came, it left. And unfortunately, what spirit was trying to bring through to you has gone.

Here is the good news. The fact that you're asking a question, am I making this up or is this real, is actually a good thing. When we question, it doesn't mean there's something to actually question or that there's a fraudulism or a fakeness. It means we are doing discernment.

How to tell the whisper from the mind

Once you understand the difference between the inner matrix and the mind, everything changes, because you realize there's a quietness, a humbleness, and a strength, versus the monkey mind, which is more analytical. If it comes effortlessly, almost too easy, you know this is the inner matrix. You know this is you channeling the information, through you, not from you.

And then keep going. Spirit gives you a rose. So you receive a rose. Great. Don't stop there. A lot of people stop. I've seen this. I've taught hundreds of people in person how to do mediumship. I have literally trained thousands online. What happens is, I've got a rose. I'm done. That's it. I've got nothing else. You're like, keep going. Follow the thread. Now ask, why? Asking the question rather than trying to figure out what it means.

This is the true work. It's not about getting the full-blown evidence. It's about piecing the signs together.

Maybe spirit isn't quiet. Maybe you're still learning your very own language.

Try this tonight: ask for a sign, then let it land

You don't need to meditate an hour a day. Just give yourself a minute, give yourself two, and be present. Then say this, out loud or in your head.

Spirit, show me a sign in the next 24 hours that you are guiding me. Often we expect spirit to work instantaneously, and often they do, but we are inviting deep subtleties, signs where we can connect and piece the puzzle together to create a story.

• Ask. If you don't have a question, you can ask the question, what do I need to know today?
• Come into your body. What am I sensing? How is my body feeling? What's going on with me and my body right now? Closing your eyes for 10 seconds to reset.
• Let it land. We don't need to get instant answers. Sometimes we do. But usually, more often than not, they reveal themselves in perfect, divine timing. You may not have an answer, but that doesn't matter, because the answer will come.
• Write it down. Using our pen and paper, journaling information that comes through. Often we think it's a thought, often it's our guide speaking to us. That is your first entry in your spirit dictionary.

Then watch for the repeat. If something happens a few times and it's repetitive, it is a sign from spirit. The feather, the song, the number, the name. Stop only asking, do I feel something? And start asking, can I validate what I received?

This is how you become the medium you truly want to be, is by noticing what is already happening. It's in the everyday miracles that we are having our awakenings. And the more we see this, the more we open up.

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Questions women ask me

Is it a sign, or is it just a coincidence?

You think, maybe I'm going crazy, maybe I'm making this up, or maybe this is just a coincidence. Well, you're not crazy, and no, it's not a coincidence. It's actually spirit trying to get your attention. Nothing is a coincidence. There are literally synchronicities continuously around us all the time.

Do I have to see Spirit to receive messages?

You don't have to see spirit to connect into spirit. I don't see dead people with my eyes. I work this way and we all work differently. Messages are usually felt within the body. Seeing spirit is usually in the imagination. Hearing can often be with your own voice.

What if I ask for a sign and nothing comes?

If nothing is coming through, it is all divine. Time is not real. We receive however we need to receive so we can receive. You may not have an answer, but that doesn't matter, because the answer will come.

Spirit is waiting to connect with you. And all you have to do is meet them. To know spirit is to know yourself. Everyone is a medium, including you.

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