Is it safe to open up to Spirit? Four key codes to put in place first

There is a reason why you haven’t fully let yourself open up. Open up to Spirit. Open up to your channel. Open up to communication and mediumship. I mean, you want to, right?

You feel the pull. You’re watching this video. Maybe you’ve watched many other videos. Maybe you’ve even done mediumship programs and read all the books. You’re being called, but you’re being very cautious.

Now, whether this is a conscious fear or an unconscious fear, don’t worry. You’re not alone. Thousands on thousands of people are feeling exactly the same way. And I used to be one of them. I was absolutely petrified to dive into my gifts.

In this video, I’m going to give you some real steps. I’m not just going to tell you there’s nothing to fear. I’m going to give you some real steps to put into place so you feel protected, safe, guided, and loved when you are stepping into Spirit communication. And it’s not always about seeing. One of the biggest fears we have is I don’t want to see Spirit.

I see this in my YouTube comments all the time. I don’t want to see. I don’t want to hear. Do not spook me. Do not freak me out.

Because we’ve been taught this, right? We’ve watched movies that are so scary. I was scared of witches. I was scared of the woo. I was scared of crystals.

I was scared of pendulums, of cards, you name it. The fear that we have is conditioned from of course society as well as upbringing as well as programming from literal TV programs. So I’m not going to tell you why you shouldn’t fear. I’m going to tell you how to protect yourself, how to be in your power and how to own your own gifts. Now everything I’ve taught in this series is going to help you build those muscles to be a great medium, to be a great channel, to be a great intuitive.

But if you are in fear, then you’re going to be blocking and putting up barriers. If you have wanted so badly to connect in with your loved one in Spirit or maybe you’ve so badly wanted to develop your gifts, but you have felt paralysed with fear, I truly get it. I was also in fear of losing my family. What if my family didn’t want to have anything to do with me because they thought I was evil? I was afraid that my husband was going to think I was crazy.

I wrote a part of my book about this and I was like, "Oh my goodness, what if he just thinks I’m nuts?" You know, back in the olden days, they would lock up people for having thoughts that were outside of the box. And not that my husband would do that and not that we’re in the witch wound anymore, but like the fear is still there because it comes through in our DNA. I was in fear that I would change. What if I became something I didn’t like? Or what if I saw something I didn’t like?

There’s a lot of reasons to be in fear. When people come and work with me in my program and they’re like, I’m feeling all the fear. I’m like, this is good. It means you got skin in the game. It means you’re human.

It means that you are asking questions, using your discernment, using your own knowledge, trusting yourself. But there’s a difference between resistance and a difference between unalignment. If something is unaligned, it feels wrong. It’s like a absolute no. And you’ve got to know what it feels like when it’s unaligned.

Example, somebody goes, "Hey, do you want to come skydiving with me and let’s drink a bowl of tequila before we go and I’m going to fly the plane?" I’m just giving you a really silly example. You’re going to go, "No, that’s a hell no." Right? Example in real time. When I did my first Facebook live, when I did my first YouTube video, when I did my first consciousness live in person circle or mediumship reading, the first time I did a reading, I was like pacing up and down. I had my cards, I was shaking.

I was like, "Oh my god, I’m such a fraud. I’m going to prove it to myself that I’m a fraud and then all my worst nightmares are going to come true. I’m never going to have the gift." We are rightfully so feeling fear. So I’m not going to tell you not to feel it, but there are some things that we simply do not need to fear and that is because of the conditions. So I’m going to take you through these activations and this is going to give you clarity.

This is going to give you confidence and this is going to help you go forward with these tools and make decisions to explore your mediumship to explore your gifts or connect into your loved one and Spirit. Let’s go. Key code one, safety. You have to feel safe in your body. Connecting to Spirit is all about being in, not being out.

Now, you’ve probably heard me say that and I repeat things on purpose to really anchor them in. So, when I realised I didn’t need to chase mediumship, in fact, I didn’t even need to go find it. It was within me. I started going, "What the heck? This doesn’t even make sense." So, I started bringing somatic practices in.

Yes, that is a part of mediumship. Okay, any good medium will help you calm your body down because we need to tune in. And to tune in, we need to be safe within the nervous system. This of course has definitely taken off and is trending. Everyone’s talking about manifestation and nervous system and the same is with mediumship.

How do we do this? Many different ways. So I’m going to put this all together at the end with an activation. But that’s the first one. Safety within the system.

Write it down. Take note. Very very important. Now the reason why it’s not safe to not feel safe is if you start losing yourself. So yeah, there is dangers.

There is something to fear. If you start losing yourself and you are not anchored within your body, you don’t feel safe because you don’t have control. You need to have control of yourself. So your power is your greatest protection because you are grounded. Say it with me.

I am grounded. My power is my greatest protection. Anchor it in. Beautiful. Key code two boundaries.

Okay. I love teaching about boundaries. Again, it’s another human thing, right? To know Spirit is to know yourself. If you have got loosey goosey boundaries with humans around you’re going to have loosey goosey boundaries with Spirit.

So, a lot of people are in fear that if they open up the portal, they open up the vortex. They’re going to get woken up at 12:00 at night. They’re going to be harassed. Everyone, all the spirits on the street are going to go, "Woohoo! That person is open to mediumship." And then everyone’s going to be harassing you.

And yes, that could happen. Yes, that is a true fear. But not if you’ve got boundaries. For me, I have boundaries. I have work hours.

I teach this in my mediumship program. You are not going to wake me up at 12:00 at night. If there was a knock at my door, or someone rang me, I’d go, "Oh my god, are you okay? Why are you here at 12:00 at night?" I wouldn’t go, "Oh, hey, what’s up? Coming for a cup of tea.

Do you want a hot chocolate?" I’d say, "Why are you here in the middle of the night?" I would expect it to be a really good reason. Spirit is not allowed to wake me up when I’m sleeping. But it’s not their fault. It’s my boundaries. I used to have loose boundaries and I never slept.

I had my ears constantly like ringing. I had and songs looping and looping and looping. I had mind chatter. I didn’t sleep. I was like, "What is going on?" I saw faces constantly.

It wasn’t Spirit’s fault. It was my lack of boundaries. And when I looked into my human life, yeah, I was a people pleaser. Yeah, I let people take advantage of me. Yeah, I was completely always discounting my services as a hairdresser.

Yes, I was saying yes instead of saying no. So, key code two is boundaries. Maybe having some actual work hours where you’re available to connect in with Spirit. When you have a boundary, you got to stick to your boundary as well. So, it goes both ways.

Okay, remember it always goes both ways. A really funny example is I was hairdressing one day and I had said to Spirit, I’ll meet you at I don’t know, maybe it was 1:00. Let’s just hypothetically say it was 1:00. I thought I would be done with my client’s hair, but I like to chat. And of course, we went over and I was talking to her about products and chatting away.

It was about probably five past one, and all of a sudden I start getting sleepy. I start going into what I call Spirit mode. So, not awake, not asleep, just kind of a little bit of a trance. And my client goes, "Victoria, are you okay?" And I was like, "Oh, yeah. I’m just I’m really sleepy all of a sudden." I looked at the time and I said, "Oh, I’ve got a meeting." That meeting was with Spirit.

So, I had to say, "Hey guys, I’ll be back with you in five minutes. Just let me finish with my client. My energy came back. I said goodbye to my client, and off I went and then I went into Spirit mode and communicated for the 5 minutes that I allocated. The other thing to remember is that Spirit has a different time zone to you.

So, you have to actually tell them how it is and what’s up. Then they will respect it. They’re basically reading your vibration. Key code three is about being grounded. Now, in the exercise we’re going to be doing very soon, the activation, I’m going to show you what this actually means.

It sounds kind of boring, right? Grounded, a little bit mundane, but mediumship is like a good conversation with a friend. We’re not always going, "Oh my god, the highlights." You’re building a relationship. Okay? So grounded means not just calm and in your nervous system like we spoke about with key code one, but it’s about being in the ground.

Did you know that we don’t walk on the earth? We walk in the earth because this isn’t just us. This is us, which means we’re in the earth. When we are connecting in with Spirit, it’s so important to know, like I’ve said so many times already in this series, we’re not going out to get them. We’re going in.

And what I mean by in is in ourselves and out to our fullest capacity as a being and anchoring into the earth. Right into the earth. The earth is holding us. You know how we have gravity on the planet, right? That keeps our body here.

We also need to anchor right in before we go out to meet Spirit. Yes, another paradox. I know if you’re a brainiac and you’re like, "How does this make any logical sense?" It doesn’t. It goes beyond the cognitive mind. We go in to go out.

We anchor down to go up. And of course, that fourth one is about being in your power. And I mean really harnessing. So, a visualisation for this that I do all the time with my clients is visualising yourself walking in the fire. And sometimes if we’ve had quite a lot of fear, and this is what I had to do, I had to start off with a little flame.

A little tiny flame in my heart space. And every time I breathe in, it got bigger. And every time I breathed out, it got bigger until I was in this gigantic flame. I walk with the flame. I walk in the fire.

Nothing can mess with me because I am powerful. I am the most powerful entity in my reality. Okay? Are you with me? Are we ready to piece this all together?

This is the fundamentals of safety of your practice so you can channel, so you can tune in and you can talk to dead people and beyond if you so choose to. But most of all, it’s about going in and being able to talk to yourself because the truth is, you know, that you’re your number one guide, right? Let’s get into the activation now. Closing your eyes down when you’re ready and if it is safe to do so. Taking a nice deep breath in through your nose.

Filling up your belly and breathing out your mouth. Letting go of old stagnant energy. Yes, that’s it. Relaxing, dropping your barriers down. And remember, we want to anchor into the earth.

So, key code one is about calming the nervous system. So, I invite you to do a little bit of a body scan and just consciously relax your body. If you go into a sleepy zone, that is okay. You are welcome to completely relax. You are safe, guided, loved, and protected.

Relaxing the nervous system. And maybe that’s taking a nice deep breath in and then sighing out to come into relaxation. Beautiful key code two, boundaries and standards. What is your boundary with Spirit? What are you available for?

This is something I invite you to do. I’m available for Spirit of the highest frequencies, of the highest vibrations of the true white light. I’m only available for beings that have got the best interest, the highest intent for myself and those around me. That my love is a boundary and a standard. And also, I want you to take note or maybe think about anywhere you’ve got loose boundaries or standards that you need to maybe raise the floor or tighten up those boundaries.

Or maybe your boundaries are a little bit too tight. Maybe you need to loosen them. Take note of that right now. Beautiful. Number three, bringing the mundane into the magic or the magic into the mundane, however you want to put that.

I want you to visualise the earth underneath you. Your roots are going down and around and in. As you breathe in the golden light, you are glowing up the earth underneath you. Visualising your crown raising up and a golden light streaming on down through your vessel all the way down. Lighting up that golden ball.

Breathing in. The body is glowing up. Breathing out as the gold lights up your aura. Beautiful. And now maybe you can visualise or maybe you just know or sense a little flame in your heart centre.

Breathing in and this flame starts to get larger. Breathing out and it gets larger. And every time you breathe in and out, you are enlarging this flame until you are in a flame. Your power is your greatest protection. There is nothing to fear.

I am powerful. Repeat after me. I am powerful. Notice your body. Is your body in like a weak or meek kind of state or are you sitting up straight or do are you lying down and you need to just stretch your body out a little bit to make sure your spine is nice and straight.

The way you hold yourself says a lot about you. I am powerful. My power is my greatest protection. Anchor it in. Anchor it in.

Anchor it in. You are calm. You know your boundaries and your standards. You are grounded and earth supported by the earth underneath you and also giving to the earth as well. And you know that you are the most powerful entity in your reality.

And now I want you to come back to that thought at the very beginning. Maybe you had a thought about fear. What you were afraid of. Is that still relevant? One being very very weak and 10 being fired up as in like I’m still scared.

How do you feel now on the fear factor scale? Just notice what is the difference. You got to start gently bringing yourself back to your body. You have drifted far and wide and you’re using a different part of your brain. So, I want you to gently start bringing yourself back from this inner space, coming back to your body, starting to wriggle your fingers and your toes, taking a nice deep breath in through your nose, filling up your belly, and in your own time, breathing out.

Maybe you want to stretch out. You can stretch out like a cat. Give your neck a little side to side. Bring your hands into a prayer position if that feels good for you. And gently bow down to your very own heart.

Your power is your greatest protection. To know Spirit is to know self. You are the strongest entity in your reality. Everyone is a medium including you. And opening your eyes when you’re ready.

Beautiful. How powerful is that? A few minutes. Just four little key codes to add in. You know, I love to repeat myself because some things are worth repeating and some things are worth anchoring in.

And we’ve been programmed about fear again and again and again and again and again and again and again until we’ve been so anchored in that there’s something to fear. But what if there wasn’t? And what if fear was our ally and not our enemy? I have learned to walk with fear. From that first Facebook live to that YouTube to doing my first reading.

Honestly, I am so grateful that I walked with fear. This is what we call courage. So step forward and take a chance. Take a chance on yourself and know that you are a big deal. You are a big deal.

You are gifted. When people come to me and they come and do Magnificent Mediumship or they want to inquire about it, a big thing is, am I good enough? I don’t know. Maybe I’m a fraud and I don’t belong here. And I’m like, if you’ve been watching these videos and you’re interested, trust me, you’re a medium.

Because the truth is, everyone is. It’s just whether you’re interested enough and whether you are brave enough, courageous enough to walk the walk and learn the skills. Thank you for being here. And maybe share with somebody what you learned today. Maybe you can share the video or you can simply go, "Did you know I learned this thing today?" Because sometimes saying it verbally or writing it in your diary can really anchor it in and start growing those seeds of power even more because Spirit is waiting to connect with you and all you have to do is meet them.