Anyone can talk to the other side: the spirit who taught Victoria how

I have cracked the code on how to connect to Spirit in the afterlife, and it's easier than you think. The first time spirits started coming to me and showing me themselves, I didn't believe it. I literally thought it was my imagination. But the more it happened, the more I started looking for evidence, and I found it wasn't my imagination at all. The biggest problem that I come across with those that are wanting to connect with Spirit in the afterlife is how they don't believe what they're seeing, what they're feeling, what they're knowing and what they're perceiving. They are literally skeptical about their own knowing.

It's so important to be able to connect to our loved ones in Spirit. Just because they no longer have a body doesn't mean that we can't communicate with them, and it doesn't mean that we shouldn't communicate with them. There are so many points of view and judgments about how we shouldn't be having access to those that have passed away. We've seen this a lot in religion, and also in seeing that there's a big gap between the humans on the planet and those that are in the spiritual world. We call this the 3D and the 5D, but in the normal world we talk about the afterlife, and we also talk about being here on planet Earth, being in a body.

But the truth is, we don't have to have the gap, and the gap is a lot smaller than you think. Even though we're here on the planet, and many of us can't see Spirit with our actual eyes, it's more in our third eye, they are right here with us. They are just in a different dimension. If we can actually grasp this, and stop just believing what we're seeing with our eyes and what we've been told from other people, and go inward and say, how do I connect with Spirit? What is the way that I communicate and get the evidence? Then we're able to connect in a lot quicker and easier than we could possibly imagine.

So I'm going to tell you about the first big experience that got me thinking, maybe I am a medium. Maybe this isn't just for those that are born with it. Maybe we can remember our gifts as we get older, a concept that I certainly hadn't been told as I'd grown up. So here I am. Picture this. I'm pregnant with my son, and I start seeing feathers. I start seeing butterflies everywhere. I start seeing more of the numbers all in a row, the 111s, everywhere, so much that I was like, okay, this is getting kind of creepy, this is getting kind of weird. And then all of a sudden I would hear a name. I'd hear it in my head, so not hearing it with my ears. Of course some people would say this name to me, or I would read it, or I would just hear it: Emma, Emma, Emma. And I was like, what is going on? I would start seeing Emma in my head, E M M A. And then I would have a dream about this girl called Emma.

Who was Emma? Well, Emma was a girl that used to go to my school. I know her brother, I know her nephews, I know her Mum, I know her father. She was a little bit older than me at school, in a different year, and unfortunately, very sad, she passed away very, very young. And all of a sudden I'm thinking about her. I'm getting these words of Emma, I'm seeing these butterflies, I'm seeing these feathers. But of course I'm not seeing a ghost standing right in front of me. I'm not seeing a human figure right in front of me. In fact, spirits don't have bodies. So why would we constantly see human beings standing in front of us if they don't have bodies? When they do that, that is literally them showcasing that it's them. That is evidence, right? But we're always expecting too much. We're always expecting for them to come here and be solid and start talking to us, and not many mediums see like that.

So back to the story. I'm seeing the feathers, I'm seeing the synchronicities, I'm seeing the monarch butterflies, I'm hearing Emma. People are talking to me about Emma, and then Emmas are ringing me, and then I'm seeing it in a book, and then I'm seeing it in my head, and I'm like, okay, what is this? I'm going crazy. So what I'm sharing with you here is these layers, these little pops of evidence, not her standing next to me. One day I started asking questions. This is what happens if you start getting signs and synchronicities, if you start feeling that there's something going on. What is that song? Why am I singing this? You feel like you're going nuts.

I sat down and I said, okay, is this actually Emma in Spirit? And I get this expansive feeling, yes. I'm like, oh my goodness. My Mum told me, don't dabble. How do you know this is Emma, right? We all ask these questions, don't we, because of the system and the programming that we've received. So I'm like, okay, well, you're going to have to give me some evidence, girlfriend. So I started asking for evidence, and I started getting it everywhere I went. In fact, it was around about a year that she was communicating with me before I actually contacted her Mum.

One day, when I'd had enough, and it had been a whole year of evidence, because I thought I was going crazy, I didn't think that mediumship worked this way, I said, do you want me to talk to your Mum? I'm talking out loud. I said, I've had enough, what do you want from me? I was pregnant, then I had a baby, and I had this baby that didn't sleep, and I've got the popping in my ears, and the monarch butterflies, and the feathers, and the Emma, Emma, Emma, and the songs, the angel songs. So I said, you want me to talk to your Mum? I got this yes in my body. And I was like, you can give me three signs, and I want them now, and then I will ring your Mum, and I will ask her to come over, if she is available, and I will tell her about what's been happening with this communication.

And side note, I'd been giving her Mum presents during the year. I would be in a shop, and there'd be these little angels, and it'd be like, buy me, buy me, buy that for my Mum. And I'd be like, are you kidding me? I'm not nuts here. So I'd buy the little angel, and then I'd be like, okay, I'm going to give this to her Mum. Another time I left a present on her doorstep and said love, Victoria, but I thought it should have said love, Emma. And it was always around a birthday, it was always around an anniversary. And I was like, what is actually going on here? The reason why I'm sharing this is I want you to see how I put it together. I became a little bit of an investigator, a spirit investigator.

So what happened was, I said, you can give me three signs. I am done with this. I'm done with walking into a room and feeling like there's been a pillow fight and there's feathers everywhere. I'm done with the Emma, Emma, Emma, and the angel, angel, angel, and the please talk to my Mum. I had no boundaries. I didn't know what I was doing. All I knew was I couldn't tell anyone. It was so easy to communicate with her, but my mind was the thing getting in my way. So, three signs. You give me three signs, and you give them to me now, and then I'll talk to your Mum. Yeah, right, that can't happen. Well, it did. Three significant events happened within pretty much the next two hours.

Which led me to ringing Emma's Mum and saying, hey, can you come over? Are you free? I've got something to tell you. If you can't, it doesn't matter. And she's like, ah, I'm busy, I've got something to do. Sweet as, don't worry about it. We say sweet as here in New Zealand. And she said, actually, no, I can pop over quickly. And I was like, oh no, I'm going to have to admit what the craziness is in my brain. I'm going to have to admit this out loud. So she comes over, and I sit down, and I tell her about the feathers, and I tell her about the angels, and I tell her about the Emmas, and all the different things that were happening. And then I gave her this little angel that I had bought, the one that was saying, buy me, buy me, buy this for my Mum. And I gave it to her, and she burst out crying, and she said, this tells me everything, and she totally believed me.

And I was able to give her a message from Emma. Because I trusted in the process so much, I was able then to stand there and go, Emma, what do you want to say to your Mum? And speak to her Mum. Now, here is a thing you need to know. 99% of what I said to her Mum made no sense to me. I don't know what type of relationship they had. We weren't friends at school, we were acquaintances. I had no idea about anything. I just spoke from my heart. And here I am, sharing this message, going, what if I'm a fraud? What if I'm getting it wrong? And that's what so many people think, and that's where we get skeptical. That's where we say, I don't know if I want to say this, because what if I'm wrong? What if I'm crazy? What if this is my imagination?

I was able to give her information and help her bridge the gap between Heaven and Earth, if you will, or the 3D and the 5D, between the human and Spirit. I was able to give her that closure, that her daughter was okay, and loved her, and was so grateful for the incredible Mum that she was. Now, Emma still comes in from time to time, and she will actually support me. She will come through with wisdom. She'll come through and support in my Magnificent Mediumship program. She'll come through sometimes and help me do a coaching session. It's phenomenal. It's amazing, and I'm so grateful to have Spirit so close to me. She was the very first spirit who came to me and taught me how to connect to our loved ones in the afterlife, and then how to connect her to her loved one, to bridge the gap, which is what we call being a medium.

So I'm curious, when has this happened to you? Because I know it has. And I can tell you one thing: people will get a hit like I did, and instead of going into what they've been given, they look at what they're not getting. When people come to me and they say, I want to be this type of medium, and I want to do this, I'm like, absolutely, that's really cool, but let's look at what gifts you have. Because as I started bringing oracle cards in, as I started bringing in wands, as I started bringing in crystals and oils, I had an array of tools that I use. But I learned very quickly from Emma not to rely on the tools, but to rely on myself. So the biggest source of my power, of my protection, is the belief in myself. And like I always say, you are the strongest entity in your reality.

Now, I've got to tell you, when I asked Emma's Mum to come over, I literally had a little baby and a toddler, and I said to my husband, do you mind taking the babies away into the bedroom, because I need to have a chat to Emma's Mum. And he said, what are you doing? What has happened? And I said, I can't tell you what I'm doing, because I don't want you to stop me. And he said, you need to tell me what's going on, Victoria. And I told him the signs and the synchronicities, and that I'd been giving the presents. He knew all these things, he'd been watching me, he lives with me. And I said, I've got Emma here. She's a spirit, and I've got to share the communication that she's sharing with me with her Mum. And he goes, oh, why didn't you just say so? That makes so much more sense. Because often I'd sit there and go, oh man, I hope she's okay, I hope the Mum's okay, or I want to buy her a present, how is she going? And my husband was like, oh, of course, this makes sense.

But I had to hold myself and my belief, and not be asking people, do you think I should be doing this? Am I crazy? I was like, okay, I'm going to do this. I'm going to find out. I'm going to be determined. And I was correct. The evidence was so powerful. Most people don't get to the point of the evidence. Most people cut it off because they don't believe in themselves enough. So when people are saying, I want to be this type of medium, I want to be able to see, but why is my ear always popping? I'm like, focus on your hearing. What are your indicators? I can teach you about the chakras, I can teach you about the aura, I can teach you about the different clairs, but the truth is, it's about you being a sensory being. It's about you noticing how you connect, rather than trying to be something that you're not, rather than trying to be the next famous medium. Why don't you come in and say, what gifts do I have?

So start with the evidence that you already have. What I noticed was the words popped out at me, and I noticed that signs and synchronicities were huge. All of a sudden, someone would ring me and their name was Emma. That was one of the signs that I got when I said, fine, give me three signs and then I'll talk to your Mum. Someone rang me and said, hi, it's Emma here, can I book my hair? Because I was a hairdresser at the time. And I was like, sure. Oh my God, that's crazy. And then I had a couple of other big signs within a two hour period of time, because Spirit can make things happen. They don't have a body, so energetically they can put things in place, like in a different timeline. So you can get literally instant signs and synchronicities.

It's a really big deal when you are tapping into connecting to your loved ones, and the story that I've just told you has been about me connecting to somebody else's loved one. I connect into my loved ones in Spirit every single day, and it's really, really important to understand that they are still a person, they just don't have a body. We're allowed to feel however we feel. When someone passes away, quite often we put them on a pedestal. They don't want you to be repressed, they want you to be free. So often when we connect to our loved ones, we can feel emotion, and we can't put Spirit on a pedestal and think that they're better than us because they don't have a body. We can communicate with them, and we can actually have the closure that we need.

This will come through in many different ways. This can come through with emotions. A lot of us don't actually acknowledge that when we're having an emotional release, and we're thinking about someone that's passed away, we're actually going through a healing process, and they're helping us with the healing process. Now, a really good tool is to get a pen and paper. I always have a pen and paper next to my desk, especially when I'm doing readings, because often I'm streaming through my consciousness a vocabulary of energy, and it's Spirit wanting to talk to me. It could be, I'm so sorry, please don't allow yourself to be held back by this. And Spirit can bring you the right guides, the right mentors. They can wrap their arms around you and say, I love you, please forgive me for leaving you too soon, or, I am here with you, keep going, keep thriving.

Yes, this is real. And then it's our responsibility, because although they're here, they're in a different dimension. It's just a different time space, and we can literally access them. And the thing that really stunts this and stops this is our mind. Oh, that wasn't real. That wasn't strong enough. Because we're so used to seeing it is believing it. Many of us have seen angels, and we've seen fairies, and we've seen all these different things, and then we go, oh yeah, no, it was just my imagination. I remember being brought up being told it's your imagination. But there were always so many coincidences, so many synchronicities. I didn't know what that word was at the time. You were just thinking about someone, and they ring you, and you were going to say the same thing. And people say it's just a coincidence. No, it's not a coincidence. It's not a coincidence that Spirit is trying to talk to you.

You may see it, or you might get your pen and paper and just start writing: dear Grandad, are you there? And then you're like, I can nearly smell my Grandad. I've been smelling my Grandad around a lot recently. So what I do, rather than just go, oh, it's just a coincidence, I'm like, I can smell my Grandad. And my sister was like, I can smell Grandad too. I wonder if he has a message for us. Grandad, is there anything you'd like to say to us? This is how I do mediumship. I'll get a pen and paper, or quite often I'll just sit there and go, what do you want to say? And I just have this conversation in my head, nearly like it's typing out, with a full stop. And then I ask a question, and another types out, and a full stop, and I start getting a message through.

I go with my feelings. Is it expansive? That's a yes. If it's contracted, you know what a no is like. Are you a female or a male? You're going to get a no for the one that's not correct, or a yes for the one that is correct. Is my name Victoria? Yes. Is my name Frank? No. We can feel the difference in our bodies. So when we're communicating with Spirit, our loved ones that have passed over, we say passed over to the other side, but they're right here, and we can access them if we can access the different dimensions, which means getting out of our head.

Just to do a bit of a recap here. We have talked about the signs and the synchronicities. We've talked about getting the evidence. We've talked about the smells, and how we can use tools like pen and paper. We can use crystals for tuning in. We can literally use our mind's eye, getting out of the head, and just go, what am I seeing? What am I tasting? What am I hearing? What am I feeling? And here's the thing that I really want to share with you. What if you could hear with your eyes? What if you could smell with your taste? What if you could see with your hearing? When it comes to being a multidimensional being, those people that are in their head are going to go, what? You're blowing my brain right now. But we become a multidimensional, multisensory being.

So when I jump into mediumship, I have no expectations, and this is what I teach in Magnificent Mediumship. I'm like, come on in, let's go, let's see what you've got. Of course I have different systems and procedures about getting into this and getting out of it, but all in all, it's kind of basic, right? A lot of my work is around the mindset of believing that you can actually do it. So if I'm a sensory being, and I'm like, what am I seeing? I might see something that makes no sense. I'm smelling roses. Am I actually smelling roses, or is it my imagination? So what if you used your greatest imagination to connect to your loved ones in Spirit? What if you didn't need it to be so dense? What if it was light? What if it was expansive? What if it was magical? And what if it was like a dream? What if your dreams about seeing Spirit and your loved ones, and even your imagination, visualising having a beautiful hug, having that moment, what if that is connecting in with Spirit?

And just to give you another piece of evidence: when I was a little girl, my Grandad had passed away, and I loved my Grandad. This is the one that I've been smelling recently, and he's been popping up in my brain a lot, which means he's around, and my sisters have both been having the same experiences, because they're both psychic mediums. We're all psychic mediums, all of us, including you. And I had this dream that my Grandad was there on his rocking chair, on his La Z Boy, and I ran up to him and I sat on his knee and I cuddled into him. I never saw him very often, because he lived six hours away from us. We had a big family and we didn't travel a lot. But I was really close to him. I loved him. He was funny. He was this beautiful man.

So I ran up to him, I snuggled in as a little girl, and I said, Grandad, I love you and I miss you. And this is a dream, clearly it's a dream. He said, Victoria, this isn't a dream. I'm here for you. And then, when I had to disconnect from the dream, I was like, no, Grandad, I don't want this to end, I don't want to wake up. He's like, I'm with you, and I love you, and this is real. And now that I know more about mediumship, and I've connected with so many spirits, I now know that that wasn't a dream. That was really my Grandad. And it makes me realise and remember that I have connected with Spirit my whole life. But the significant connection that really made me realise that everything I had experienced, and everything that I experience now, is real, was when Emma came through and showed me and taught me how mediumship really works.

Now, the way it works for me may not work the same way for you, but it doesn't mean that you're not a medium. We've got to bring positivity to this experience. We can't come in looking at what we don't have. We've got to come in with, what are the skills that we do have? And feel the gratitude, and amplify those abilities. Then we can start strengthening the muscles of the other clairs.