How to give a mediumship reading: Victoria’s step by step process

I wanted to go through a reading with you. I wanted to show you how I do my readings, and some little tips on how I make readings not just good, but how I make them magnificent. My name is Victoria Bond. I’m a psychic medium, a spiritual empowerment coach, and I am the non fluff coach that tells it to you how it is. I don’t hold anything back. There’s a lot of people out there that are holding their mediumship secrets to themselves, and I’m not one of them. I am an open book, baby.

I’m going to share with you the three things that I do, beginning, middle and end, when it comes to my readings, and I’m going to give you a little bit of an example of how far we can go with readings when we allow ourselves to surrender. So are you ready? Let’s get into it.

I use smoke as one of my tools, whether it is incense or whatever. I like to use smoke as one of my little tools, as well as sound, as well as essential oils, crystals, cards. I have all these tools, and if you’re into spirituality or readings, you probably have got a whole lot of tools too. Now here’s the thing. I’m going to say you don’t really need tools. Tools are a bonus. They are an extra, and they are phenomenal. I want to utilise everything that I have.

So why am I sharing this with you? Because step one of doing a reading, I don’t care if you are an advanced medium, if you feel like you are okay but you want to turn up your skills, or if you’re a beginner. I don’t care where you’re at, you’ll get something out of this video. I want to help you not just have good readings. I want to help you have magnificent readings, readings that go beyond what other readers do, because you can go further.

So, number one. You’ve got to set the scene. You’ve got to get into Spirit mode. I call it Spirit mode. What I like to do is I like to create a space. Maybe you create yourself an altar. Maybe you’ve got your tools, your cards, your bowls. It can be different for every single reading. Sometimes I’m just like, all I need is a candle and some cards, or all I need is a plant and maybe a glass of water. It’s different for every single reading, I find.

I always have a pen and paper, because sometimes, scribbling and channelling things out, you can do a doodle and all of a sudden there’s this picture of an angel, or you write down a word. Or if you’re reading for somebody, they will say something, and that just highlights to you, so you need to write that down, because you need to come back to that. Essentially, you are the willow tree, with so much information from so many different Spirit teams, from so much energy around you, that it would be really overwhelming if you just tried to let that all land in one go. And this will create a freeze.

So to have a magnificent reading, to go beyond what all those other readers are doing, beyond just talking to Spirit or giving them a card and reading it from the book, you need to be better in the way that you start your readings. This is a personal choice, and how you do it, my way isn’t necessarily the right way for you. It is the way that I do it, and it changes all the time. But you have to have a start. Super important. And you have to give yourself at least a few minutes, anywhere from 2 minutes to an hour, to prepare yourself, because you want to be calm in your body.

Each and every soul that comes together has got a different connection. So this is why setting up to do a reading for someone is going to be different. It might be different for every single person, because they are unique. Some people you can chat with and you get along with so well. Other people, they’re just here to receive. Some people are more advanced in this spiritual understanding, and some people are like, oh my goodness, I’m going to get a reading. So we have to be a little bit more gentle with them.

So really tune into the reading before you do the reading. You don’t need to do a full reading before you do the reading, but tuning in. And I really find that having the smoke here, and having my sound bowls, and putting some beautiful music in the background, and getting out my pen and paper and doing some doodling, and just allowing that Spirit space, creates the energy where you feel safe within your body.

Because you’re the medium. We can get kind of excited, a little bit nervous before a reading, and that’s good. But you’re the medium. You are the glue, the bridge between the worlds, between the dimensions that you’re going to be tuning into. You matter. And I have heard so many mediums say to me, oh yeah, it’s just Spirit, I’m just the medium, I’m just the one giving the information. If it wasn’t for you, it wouldn’t happen. We need the glue. If there’s no glue, things fall apart. There’s no connection without that bridge.

So you are number one, and this is what you need to understand. Everyone is a medium. And the person that you read for is a soul connection. Maybe they found you randomly on YouTube, or a referral from a friend. And maybe you’re just starting. You’re like, I just want to go read for a couple of friends. I haven’t had the courage to go read yet. Maybe you’re really beginning, like I was when I was 33 years old, when I asked my hairdressing client, do you mind if I do a reading on you? Because I barely know you, and I really want to get some evidence and confidence. And my mind exploded.

So we set the intention by creating the space around us, and we say a prayer. You can do the Our Father, you can do the Hail Mary or the Serenity Prayer, or you can just set your intention. I always like to say, we are opening this space and this connection for the highest good of the person that I’m reading for, and we are calling in the angels and the ancestors and the Spirit teams of the true white light, of the highest frequencies and vibrations.

Now, whatever’s going on in your life, maybe you’ve had an argument with somebody, maybe you had a hard morning, you can just leave your stuff out of it. This is about the person that you’re reading for. And this is what happens when we’re coaching as well. It’s really not about us. It’s about the person that we’re with. But we are still very important. And this is where people get confused. They’re like, I’m just the medium, it’s not a big deal. You are a big deal, because without you, this would not be happening. This collaboration would not be happening.

So we have to acknowledge ourselves as the being we be, and know that we’ve got the Spirit teams and the guides and the ancestors and the light beings and the collective all coming through us, the guides of the person that we’re reading for and our guides, streaming through. And you just come up with stuff.

So let’s go back for a second. The number one thing is to create the scene. But the number one thing in that first step is to know that you are the one holding the space for another. It’s about the other person. It’s not a coffee date, unless it is. For me, I’m like, I’m here for you. Let’s go. We’re going to be travelling through different realms, times, spaces, dimensions, and we’ve got a whole team that we’ve called from different places. So let’s respect them, and let me be the medium. Let me be the one that all of this information comes through, whether it’s healing, whether it’s coaching and advice, or whether it is actually mediumship and psychic stuff. And just let it flow.

Often people will not get past this first stage, and they freeze, because they’re afraid of letting go and relaxing. You might want to write that down. People are afraid of completely relaxing in and allowing the channel to flow. We know what this is like when we’re having a conversation with a new person, a new friend that we’ve met. At first, people have their walls up a little bit. It’s kind of like going on a date. It’s the same when we’re doing readings. When we’re first arriving somewhere, not all parts of us have completely arrived. But when we start loosening up into a conversation, it’s really important to know that when you relax, you just start flowing. Your medicine starts flowing.

When you get into your channel, it’s just like, I don’t even know what I’m saying. It’s a transmission, we call it. It’s a channel, a transmission, and all of us are that. All of us. So you relax, you connect in, you do your little prayer or your beautiful big prayer, whatever you want to do, anywhere from 2 minutes to an hour, to create that space.

And then the second thing is to completely, totally and utterly allow the channel to come through without trying to control what it is that you are doing. Because most of us don’t know what we’re doing or what we’re saying. We’re just channelling it through. But the brain comes in, because we want to do a really good job for this person. And often our brain will try to dictate the reading. When this happens, we’re going into our brain.

And that’s why when you’re practicing, practice on someone that you barely know, where you don’t know the ins and outs of their family or their daily dramas. You want to read for someone that you barely know, because then the evidence is really clear. It’s like a yes or a no. Now for me, when I’m reading for my sisters, if I have an opinion about something, I will not read for them on that opinion, even if it’s a great opinion, because then I’m becoming biased. We don’t want to be biased in a reading. So I always make sure when I do a reading, I’m in a really good space where I don’t have a bias on that person or what they’re going through.

So one of the things I do is I always say, is there something you’d like to focus on? So I’m going to give you an example of a reading that I did. This lady said to me, I want to focus on my business, my spiritual development, and where is my career going? She’s got a business, and she wants to pivot into spirituality. She’s already really psychic. She’s already tuning into different channels and light beings and doing healing. But she wants to go deeper.

So I said, okay, let’s see what comes through from Spirit. So I pull her some cards, and I’m looking at the cards. I look at one card at a time. Sometimes I look at all of them and just see if there is a story. But in this case, with this client, I looked at one card and the card’s not really talking to me. So often I will go into a channel if the card’s not talking to me, and then the cards are the thing that give me the evidence after the reading.

So the first thing I ask is, I use questions. You really need to know that asking questions is important, asking yourself questions, asking the person questions. But really, really relaxing in and expanding out, allowing yourself to expand, knowing that you’re protected, safe, guided, loved, and you’re not alone. You are simply here to receive the frequency of what it is that is meant to come through for the person that you’re reading for. It’s not about you. It’s not about impressing. But you are a big deal. You’re kind of a star in this co creation.

So I’m trying to tune in, but also at the same time I’m trying to relax. I’m just like, yep, I’m here, this is good. What do I see? And I have no control over what it is that I’m going to see, because I just want to see whatever I’m going to see. You can tell me that you want to talk about your relationship or your business. You can tell me anything, and it’s great, because it’ll thread through, and Spirit’s listening. But what comes through comes through.

And all I could see first off was a little girl and an old man. And when I’m seeing Spirit, I’m not seeing them with my eyes. I’m seeing them in my head, but I have a feeling where they are. This sounds bizarre. None of this makes sense, I’m fully aware of that. So I’m seeing this little girl and this man, and they’re over here in the left hand corner, like through the wall, like I’m looking through the wall. When we’re doing this multidimensional work, we are no longer in a room. You can use the room to see things and pull from the cards and the tools, but it’s you and the person that you’re reading for.

And I said, I’ve just got to ask you, before I dive deeper into the cards, I’ve just got Spirit here. That’s all I can focus on right now. Have you lost a child in your family? And she said, no, not that I know of, but my Mum, she was carrying twins and she lost one of the twins. Okay, thank you, great. This is your sister. People perceive things differently. I’m like, your great great grandmother’s here, and they’ll be like, I didn’t know her, though. Well, it doesn’t mean she’s not there.

So this lady I’m reading for, this is her sister. She looks like she’s wearing an 80s kind of cute little frock thing with a little bow in her hair, and a little half ponytail up, and a couple of curls. She’s going to show me what I need to see. They show you what you need to see so you can express it, even if it doesn’t make sense. Of course she didn’t grow to be a little girl, and of course she is a spirit now, but that made total sense. I was like, oh yeah, that’s it, because it’s someone close to you. How do I know it’s close? Because I can feel it.

And I was like, who is this man? I was asking her questions, and she was like, maybe it’s my dad. And I’m sitting with the energy, and I’m like, show me what you look like. And all of a sudden I get this picture of a man, maybe about 5 foot 9, because I can actually kind of get the depth of how big they are, with practice, and how wide they are, and what the head shape is, and what kind of clothes they wear. I can get this as I go deeper, as I surrender more and surrender more and surrender more, and let my greatest imagination take flight.

So I’m like, he’s got a round head and he’s got dark hair on the sides, but he’s pretty bald. And she said, my dad was blonde, and he was quite tall. I’m sorry, this isn’t your dad. Not to say your dad’s not coming through in an essence, and I can definitely feel an energy here for him, but this isn’t your dad. This is a relative, and I’ve got a funny feeling it’s like a granddad energy. Those energies that we have with the ones that we love, we can tap into that with Spirit.

So I said, look, let’s just leave that now, because you want to dive into your business. If Spirits want to come through and talk, they will. There’s no point in sitting with one Spirit on one thing, trying to pick it apart and put the pieces of the puzzle together. And as you can tell with my talking, I’m in a channel right now. It’s a transmission, because Spirit is fast. It’s really, really fast. So I’m like, you guys just stay there. They’re just chilling out, floating in the corner. That’s how it kind of feels.

And I start reading for her, tuning into the card. What do I see in this card? What do I feel in this card? Really getting into not what does she want to hear, but what does she require. This is a high level businesswoman who’s extremely successful, and in my opinion already incredibly talented when it comes to her mediumship and channelling abilities. So I have to make sure that whatever I say isn’t because I’m trying to put it in a certain way. I just say whatever needs to come out, like I’m reading for anyone, like I’m reading for a beginner. I just have to read from my heart, no matter what.

So I pull over this card, and I’m just like, oh wow, okay. Your spiritual practices that you want to hone into with your channelling more, you need to bring it in, girlfriend. It’s the opposite to what I usually tell people. I usually tell people they need to expand out, because most people stay kind of small. They don’t really want to leave their body too much. They usually try to squish themselves into their body.

And I said to this lady, you’re working with light, you’re travelling through dimensions, and you have to be quite advanced to do that. The body must be the anchor. That’s why we have so much somatic practice, of yoga, of meditation, of embodiment, of dance and movement and touch. Because being in your body is the most important thing when it comes to channelling. But too many people are like, oh, I just love being out there, I don’t want to come back. That is a problem. And this is what I picked up on.

I literally said, when you’re travelling out and you’re doing all these things, you’re leaving a tiny little spark of yourself out there in the cosmos. And she was like, really? I don’t feel like I travel. She started crying, and she said to me, Victoria, I just don’t want to come back every time I’m out there. And I said to her, and this is where my wisdom came in, this is when my higher self starts speaking through, this is when the guides start speaking through: you have to be human. How can you expect other people to trust you, with their readings, with their healings, with all the stuff that you’re here to do, if you don’t want to be here? You got to practice what you preach. You got to be here before you’re there.

And I recommend that you create a space every day, a ritual. And literally, I’m reading these cards and they’re saying all the same thing, the same thing that I’m feeling. The card just helps to express it. And I said, this is the number one problem with light workers, with mediums, with channels: they don’t want to be here. They want to be on another planet. When they’re travelling to different places, they’re leaving a tiny spark. So what we did is we called back all of her soul fragments, throughout all time, spaces and dimensions, where she had been leaving a spark of herself out there.

So my example of the second part of being a magnificent reader is that we’ve got to go beyond just reading a card or reading the book of the card. We must allow ourselves to go into a space where we are like, let’s just go and see what happens. But we, as the reader, must hold ourselves. Once you get these practices into place, once you hold yourself, once you be human, knowing that of course this is not the final destination. Let’s make the most out of it. Let’s be human. Let’s choose ourself, because choosing ourselves is the most important thing, and it starts with us, in our own spiritual practice.

It was such a simple yet profound reading, and of course she was in tears. She felt whole again. And then I said, okay, let’s just come back around, because I’m holding the space. I’m holding the client. I’m doing this for her highest good, not what she wants but what she requires, because she’s trusting me in this. We’ve still got Spirit here, so let’s just dive into the Spirit and see what they have to say. He’s still here. He’s still got a round head, he’s still like a grandparent, and this little girl is definitely a little sister. And of course that makes sense, because the relatives are together. And I said, I think they were just here to support you.

She sent me a photo afterwards, because the photo will always represent what the Spirit looks like, so I always know, yes or no. As soon as she said her dad had blonde hair, I was like, no, it’s not your dad, this person’s bald. She sent me a photo of her family, and without her saying which one it was, I said, the man in the middle. And it was her great great great grandfather, and I was like, that was the man.

Now, does it matter that he didn’t come through and start speaking through me? No. If you gave me another hour, I could have focused on them and brought through messages. This is what happens. The longer we’re in it, we’ve got to create rapport with the Spirit that is there. Hi, how’s it going? I know you’ve never met me, but I’m reading for your great great great granddaughter. Do you have anything to say? That doesn’t happen in 2 minutes. But now I know that Spirit, we’ve been acquainted, so we could actually have a conversation. Whatever comes through in your readings is what’s meant to come through, exactly how it’s meant to come through.

And when I’ve tried to impress people in the past, well, not impress, but more give them something tangible in a way that I think the reading should go, my friend one day said to me, can you tap into my dad? And I was literally in the middle of my work day, and I was like, I’m too busy. And she said, oh, okay. And then all of a sudden I was like, oh, okay, I can feel him here. And I was like, okay, does he have a white beard? Does he like the colour red? I was asking these questions because I could see a vision. She’s like, no, no, no. And then I said, I’m sorry, I can’t do this, because all I can see is a picture of Santa.

And she started crying, and she’s going, we miss him so much, and he was always Santa for the boys, and at Christmas it’s the hardest. And I was like, oh my goodness. I should have just said, does Santa mean anything to you? Did he play Santa? And she would have gone yes. But instead I was trying to bring forward the reading in a way that was way too hard. Instead I can just say, I see a guy, he’s kind of short, he’s solid, he’s got brown on the sides and no hair on top, and I feel like he’s a grandfather. Does that resonate? And sometimes they go, I don’t really know, and then literally down the track they go, oh my God, yes, of course it does.

So we don’t want to micromanage the reading. We want to completely surrender into it and go into the channel. Often a reading, or a transmission, will feel like it was 5 minutes and it’s been 90. So having a timer is a really good thing as well, because often we don’t know what the time is when we’re in the channel. So that is the second part.

Number one, the start. Just like when we’re going out to dinner, it was the pregame that was the fun, getting dressed, making myself beautiful. It’s the same for doing readings. Have a pregame and get ready for the main event. Often I will wear what I want to wear for that client, which sounds crazy, and often we will be matching. Or I’ll be like, I need to wear bright yellow for this, and then the whole reading is about their confidence and how they can build that. So expect the unexpected, and don’t try to control it too much, because it is like a roller coaster.

You need to have a start. You need to have a middle, which is the channel, absolutely letting go, and being again that willow tree. So pen and paper, because you won’t be able to get to everything, but hone into the one thing that is glowing the brightest, the thing that is really, really important. And usually that’s the thing that they told you about.

So the third thing is the closing. Yes, we have a beginning, a middle and an end, and the end is just as important. It doesn’t have to be as long as starting up and creating Spirit mode. Maybe it’s just wearing a hat and lighting a candle and saying a prayer. Everyone can be completely different. But when it comes to closing, I always close the loop. I close the circle, if you will, and I always give thanks and gratitude.

Now, in my Magnificent Mediumship certification, I had a medium in there one day and she said, I never thought about saying thank you. So every time Spirit gives me something, I can say thank you. Every time we get a golden nugget, some evidence, go, thank you, thank you, thank you. I’m talking to guides and Spirits. I’m like, thank you, thank you, thank you.

So when we close, quite often I will come back to my tools, and really just break that channel. I will use the tool and I will just be like, okay, so we close this circle with love and light. We thank the ancestors, the angels, the Spirit guides, whoever’s been here with us. We thank them so much for supporting us, and we ask the angels to carry on any healing that is required, and thank you so much for creating this connection. We cut all cord ties. And then I blow the candle out, or I pack my cards away, I put my sound bowl back where it belongs, and then we have a nice clean slate.

Now, I know closing can be something that’s quite hard to remember, because you’ve been in a channel. And sometimes, if you’ve just started doing readings, the ego comes in. Oh my God, was that any good? I hope it resonated. My advice is you don’t think about it and you just carry on with your day. You put on a different hat. Go make some dinner, or go meditate, or go ground outside. But cutting those cords is super important. This is important for readers, but it’s also important for human beings.

When I was a hairdresser, I used to have people come to my house and I would do their hair, and they would also come with a whole lot of information about their lives, their relationships, their friendships, their childhood, their insecurities. And I heard a lot, and I think this is what makes me a really good reader as well. Nothing can really shake me, because I’ve heard so much, but I can hold the compassion, and I also know how to hold the space for all situations.

Being an empath, I used to cry nearly at every reading, because I could feel the feelings of a dad missing his daughter, or an apology, or whatever it was. And with being a hairdresser, I would go upstairs and take the baggage of my client. I would carry their cross, if you will. They left feeling great. That was my job. They looked great, but they felt great, because they had just got a whole lot off their chest, and I was so privileged and honoured that they could share it with me. But then I carried it, and that wasn’t my job. No one ever taught me that we shouldn’t carry other people’s stuff. And so many light workers and empaths and mediums do this. We carry other people’s stuff, and it’s not healthy.

So cutting the cord ties from the heart, I teach in depth in Magnificent Mediumship. We cut the ties, and we bring our own energies back in. It’s really, really important to leave the energy of what happened where it is, to cut the cord ties, to give it to the angels, to let it be transmuted. If there’s anything that was heavy and sticky, let the angels come in and clean it up. So you can just go, I’m done. Great job. So proud of you, so proud of me, so proud of us. Let’s carry on with our lives.

This will help the person that you read for. You’re sending them with angels to complete anything that needs to be completed. They can come back to you for a reading. When it is a client, it’s really good to follow up and say, how are you feeling after that? Because so much will open up for them. Not just because you gave them a great reading, but because you saw them, because you were human with them, because you were present with them, because you were real and raw and honest. We’re not here to impress. We’re here to tell the truth.

And we have to ask for support from our teams to bring it across, to give them what they need, even if it’s just energetic transmissions, even if it’s just holding the space and allowing all of the energy that needs to shift to be shifted. So whether it’s a healing, whether it’s a coaching session, whether it’s a mediumship reading, we have a start and a middle and an end. Then we tie it up in a sweet little bow, and then we float it off and go, I did enough.

I have so many stories, millions of stories of readings that I do, and each and every one is profound. But this one has got Spirit, and it’s got the energetics in it, and the cards, so I really wanted to show the beginning, the middle and the end. It was a very powerful experience for her, and even though she’s a very skilled light worker and medium herself, we needed to really reflect to her what was required for her next level. Come in and find your human, and that’s where you shall find all parts of you.