Connecting with Spirit: what nobody tells you about feeling it first

Maybe everybody else got the manual and you didn't get it. Maybe you are the exception. Maybe you just don't have the gift. But why do you keep getting pulled back into learning and exploring your very own intuition? I need you to hear me when I tell you this. There is nothing missing. There is no manual, because the manual would never be big enough to cover all of the possibilities and potentials that are available for you. This is your pull. This is your call.

And if you're anything like me, you didn't see dead people. If you're anything like me, you didn't smell the smells or get the feelings through your body if Spirit was around. Maybe you are just different, and you've been looking in the wrong place. Now, here's the coolest thing. Once we unlock this for you, and once I share with you on this video how to do that, all of your other senses may come into play.

And before we begin, I have to say this video is for everybody, especially those that say they have never been able to see, or that they are literally blocked, and every time you've gone to do a meditation or you've gone through a training, there's nothing there. This is for you. Here is something I didn't expect to learn. Those of you who have not been able to see, and you find it really hard to visualise or imagine, are literally our most sensitive feelers. And once we shift the perspective on how you're meant to perceive, and we actually look into how you actually perceive, your world will open up, and you will be able to sense and feel and acknowledge and know even stronger than those that see pictures.

Because when we close our eyes and we literally go into the darkness, our other senses turn up. And I actually invite you, if it's safe for you to do so, to spend ten seconds now with your eyes closed. Maybe you are clairvoyant and you see, and you're thinking maybe this isn't relevant for me, but maybe it is. Close your eyes down now. I want you to notice what you notice. I sense that I instantly come inward, and I start noticing my body, and I start scanning my surroundings energetically, not just with my eyesight. And what this actually does, as you're keeping your eyes closed right now, is it is calming down your system. Calming the nervous system, so you become safer. Therefore, it is safer for you to perceive. So just keeping them closed for a couple more seconds. Three, two, one, and opening your eyes. How do you feel? I actually feel instantly calmer.

And when I'm doing meditations with many of my clients, we will close our eyes down. And even when we are doing longer mediumship trainings, we will stop a few times and close our eyes down to reset. Now, this isn't just in the spiritual world that we do this. This is literally in every part of our living as humans, to calm down the system by closing down the eyes. So closing down your eyes and coming into the senses can make you a stronger medium than if you are really hyperfocused on, or favouring, the vision. In fact, our eyes can really distract us, and so can our third eye.

Over this short series, we're going to dive deeper into allowing you to come into your senses more, into your feelings more, no matter how much experience you've had, whether you feel like you're a beginner or maybe you are a seasoned medium and psychic. And today we start with unlocking. So we're going to shift any blocks that have made you feel like you just don't have the gift, because you haven't been able to see, or you don't have a particular sense that other people seem to have. Because everyone is a medium. Everyone is a psychic. I want to shout it from the rooftops. It's like everyone's keeping this secret, saying, well, you have it or you don't. But everyone does. And I know this because I have taught hundreds of students through my Magnificent Mediumship program, and many thousands on all of my channels, how to unlock their gifts.

The only thing you have to do to get results is to show up. Stay till the end. Do the activation. Showing up is one of the biggest parts of attuning to your very own gift. My name is Victoria Bond. I'm a psychic medium and a spiritual empowerment coach.

Now, honestly, this topic is really dear to my heart, because until I was 33 years old, I did not think I had any type of gifts. I used to call myself perfectly average, literally. And I just didn't know what being gifted actually looked like, because the stories that I heard were, my grandma would see somebody, and my great grandmother would always hear a knock at the door, and then there'd be a phone call, and someone had passed away. The stories were fun, and a little bit dramatic, and there was always a real kind of anchor to them. It wasn't nuanced or delicate or layered. It was like, oh, and then there was a person in the garden standing there waving goodbye. And I just wasn't experiencing that. For me, it's been a lot more subtle.

When I first started getting really interested in this, I was like, you know what? I'm going to leave the fear of doing wrong by God, and I'm going to follow where my heart is leading me. And I went down this path, and I'd sit in a room with people meditating, and people would start saying, I had this experience, and there was this past life I had, and I saw my great great grandmother. And I was like, I didn't really see anything.

And even when I started doing Reiki, I couldn't feel anyone working on me. I'd open my eye and I'd be like, are they still there? Are they working on me? I felt nothing. I was like, this can't be working, because I don't feel it. Because I wanted the evidence. But the evidence came when we were doing swaps in the class. And I was like, holy moly. I could feel it. Even right now, just talking about it, that's turned on my Reiki. I can feel the heat. And not long after that, I was sensing and feeling, and I want to say nearly seeing, these light rays coming out of my hands. It was kind of crazy. And that's when I started asking, am I crazy, or is this actually happening?

So I went on this big quest to receive readings from really good mediums, and to find the best healers I could, and mentors and teachers. And I just started exploring, and I did acknowledge that I had a big block. And the big block was thinking what mediumship was. The big block was thinking that it was the minority that could see or sense or talk to Spirit. I was just plain Jane. I am a mum. I was doing the school runs, and I was cutting hair and colouring hair and making people's lives more beautiful. And I loved my job. I loved my life. But there was this big missing patch.

And this is what most people won't talk about, because most people don't want to share their boring story, or their layered story with all the subtleties. But for me, I've really acknowledged that I am in the majority. The majority of people that have to practice and hone into what it means to see and talk and communicate with Spirit. I created a program, Magnificent Mediumship. It's a three month program. But the reason why I created it was because most of the programs that I saw out there, most of the teachers, it was very much in a box, very much in a container of, this is how we're meant to connect with Spirit. And what I realised was, there's an infinite number of ways that we can connect with Spirit.

So I come here today and I tell you, if you haven't been seeing or hearing or sensing or smelling or feeling, it's not that you're doing it wrong. It's just that you've been taught and programmed differently. And today we're going to really work on doing some of that deprogramming. We're going to work on releasing those blocks, so you can receive the gift by perceiving that you already have it within you. And just like that little exercise we did with closing your eyes down, when we close our eyes down, we come inward. And my favourite saying is, to know Spirit is to know yourself. And when people come to work with me, they're like, hang on a minute, are we going to get straight into readings? I'm like, no, we're going to go and read yourself. We're going to get to know who you are.

Because what I've realised now is, I turned 33 and I was like, hang on a minute, I'm too old to now think I'm a medium, because this is something that you're born with. It's a gift, a God given gift, that some people get and some people don't. And that is the first lie. The first lie is that not everyone is a medium. Because the absolute truth is, everyone is a medium. So I want us to reprogram that. And if you're here with your journal, maybe you can write, everyone is a medium. Maybe we want to anchor that in and claim it. Maybe we tell somebody today. Because when we tell somebody, or when we write it down, it's becoming witnessed, and it becomes more real to us.

So the first thing, my friends, that nobody told me was, you're going to feel it first. Not necessarily see it in your head. The minority are clairvoyant first, where they're actually seeing a person in their head or with their eyes. A very, very small amount of people can see with their eyes, and a very small amount of people can see with their third eye. This is more of a skill that gets developed when we create more trust. Nobody told me I was going to feel it first, and I was going to feel it in many different ways. And I want you to really take this in, and maybe even write it down. Feeling is number one.

And the way we can feel can be in many different ways. Maybe we feel it physically, like the prickles on our skin, or heat on the side of your body. Maybe the left hand side is the females and the right hand side is the males. That can be something that can be quite common, but not necessarily correct for you or me. So it can be a feeling, like a sense: oh, I sense there's a female here. Don't know why. And that's the thing. The logical mind will try to tell you why, why, why. There always has to be a reason. But there doesn't, because you're an energetic being, a sensitive creature. That's what you are.

So that is number one. Feelings always come first. But you've got to go in and figure out what type of feeling you have. And here is a little clue: your everyday life. How do you sense or feel if something's off with someone that you love, or a situation, maybe at work? Or maybe you're like, how am I feeling today? What am I sensing today? Again, what can we do? We can close our eyes. How am I feeling? What am I sensing today? Now, you can't tell me that you don't feel or sense anything, because you are energy. You are an emotional creature, like I said. So let me know: how do you feel when you're sensing something? This is the first thing when it comes to tuning in to your mediumship abilities.

The second one that I wish everybody knew was, we convince ourselves we're not gifted. We absolutely deflect. Say it with me: we deflect. But we can undo that as well. So I literally would say, oh, well, I sensed that there was a granddad figure there, and I sensed this love coming, and there was a little bit of a message, but oh my god, it wasn't enough. I don't even know if it worked. I think it was more the client saying that, and I did know that her grandfather had passed. And deflect, deflect, deflect, deflect. We convince ourselves that we're not gifted.

So if you want to be a seeing, sensing, feeling medium, you need to claim it. And this is the thing. I am already a medium. Everyone is a medium. I am already a medium. I'm exploring my natural skill set and enhancing it. I am amplifying it. We are the ones that block ourselves. And there's actually a little kink in why we do that. If we are too much out of this box, even the mediumship box and container that the mediums or the spiritual people are putting us into, then what happens is we are afraid. It's like a witch wound thing. If we go outside of the box, if we get a little bit too different or weird or expanded or strange, if we aren't educated enough, or we don't have enough evidence, enough proof, if we don't fit in with what that's supposed to look like, we will be shunned.

And our body simply remembers what it's like to be pushed out of a tribe. So a lot of past life stuff comes in, and ancestral stuff. It's all in our DNA, and we literally go, it's just not worth it. I will just stick to the small little container, make sure I fit into the criteria. We've been programmed with this from school, education, parents, everyone. So stop convincing yourself that you're not gifted.

Now, in my last round, I had two clients that were like, we cannot see. I heard them say it like fifty times. We cannot see. We just can't see. We just have to do it in a different way. By the end of that program, actually well before the end, more like a couple of weeks in, they could see. I just showed them how to see. They weren't looking at how they could see. They were looking at how they thought they should be able to see. We are always deflecting and convincing ourselves that we don't have the gift, or we're not good enough yet. So I want you to really claim that now. I am already a medium. I am already gifted. I'm on my journey of amplifying the gifts that I already have. Once we start believing it, be, do, have, what happens is we literally become it.

And this is what I've experienced in my very own mediumship abilities. It actually wasn't that long ago. I was like, I'm a medium and I don't get names. So I can't be bothered trying to figure out what the name is or put it together. What comes through comes through. And then I was like, oh, I picked up that I have a limitation. It's just like my clients that say they can't see. I'm saying I don't get names, and I don't even try.

So one day I'm on this live event, and I was pulling cards for random people. Never met them, can't see their faces, anything. And this lady came up, and I was pulling a card for her, and I sensed there was her father around. Her father, or a grandfather, a male ancestor. I think it was a grandfather. And I went, oh my god. And this name, Elma, popped into my head. And I was like, no, no, no, no. I don't get names. I'm the medium who doesn't do names. And I just said, I've just got the name Elma in my head. And she said, that is his name. I actually couldn't believe it. I had this misconception that I can do this and this and this, but I can't do these things. So I was convincing myself out of my very own gifts. So that is a massive block. And I invite you now to literally hear that and let it go. Let it go completely.

So we're going to do a five minute activation together, which is going to help you to literally speed up the deconditioning process and activate your gifts, and it's going to keep working even after this video. But before we do that, I want to tell you about the third thing that I truly believe is a game changer, and I see this with ninety nine percent of my clients that come into Magnificent Mediumship.

So this is an unconscious block, if you will. It's fear. It is absolute fear. And there's a theme in this video that's been channelling through, and that is, what if I come outside of the box? Many of us say, I'm the black sheep. I never fitted in. I am different. I am a bit of a rebel. But the truth is, at the core of it, we all want to be accepted, and no one wants to be rejected, honestly and truly. So unconsciously we are always trying to please others and not be too outside of the box. Now, maybe you've done a lot of work on this, and maybe you're like, no, it's not relevant for me. But I'm thinking it is, somewhere, on some level. And I noticed this about myself. I'll be like, oh, I just did people pleasing. Oh, I really didn't want to upset somebody, so I kept my mouth shut. Or you feel guilty or ashamed about something that you say about yourself. These things come up all the time, in everyday situations.

So the fear that is holding you back is the green light for you to go ahead. If it feels stretchy, if it feels scary, if it feels exciting, that is a green light. I'm talking about always leading with love, always having the filter of the heart and the highest good of all. But what if the fear of failure, the fear of success, or the fear of rejection, what if they didn't exist? What would you do? Before I've signed up to anything big, like a house or a program or a coach, anything big that feels stretchy, it's had a particular feeling to it. It's like butterflies, anxiety, stretchy, shaky. Do you know what I mean? It's like you're about to jump.

Have you ever jumped out of a plane? I skydived twice. Have you ever done anything so radical that you're like, my god, I don't know if I can handle it? You've stretched, and that stretch is the fear. And the fear has this energy to it. And if you lean into the fear, as long as you're doing it for the highest good, you will expand. And this is what happens. So for me, I couldn't see, couldn't feel, couldn't sense. Honestly, I was a super porous empath. I was taking on and absorbing everything and playing it out as if it was my own. But the fear of diving into me and doing the work, and leaving the Catholic religion, and not believing everything they were telling me, and worrying about the people pleasing, who was I going to leave behind, all of this stuff. That's my personal story. You'll have your own personal story too. But once I took that jump, just like out of the aeroplane, you realise you're okay. And you keep moving forward.

And here is the thing that you need to know right now. You're going to change and evolve anyway. You have to keep going anyway, because wherever you go, that is where you are. And whilst you have the privilege of being in this body, and I know it's challenging sometimes, I really, really do, whilst you have this entire ecosystem, which is a sensory system, it's constantly giving you information. This body is not you. It is simply a part of you. It's a borrowed sensory system that you can utilise and understand and get to know. But in the system, we've been taught to look outward and not get to know this.

And this is what I want you to really hear. We're not getting rid of the fear. We're not bypassing the human or Spirit. No spiritual bypassing here, my friend. But what we can do is we can walk along with the fear. And this is what we call courage. It's not about, I'll wait till I'm confident, because you never will be. Honestly, not really, not to the extent that you want to be, because we're always stretching and growing. It's about feeling the fear and walking with it and expanding with it. It's not about fixing yourself. It's about being yourself. It's about stepping forward. It's about taking the chance. It's about knowing that you're okay.

Let's close our eyes for ten seconds and just do a reset. Nice deep breath in, and breathing out. And just closing those eyes, if it's safe to do so, just for a few more seconds, as we reset, and letting all of those words drop down around you. Beautiful. And when you're ready, opening your eyes again, and just noticing how it felt when you closed your eyes down, and what's really alive for you right now. There will be conscious and unconscious activations going on right now. Activations as in also triggers. Things are coming up to the surface for you to start cleaning up. This is the unsexy work. This is the deprogramming, so then you can start waking up to all of your senses. Awakening is a process that is continuously happening, in many different ways.

When you're ready, I'm going to invite you to find somewhere where you can close your eyes down and relax down into your body. Taking a nice deep breath in, filling up your belly, and breathing down into your feet, and bringing yourself into relaxation. Feeling your feet on the ground. Growing some roots from your feet into the ground. Beautiful. And just allowing yourself to anchor down into the earth. Visualising the energy of the earth coming up around you. Remembering that you are not on the earth. You are in her, as she wraps her energy around you, healing and nurturing your body. Beautiful.

Dropping your barriers down, down, down, and allowing yourself to expand from your heart space into your aura. And if you want to, maybe you could come into the energy of something or someone that you are grateful for. Even if it is having these few minutes to yourself, to gift to yourself. What are you grateful for? As you breathe in deeply, and you breathe out, and you expand this heart energy, this gratitude energy of light, into your entire body and your aura. There's nothing you need to see. This is all about feeling and knowing. Your spirit is doing the work. Beautiful.

And now I want you to know that there is a golden light coming in through the top of your head, down through your entire vessel, down through into the earth, creating a beautiful portal between heaven and earth. This is where you get to cleanse, clear and activate. And now, on your next breath in, you're going to breathe in light and expand this portal. Expand this light out into the room that you are in. You are in a beautiful room full of light. And this is how big your energy truly is. Sensing the energy that you are in, however that looks for you. Noticing what you're noticing within your vessel. Maybe you feel tingles on your fingertips or in your palms. Sometimes we feel very light tingles or touches or heat through or on our body. Noticing what you notice. Keep breathing. Breathing in for the count of four, and out for the count of four. Beautiful.

Allowing yourself to reprogram what it means to see or sense, feel or know Spirit. Allowing yourself to create a blank slate. It's like turning over the page of your diary to the blank page, a clear canvas. And knowing that it's okay to clear it all out, getting all of the junk out of your aura and mind, fresh and clear. Knowing and acknowledging that your senses and feelings are truly the first point of connection. To know Spirit is to know yourself. So we must connect inward, rather than externally, and reprogram the deflection. The should have, could have, would have. Am I gifted? Really reclaiming your gifts. I am gifted. I am already a medium. And I want you to repeat this. I am gifted. I am already a medium, working on my skill set. The fear is my friend. The fear is my green light.

Dropping all expectations. Now, this one might be a little bit challenging, but I invite you to be willing to drop all expectations of what it means to see, sense, feel or know Spirit, and to be willing to shift the perspective that you have adopted over your lifetime, as we let go of all the programming that is no longer aligned with you. Letting go of all of that now. Composting it down from your body, from those cells, into the earth, returning to light. And now doing another body scan, from the top of your head all the way down to your toes. How is your body feeling? How are your emotions feeling? What are you sensing? Trust the heart as the heart speaks to you.

And when you are ready, start bringing yourself back to your body, but staying expanded. You are safe, loved, guided and protected. Start bringing the energy back into your body as you wriggle your fingers and your toes, feeling the gratitude for the experience, with whatever feeling came through. And when you're ready, three, two, one, open your eyes.

Hello, and welcome back. So I'm curious what senses came through. Maybe you did have a visual. Maybe you felt frustrated. You were like, why isn't this working again? Maybe you were like, this is not what I expected. Do we have expectations? Do we put too much pressure on our own shoulders? We did some reprogramming to get rid of those mistaken beliefs, and just know that you're going to continue to evolve even after this video. And a really cool little thing to do is to go and look at other people's comments, because you will see how diverse the experiences are.

Now, if you didn't feel anything or sense anything, maybe you were just sitting there and you could just hear the words, or maybe you had some mind chatter and you couldn't get out of your head. That's okay, because we really need to hone in to our skill sets by coming to the very end, and practicing. I spend many days every year going to silent retreats, sitting there for three hours a day doing meditation. It's kind of painful, and the human doesn't like it. The human is like, stop, what are you doing? The brain is going crazy. And honestly, often I won't see anything for days and days and days. In fact, the first and second day, my unconscious will shut me down. The subconscious is very, very clever like that. When we start to expand, we start to perceive, and if we can't handle it, it will knock us out. So if you felt like you went to sleep, don't worry. It just means it's working. The experiences are so vast, but none of them are wrong. You are definitely not the minority. You have been programmed, and you've been taught things that may not have worked for you, or may not be relevant to how you perceive.