Mediumship for beginners: Victoria's first ever lesson

I just want to introduce myself, especially to those who have no idea who I am. I'm Victoria Bond. I am a psychic medium. I'm also a coach, a mum, a wife, a friend, a sister. I am many different things, as are you, because we are all so many different energies. I can be absolutely magnificent and the kindest, nicest person in the entire world. I can be anything. And the truth is, unless you are willing to own all of who you are, you can't be the best medium. You can't be the best anything, because you're hiding half of who you are. You all have the ability to be anything that you choose to be. You have total choice.

So that's why I introduce myself as everything. Some people might just think, I'm just Mum, I'm just a crazy daughter. My parents probably think I'm hilariously crazy. To other people I'm their coach, or I'm their medium. I'm different things to different people, and so are you. So I'm going to ask you to drop all of your barriers now, and come in with fresh eyes. Come in without the attachments of the past on what you think mediumship is.

You have been brought up in a world full of judgment, full of polarity, and full of duality, really. The truth is, consciousness is everything, and knowing that you have total choice gives you the control back, and the power.

So what is a medium? There are many types of mediums. There are frauds. There are people that are probably mediums that are using their own insecurities to keep you small. They might do tarot, and there's nothing wrong with tarot, I love tarot, but they might be like, do this and do that, or, I feel like this man's coming, or, break up with your partner. Any medium that tells you what to do is not a great medium, in my experience. And that is because, what if you were already functioning from a higher consciousness, and you had bigger dreams than they ever had? They can only use their own experience to go off. So if you want to be a billionaire, and you've gone to a medium who's playing small and using their own experiences to do a reading, then maybe they can't see the possibilities that you see.

And this is why I do Magnificent Mediumship, my signature program. I'm here to show people that they all have their own unique gift, and that there are no limits to what we can create with our lives. I've had mediums limit me, and I've seen a lot of people limit their lives because of what a medium told them. And you may be one of those people. You may have gone, oh my goodness, the medium told me that I was going to meet the man with the blonde hair. So when that beautiful person with the dark hair walks past you, you're like, that's not the one. But what if that person was ten times better, and it was your soulmate, and you went, goodbye, the medium told me so? So where have we given away our own power to mediums in the past?

I've already asked you to think bigger. Bigger than what you have been taught to think. Beyond what you think this life is, and start tapping into what it really is. Start to create your own reality. Not Mum's, not Dad's, not Grandma's, not your friends'. Create your own, which will look different, because we are all different.

A great medium acknowledges themselves as energy, because we are energy. So a great medium knows that there is no difference between them and Spirit, apart from the fact that we have a body. So high five to all the human beings that are here. We've got a body. Hallelujah. We can dance, we can play, we can laugh, we can run, we can feel. We have a body. And how many of us are not acknowledging how extraordinary this is? This body gives you indications of what Spirit is trying to tell you. If your body died right now, you'd still have your spirit. You would still be a person. You just wouldn't be in a body. A great medium knows that, and that's why the fear is taken away.

Too many of us see Spirit up here on a pedestal. Oh my god, a spirit's talking to me, and it's three o'clock in the morning, so I must stay awake all night long. It's called loose boundaries. That's what I talk about in Magnificent Mediumship. It's module one, loose boundaries. Because you, in your own right, are a fantastic medium, a fantastic spirit, a fantastic being, and you have a soul. And this here is just something extra. It's your body. It's here to have fun with and to experience.

So being a good medium is knowing that there is nothing to fear, and they are aware of energy. So I want to talk about fear. Does anyone fear Spirit? Fear seeing them, fear hearing them, or fear what they think is going to happen if they open this huge portal of mediumship?

Okay, so fearing Spirit, where does this come from? It comes from the mind. Now, I don't know about you, but as a teenager I watched things like The Ring. How scary is The Ring? It is next level scary. And then we've got The Exorcist. And being brought up a Catholic girl, I was all like, oh dear Lord. But there's nothing to fear. There's nothing to fear. The fear has come from the conditioning that has been put on us.

Now, what is conditioning? Conditioning is people telling us things. So, watch out, the devil's on your back. That one still actually gets me, the devil's on your back. Then there's seances. Oh dear Lord, seances. I still don't do seances or anything like that, because I don't need to. I can just tap in. My friends used to be like, oh my god, we did a seance and then the chair moved. Scary, scary, scary stuff.

And why do we align to this conditioning? A, because we're young and we don't know any different, and we think that older people are wiser and we've got to listen to them. B, because we are brought up in this reality of drama. We connect over drama. So talking to Spirit isn't actually that dramatic. Talking to Spirit is talking to energy. And if you acknowledge that you're not just this body, that you're a being, and that you are energy, you can connect to them very easily. Very, very easily.

So we have this conditioned mind. And now that people are realising that they're mediums, I want to talk to coaches and mediums as well, because they especially will actually have points of view on what mediumship is or what it isn't. And the truth of the matter is, we're all going to have a different experience with it.

When Spirit started talking to me, you can imagine, I thought I was crazy. I can't tell the doctor that I'm seeing feathers and wings and angels. What is going on? Are they talking to me? I couldn't sleep. There was mind chatter. My ears were popping. So these are some of the signs.

And what happened was, I started noticing these signs from this girl. She was my acquaintance. She died, but she kept coming to me. And I thought, this is weird, because we weren't great friends at school, so why would she be coming to me now? I was close friends with her brother, and I was also doing her mum's hair. So I truly believe that we were all brought together, and she brought us together. It was all these miracles that happened.

It was after a whole year of her smacking me in the face with butterflies and feathers, to the point where everywhere I looked I was like, butterfly, butterfly, butterfly. And then pink, pink, pink, because light pink was her colour. And wings, and angel songs. So tons of signs and synchronicities were thrown at me, so much so that I was starting to talk out loud, going, what do you want? But she needed to get my attention.

So I finally took the plunge, and after many different things, I made her give me about ten million signs in a very short amount of time, because Spirit are not linear. They can create things all over the place. And I said, right, okay, I will contact your mum. And I don't take this lightly, because her mum lost her daughter. This is big stuff. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. So I got her mum to come over, and I opened my mouth, and all this channel came out. And all of a sudden I realised that I was feeling what she was feeling. I had tears coming through my eyes, saying these things that I could not have possibly known. I didn't know what their relationship was like.

And then I gave her mum a little present. Every time I saw these angels, and every shop I went to, there were these little tiny angels. I was like, why are there angels in every shop I go to? They'd pop out at me. Do you know what I mean? Have you ever been in a shop and a book just popped out, or something just popped down, and you're like, I've got to buy that? This happened like 28 times. I was like, oh my god, Spirit is making me buy something here. And I gave it to her mum, and her mum burst out crying for the first time, and she said, this means everything to me.

Now, I don't know exactly what that meant to her, but that is what mediumship is. Ninety percent of the stuff we say, we don't know what we are actually saying. Of course we can hear the words, but we don't know what we're saying, because it's really not for us. We're a part of the thing. So how am I going to read from my head? I'm not. I'm going to channel through information, and I'm going to trust and surrender. So that was basically my story.

So spirit can come through in the physical. How many of you give someone a present just because, and you don't know why, but it was calling for them? How do you know it wasn't their grandma giving a present, or their sister?

A story the other day is, I had roses all day long. Red roses, red roses in my head. I was talking in my lives about red roses. I was messaging people. I said, the red rose is looking at me, I wonder if this belongs to you. And she's like, yes, it's my grandma, it's her birthday today. And the same day there was a wedding. It was one of my good friends, and it was her brother's wedding, and their grandmother had come through before, and red roses was a sign. My husband came in that day and gave me a red rose. He never does that, but it was poking out from the fence, and he gave me a red rose. I was like, whoa. He didn't know that I'd been talking about red roses and Spirit all day.

Interestingly enough, that red rose belonged to two people with two grandmothers, because Spirit does not work just in solid forms. When we are functioning from energy, that means one thing can mean two or three or four. When I do a reading and I pull a card, and I'm reading it out loud for one person, then somebody else might be like, oh my god, that resonates with me. Because we are all connected. We are all one. We are this collective energy. If we can understand what energy really is, and how to tap into that from our being, not our mind, from our being, not just our body, and from our soul, not just our spirit, so much more can occur.

So a great medium asks questions, and acknowledges their gifts, and the person who you're reading for, and Spirit. So how many times have you had readings before, and you've gone wearing very plain clothes, and hidden your rings, because you don't want them to read you too much? They might be able to read your body language. Oh, I wonder what they're going to tell me. I used to be that girl. Father, Son and Holy Spirit, Hail Mary, full of grace. I'd put my rosary beads in my pocket and go, oh, I hope the devil doesn't jump on my back this time, I'm going into the crystal shop. But I couldn't stop myself, because I was so intrigued.

So how many of us have done that? We've been in fear and sat there going, what are they going to tell me? And then taken their word as gospel, and sat there and waited for that stuff to happen, while we're actually missing all the other millions of possibilities around us, because we're trying to function from the external, from what somebody else is telling us, rather than what we already know. Thinking someone else is going to get us to the sweet spot and tell us what our life is going to be. Because a medium can give you pointers on what you require. They can also tell you what you can come in and shift energetically. They can tell you, maybe just keep an eye around here, and watch your energy around here. They can tell you stuff like that. But they've got to keep it open. It's when mediums are telling you the yeses and the nos, and the definitely this and definitely that, that they are actually limiting you massively.

We've got this idea that to be a medium you have to talk to dead people, and that you're born with a gift, and you were seeing Spirit from two years old, since you could remember, and it got better and better. And there are platform mediums, and they do see very clearly. It doesn't mean that we're not mediums. If you think about it, you've got the All Blacks and the netball players. They're really, really good at what they do, but it doesn't mean that we don't go and play netball for fun. So we are all mediums, but we seem to put the separation between what a medium is or a medium isn't. But we all are. It's just really about understanding what a medium is to you, and cleaning up your fear.

So a great medium is conscious, and is always working on their consciousness. They do not judge. I used to judge, when I was religious. I have no judgment of things like that anymore, because I'm here to serve with love, and that's not my job. So it's really important as a medium to always come from an expanded consciousness, and not a judgment, because a judgment will make everything solid and dense. A judgment gives you tunnel vision.

If you're like me and you know that you're a medium, you know it, and you know you're here for great things and huge things, the first thing I had to do was clean up my own junk. What does cleaning up and preparing mean? It means cleaning up your blocks. What are your blocks? Trauma. Your blocks are the fear. And acknowledging it is the first step, because you can see it, and then all of a sudden the shadow goes, and you can get the information. So then you can realise, okay, so why is this a mistaken belief? Why does this need to be cleared?

A lot of my mediums cry. You wouldn't think so. I'm pretty tough. I'm a very dominant energy. One of my mediums was crying the other day, and she said, here I am, crying, I'm vulnerable. It is the strongest, most brave thing you can do, to cry or laugh, to bring it out. You can clean it up so much faster than holding on to it for fifty, sixty, seventy years. Why do you think so many sixty, seventy, eighty year olds all of a sudden are conscious and awake? Because it took them that many years to clean it up, because they weren't aware of it. So anyone who's listening to this and goes, yeah, I'm in a bit of fear, it means that you can see it, and you've brought it into your consciousness, and you can clean it up.

So preparing means cleaning up and releasing your blocks, and getting efficient at doing this regularly. I do this daily. I went to the beach today. I will journal today. I have basically prayed today. I don't pray to a man god. I just believe it's this higher consciousness, and I love tapping into that. And knowing your guides, and the energy of your guides, and knowing how to set an intention, and being strong with that.

Being prepared means you're strong. You are aware. You are functioning from consciousness, and consciousness is about being in an awareness of everything. Being a medium is being in an awareness of everything. So nothing is stronger than you. Nothing. So Spirit aren't here on a pedestal. They're just Spirit. If I died, I wouldn't want anyone to go, oh, hail Victoria, she's so much greater than me. I'm just me. And I just want to share my gifts.

So digging deep is really important if you want to be a medium. You've got to get really real about yourself and take full responsibility. We all have shadows. And being able to bring that up in a safe space is massive when it comes to being a medium, because you are going to use your experiences to help others. When you're a medium, what actually happens is Spirit will show you feelings as well. So you can see, you can hear, you can know, you can acknowledge, you can probably smell. I've been smelling things lately, like my granddad. And all these different clairs, all the different senses happen, and it changes and morphs all the time as you're growing in your mediumship. But if you've got a whole lot of baggage that you don't want to look at, then there's only so far you can go in your mediumship.

And knowing your guides as well. I don't want to make it too solid or dense. Some people go, I've got this guide, and he looks like this, and his name is this. And I've done all that stuff before as well, but now I'm like, okay, they swap and they change, and I've got way more than one. So whether you're a beauty therapist, whether you're a hairdresser, whether you're a massage therapist, whether you're a medium, whether you're a coach, you are a channel. You are a medium already.

So the shadow self, how do we deal with this? We journal. We do breath work. We allow ourselves to release by crying. Reiki is really massive right now. So to round up everything we've talked about today: what a medium is, being conscious, tapping into energy, and preparing. Preparing means cleaning up your own stuff, cleaning up your aura, cleaning up any trauma as it comes up. And trauma isn't necessarily a bad thing. If you fear Spirit, I would actually go to your journal. My journal is always by my bed. And I would write: why do I fear Spirit? What is my point of view on Spirit?

So Spirit is a person with no body. That's what Spirit is. So preparing yourself means, for me, I cleaned my room. My room is tidy and clear, so I can be a clean channel, so I don't get distracted. So the first thing I say in Magnificent Mediumship is, go clean your house, go clean your car, go clear your wardrobe, and get rid of the old so you can bring in the new. That's a part of mediumship. And also knowing that when your trauma comes up, it's okay to release it, to honour yourself, to do whatever it takes, even if it's taking three days off work to be with yourself. That is okay.

So I want you to close your eyes. I'm going to invite you to take a nice deep breath in through your nose, and fill up your belly. Hold it for the count of four, and release out your mouth, bringing yourself down into relaxation. Breathing in again, through your nose. Hold it. Palms up, willing and ready to receive. And breathing out and down, breathing love and light into the room. One more time, in through your nose. Hold it. And breathing out, bringing your body down into relaxation. Feeling your feet on the ground.

And I'm going to ask you now to feel your heart centre. Feel the middle of your heart centre, and acknowledge your being, your being that is with your body. I'm going to ask you now to spread that beautiful warm feeling from your heart throughout your entire body, and I'm going to ask you to glow that feeling up, to make it the brightest, whitest light. A bright white light throughout your entire body. And on your next breath out, expand that white light into your aura, so you're in a glowing cocoon. And on the next breath out, I'm going to ask you to fill up the room with white light.

Now I'm going to ask you to drop all your barriers again. Drop them down, drop them down. You're in a safe place. You're safe. And expand your energy to fill up the town that you're in. Expand it to fill up the city, the country, around the world and through the world, and all the way out to the universe. Expanding, expanding, expanding. And if you feel like you don't know what you're doing, that's okay, because you don't need to think. Just do it. Dropping your barriers, feeling your body, acknowledging your body, and acknowledging how big you truly are, beyond the body.

You are the strongest entity in your reality. You are in fear of nothing. You are aware of everything. Dropping any judgment of what you think mediumship is. Dropping all judgment that you have on other people, acknowledging that it is a mirror of the judgment of yourself. Now I want you to visualise, from your heart, a billion sparkles going from your heart centre, out a million miles in every single direction, shining your light as bright as you are. There's no more hiding, my friends. You are here for massive things. You are here on purpose. You are no accident.

Asking your team to make themselves known to you. Asking your angels to contribute. Asking yourself to be, and acknowledge the pure light that you are. Visualising a white light coming from source, coming from the divine, all the way down through the top of your head, clearing and cleansing, cleaning out the mind, activating your heart, and allowing yourself to be whatever you're choosing to be in this lifetime. That white light is going down the back of your legs and through your feet, into the centre of the earth. And this is where you are right now. This is your home for now. You are on holiday, and the earth requires you.

Now say it with me. I am a magnificent medium, and I do things the way I choose. I am a magnificent medium. I embrace my unique power. I am a magnificent medium, and I don't need to know how anyone else does it, because I already know.

I invite you lastly to feel the love for yourself. You can hug yourself. You can touch your hands, your face, your heart. Acknowledge your beautiful self, and be grateful for you. Out of the millions and billions of people on the earth, there is no one like you. You are unique. You are here on purpose. You chose this time. Your soul chose it. And right now, if you are listening to this, you and I have chosen each other. There are no accidents. Everything you have done has been perfect up until this moment, and now you get to leap and change and choose more. Dropping all of the mistaken beliefs. Let it all melt off you into the earth.

Mediumship mastery is all about coming back to who you truly be. And you are perfect, and you are divine, and I love you. Breathing in through your nose, bring a whole lot of oxygen into your belly, and breathe it out. When you're ready, wiggle your fingers and your toes, and bring yourself back to this space. I truly believe that we are all attracted to the right people. So no more hustling, no more over giving, no more trying so hard. It's time for you to turn up the volume of you.