Why you forgot your psychic gifts as a child, and how to remember

I realised the whole entire time that was me. That was me in the now as an adult visiting my child self. You were born wide open. You knew everything, sensed everything, and you knew things that no one had ever taught you. And then somewhere between the ages of 5 and 10, something happened, and you learned it was not safe to perceive all of those things anymore. So, you stayed quiet and safe and started to focus on what you thought was important for your safety.

But the thing is, the gift didn't leave. It just went underground. If you have spent years wondering if you have a gift or whether what you imagined back then actually was real, this video is for you. You never lost your gift. You were trained to forget it. My name is Victoria Bond. I'm a psychic medium and spiritual empowerment coach. And in this video, I'm going to show you the three specific stages where you shut down those gifts.

And at the end of this video, we're going to do a special activation so you can bring all the remembrance back into your reality to the forefront of your living. Here is something that most people don't talk about in the spiritual world. There is a science between the exact age that your gifts seemingly disappeared. When you were born, your brain was almost entirely right hemisphere dominant. This is the side for pattern recognition, sensing, feeling, intuition, knowing. This is the information that doesn't come through the logic.

A child will receive before analysing. And a lot of training starts coming in when we're little. So there's your first clue. But here's the thing. Between the age 5 and 10, the left hemisphere starts to come in. The logic, the desire to learn, the brain goes through this massive development phase. And this is when we start school. So we have to start to put things into categories and figure out what we need to learn for our safety as a human being.

And it does something very specific. It decides what is important to hold on to and what needs to be let go. It decides what counts as real and what counts as not real. In other words, it looks at every piece of content coming through the senses, the imagery, the intuition, the gut, and goes, hm, is this real? When I'm looking at the world around me, does this match? If it doesn't, it's gone.

So, just imagine you're 6 years old. Maybe this has happened for you or maybe there's a story similar and you can perceive, sense, feel, maybe even see your grandma in the corner of the room. But the problem is your grandma has passed away. So you're telling your mum, I can see grandma in the corner of the room or grandma's been speaking to me, whatever it is. And mum says, well, grandma passed away. She's not here.

So what you are seeing is not real. That is proof that we literally will take that left hemisphere dominant and go, "Okay, so that's not real. So, let's throw it out and start focusing on what is real." Instantly, we've gone underground with our psychic abilities, buried them, if you will. The world will always correct you to make you more dense, more solid, and more logical. This is also the reptilian brain that is connected in to the structures that we are in. How many times have you been told, "Don't be silly.

It was just a dream. There's no such thing as monsters. You have got such vivid imagination." Oh, that was your imaginary friend. No one told you it wasn't real to be cruel. They did it for your safety or a lack of understanding of the spiritual world. But the good news is we can undo this all. And as we start undoing this, as we start diving deeper into the buried and bring it out to the forefront, we will start getting memories back.

Memories of childhood, of senses, of feelings, of gut knowings, of knowledge, and even wisdom from when we were really, really tiny. Even a baby, I have got memories of myself being an empath in the crib. Honestly, that's like mind blowing. Also, we get to transform the memory bank. We get to flip the script. We get to take what we've learned and recreate our brain in a way where we can perceive the right and the left.

We can bring it together as an equilibrium so we can have a spiritual life that is in harmony. Not out of balance, not out of mediumship scarcity, not out of the logical brain thinking it has to be one way or no way. It's more of like our very own belief system that we get to create because we are the creators of our reality. We get to shift the filter and to grow awareness and to get out of our heads and into our hearts. And I truly believe this is the way the future is going now. When I was little, I perceived colours.

I sensed things in wardrobes. I sensed a lot of things about people. But I thought because I wasn't seeing ghosts, because I wasn't having big bang experiences, that I had no gifts. When I started diving into mediumship and channelling, what happened is memories started coming back because of these filters that I had over my eyes, over my heart, over every single part of myself. As I started unfiltering myself, they started popping in. So, I want to tell you my story from when I was a little girl because this may resonate with you.

Now, my story isn't massive and exciting and scary and I haven't had any massive spook stories and I know some of you watching have and I know there's some fear connected to that. But also, I want to speak to the subtleties. When I was around about 5 6 years old, I used to see colours in my eyes. So, I'd lie there in bed. I'd be trying to sleep and I'd see yellow and blue and green and pink and they're all kind of like dancing around together. And it scared me because my logical filter was like, "This is not real.

Mummy says this is not real." And it must be because I looked at the light and closed my eyes. But if they were open or closed, I could see these colours. So, I'd go into my mum and dad's room and ask, "Can I please sleep with you? I'm scared of the colours that I'm seeing." And my mum would say, "It's not real. There is nothing there. It's just your imagination." That is a story where I was perceiving something.

And it wasn't until I was around about 33 and I started unfiltering myself and waking up, if you will, and I went, "Oh my god, I think that was spirit. Oh my gosh. I wonder what would happen if I felt safe enough. If I was in a world that allowed this to come to fruition. I wonder what I would perceive. The other one was in the same bedroom when I was five.

Between five and seven, I remember cuz I lived in a specific house. I was scared of the wardrobe. Honestly, every night when my mum tucked me in, I was like, "Mum, there's something in the wardrobe." And she'd say, "Victoria, there's nothing in the wardrobe." Honestly, I was so scared. So, one day I decided to test the theory. Rather than having my back towards the wall, I flipped over and I was facing the wall. And then what I woke to was a tapping.

I felt something walking up to me and tapping me on the shoulder. I never slept without my back towards a wall until I was well and truly in my 30s and went through my awakening. I was absolutely petrified. If I was sleeping in a room and sharing a bed and there was no walls, then I would have to be back to back with a person because I was petrified something was going to come behind me and tap me on the shoulder. That of course I believe was a spirit. So, these are very subtle examples, but I've had many examples from many clients that have been full blown spooked out by seeing a grandmother standing in the corner or the imaginary friends that weren't so imaginary.

So, we have tried to bypass all of these abilities and the lack of knowing what they mean or the energy with them has created fear. Right? The colours weren't scary. They weren't scary at all. They could have been fairies. They could have been angels. They could have been spirit guides. But of course, because it was unknown and I hadn't been taught that that was normal, I put it into the fear category.

And then I threw it out of my consciousness altogether and forgot about it until I was in my 30s. When we start to take away the filters and we start to bring the gifts to the forefront from when we were really little, what happens is we get to decondition what the meaning of things really was and is and how we can work with those gifts now with a completely different viewpoint with the filters being taken off. I know for myself if my children have ever said things about seeing, perceiving, hearing, or feeling anything, I have always believed them. But I have often had to watch myself in how I'm expressing to them. So, for instance, if children have ever said to me, I'm scared there's a monster, rather than saying monsters don't exist, I mean, that's just the way that they're expressing it to us. I'm like, what are you seeing?

What are you sensing? How does it feel? And then I teach them to be the strongest being in their reality. So that takes their power back. And we get to do this for ourselves, which is super exciting. There are three stages of forgetting. And I'm going to name them right now. And then we're going to go deeper into them. Silencing, replacing, and armouring.

And once I bring this into your conscious awareness, then we can literally do the unlearning and we can bring your gifts to the forefront. Are you ready? Silencing. Well, it kind of just says it in the label. We silenced ourselves because we may have been laughed at, mocked, or even like pushed out of a circle and been made to seem or feel weird. So, this can be literally from the ages of seven and 10 when you're starting to build relationships with your friends.

The silencing is real because all we have to notice is someone looking at us a little bit funny or saying no to us. They don't perceive that. And we learn that that doesn't make us fit in. That actually separates us. So, we silence ourselves because we don't want to be the weird one that is the outcast. Okay. So, now we're going to go into the process for the silencing.

If it feels good for you, you can put your hands on your heart. Maybe you want to hold your hand. Maybe you want to give yourself a hug or close your eyes. Whatever feels good for you. And I invite you to remember the first thing that comes through from childhood to do with something that's a bit different, a bit extraordinary. It could be like the colours that I saw or the wardrobe or it could be the grandmother standing in the corner.

What is the first memory that you have? Allow it to pop into your mind's eye. Now notice what you can sense, feel, hear, see. Maybe it pops through in a colour or an image or a photo or a word. And now I want you to say out loud what that memory is. Even if it doesn't make sense to you, okay? Verbalizing it is very important. Having it witnessed in this space is very important.

Having your angels and your guides hear it, having yourself hear it out loud is how we undo the silencing. So, I also invite you if you want to go a little bit further with this to really anchor it in, go write it down. Go read that to a friend, go tell someone who might be connected. Maybe it's your mum. Maybe, hey, mum, I saw all these colours in my eyes when I was a little girl. Do you remember that?

I think it was spirit. We can be witnessed by ourselves and by others. And it undoes the silencing. This is a healing process all in itself. And it will make you more confident. When you see things that seem a little bit paranormal and you voice it out to someone, it becomes your normal. And that is filtering number one. Done. Replacing is the second stage of forgetting that we want to unlock today.

So we replaced. So we went from the right brain hemisphere to the left brain hemisphere for safety. And what an amazing brain we have. So what we did is we replaced. We started making excuses. We started making up stories of why things happened. At 5 years old, I'm looking at the lights, the colours, and saying, "Oh, it must have been the light bulb.

What a clever 5 year old I was." But I was replacing. I was making up excuses for what I was seeing. If I saw a shadow, I would be like, "Oh, there's something in my eye." You know, like there's a million excuses we make and we replace it. It's the logical brain kicking in. We do it all the time. Before we do the practice, I want you to know this one thing.

Don't try to justify. Try not to use the logical brain to justify what you're seeing or feeling or sensing or what words or colours or senses come through. Okay? So, I want you to close your eyes down for a moment. Put your hands on your heart if that feels good for you. Or you can just have them on your lap or down by your side. I want you to take a nice deep breath in through your nose, filling up your belly and out through your mouth, slowly just relaxing, dropping your barriers down, down, down.

And now you're going to ask yourself this question. What do I know right now that I haven't let myself acknowledge? What do I know right now that I have not let myself acknowledge? Let your greatest imagination take flight. What is the first thing that pops into your mind? A word, an image, a sense, a knowing. Maybe it's a feeling, a shrinking, or an expanding, a memory.

Wriggle your fingers and toes. Blink your eyes open and come back into the room. Training the mind to trust what it sees and feels. Discernment is massive, of course, and I've got plenty of videos on discernment, standards, and boundaries. But I really want you to stretch this muscle. I want you to go, okay, without justifying what I'm seeing or hearing or feeling or whatever, just like the lights, what did I get?

And then you can write it down or tell somebody to anchor it in so it can be witnessed without trying to justify or make it make sense because connecting into spirit in mediumship is not a logical process. It is a heartfelt sense, a right hemisphere process. So, I'm curious, what did you get? Feel free to pop it into the chat. I'd love to know. And it doesn't need to make sense.

I think I've already said that in five different ways. If you have been praised for using your brain and intellect, especially if you were really good at school, if you were really good at like book intelligence, then this might be a little bit tricky for you. It's something that you can practice coming into your heart space and trusting the image, the feeling, the knowing, the sense, whatever drops in and writing it down without trying to fix it or make it a logical process. So if that is you, then I invite you to do that every single day. Practice makes perfect. The third one is armouring.

This is very self explanatory. Why? Because we are wanting to protect ourself. Now I was the weird kid like I said. So I was very blessed to be brought up in a country school and a very open kind of community but still it was a normal school. Still it was a normal community and armouring ourselves because we don't want to be the one that is too out the gate weird.

We don't want to be the one that's playing on the playground by ourselves. We don't want people laughing and mocking us. We put armour up. I call these barriers. Now, armouring is a natural process. We want to fit in and God knows our families want us to fit in. So, from the ages of 5 to seven, not only are we having this brain development and this shifting, we are literally being trained massively to fit in.

Television is doing it. Our peers are doing it. Teachers, the ones that love us, the ones at home, of course. So how do we unarm ourselves and why is it important? It is important because when we put up barriers and safety guards because we don't want to be hurt, we are also blocking the intuitive energy that is trying to come through to us. We are porous.

What does that mean? It means that we are actually not dense scientifically. You can go look this up as well. We are energy. We put up these big walls like don't come near me. And what happens is when energy comes in rather than coming in so we can literally perceive and receive and filter it through in a way that works for us, we bounce it off. One of the first things I teach in my mediumship course is to drop the barriers.

A lot of people are afraid to do that. It takes people sometimes quite a while to do it. We're going to do it today because once you do it, then you realise that your intuition is so much larger than you ever gave yourself credit for. You are not your human. You are so much larger. Your aura is gigantic. And imagine if you didn't put all these castle walls around you to protect yourself.

So firstly, there's nothing you need to protect yourself from. You are the strongest being in your life in your reality that you created. I wish my 5 year old self had known that. And that's something I've certainly taught my children. So once we drop down those barriers, it feels a little bit different, right? We can feel like we're a little bit raw, a little bit expanded.

Have you ever just like walked into a shop or into school, whatever you were like at school or into a group and you're like, "Hi, how's it going?" and you're kind of trying to make yourself smaller. What if you didn't try to fit in? What if you just allowed yourself to be the lighthouse that you are? And what if people loved that? This is called untraining. This is called unlearning to regain your gifts.

So, I want you to do it now, right here with your eyes open. Drop your barriers. Drop your barriers. Drop your barriers. Now, why do you need the armour? You don't. You don't need it because you are the strongest being in your reality. You're a conscious creator and there's nothing you need to be afraid of. Religion will often say you need to protect yourself.

Spiritual people will say you need to protect yourself. I say you are your greatest protection by being in your power. Now, the opposite of somebody walking around all closed in and insecure is someone who walks with their shoulders back with a smile on their face and their head up. And what they do is they take space. They are the space. If someone wins a gold medal at the Olympics, they've got their arms up and they're like, "Yes." They take as much space as possible.

If somebody doesn't win, they've got their hands on their knees. They're trying to make themselves smaller. What if we took up the space and we dropped those barriers? Drop those barriers. Drop those barriers. Drop those barriers down. Drop those barriers. Drop those barriers. Drop those barriers down. If you feel like this is too hard to do and you're feeling uncomfortable or triggered or activated, that's perfectly normal.

Repeat after me. I am the strongest being in my reality. I am safe, guided, loved, and protected always. I don't need armour because I am the light that shines. I am protected always because of the power I hold. Nice deep breath in and breathing out. Now I want you to notice. What do you notice? What do you sense? Do you feel more expanded? I feel more expanded.

We are so much larger than we think we are. And when we try to armour and we tighten up like all these examples I've given you, it's like trying to fit into clothes that are too small. And that's what we're doing when we are shrinking ourselves. So expand, put your shoulders back. Do this all physically as well and drop those barriers. If someone's coming towards you that you don't particularly like, you don't put up barriers, you expand.

Now, I've got way more about this in Magnificent Mediumship, but I hope that little tool, that little process helps you in your everyday life, and I'd love to hear from you and how you use it. So, we've covered silencing, replacing, and armouring. And if you use these processes that we have gone through today, you will notice massive shifts. You may already be noticing them now. And now I promised you something. I said at the end of the video, we're going to do an activation which is going to help you from everything that you buried to bring it back up so you can shine your brightest light in your everyday life and of course with your spiritual practices.

It is called the inner child reunion. I have found inner child work to be absolutely transformational for me. It has helped me to quantum leap and to literally collapse timelines. So, are you ready? If you are, please find somewhere nice and comfortable where you can close your eyes safely and receive this activation. There will be some light language that comes in to help to open up any spaces that have been buried so they can come through safely where you're protected, loved, and supported even after this video.

When you're ready, take a nice deep breath in and close your eyes down. Breathing out long and slow and into relaxation. Again, breathing in deeply, filling up your belly. Third eye gaze. Hold the breath for a moment and gently breathe out your mouth. Long and slow. Coming deeper into relaxation. And one more time in your own time. Breathing in deeply.

Third eye gaze. Hold at the top. And gently breathing out long and slow out your mouth. Going deeper into relaxation, letting the day fall away, letting the words from today's training fall away just for the next few minutes, giving yourself this gift. And now I want you to visualise a picture of yourself as a child. Not a photograph, but a picture in your mind's eye.

Can you see what you looked like as a child? The real you. See yourself at the age that pops through, which is most probably the time that you were most open. Maybe five, maybe seven, maybe even younger. Where were you? In your bedroom, in the garden? Do you remember who you're with? Let all of the details fill themselves in just coming into the energy of the little you.

The one that could feel everything. The one that saw things, knew things. The one who was told to stop using their greatest imagination. They have been waiting for you. They haven't been waiting for anybody else other than you. Time is not real. So as you are seeing the child version of yourself in real time, this is also your future self, your adult self visiting you as a child.

This can transform everything. This is the grown version of you who has finally come back to give you the information, the love, the support, and the guidance that you need and require. I invite you now to come into a space with the child self. Maybe you kneel down, sit next to them, or maybe if it feels good for you and them to embrace. Just noticing what you notice. Noticing what your child self needs.

How do they seem? Do they seem full of life, excited, or insecure and withdrawn? No judgment here. Just observation. And now I want you to let your child self tell you how they feel. And I invite you to listen and witness, not fix or save. Let them open their hearts and tell you what they are going through, how they feel, and what they're sensing. I invite you now to give your child self whatever they require.

Maybe it's a physical hug, words of wisdom, or some golden nuggets about their future. Do this now. Let your child self respond in whatever way they choose to. And now feel what happens. Feel the warmth that moves through you when you stop fighting that part of yourself. They are not separate from you. They are you. And they will remember the visit from their future self.

And the trajectory of their life may or may not change. But this is a profound moment in your reality. As you become one, you drop your barriers and you expand in all directions. You drop the filters, the conditioning, and you allow yourself to expand as far and wide as you truly choose. And you are truly ready. A little bit of light language is going to come through now for your healing and expansion.

Nice deep breath in and breathing out. It is time for your child self to integrate back into your adult self. Now, this can happen in the process of saying goodbye, giving them a high five, a hug, or a fist pump. See you soon. Or maybe you just maybe you just shift into the vibration of the now. It's never goodbye. It is always see you later. And I want you to start wriggling your fingers and your toes and taking a nice deep breath in again.

And as you're breathing out, letting go, letting go, letting go. And when you're ready, opening your eyes, blinking them open, and looking at your hands, and bringing yourself back into the space, beautiful. How are you feeling? You know, I remember when I was a little girl and I was in the same bedroom when I used to see the lights and I remember feeling a warmth at my bedside. I felt like it was an older person, like an angel or a grandmother. And I felt so safe and warm and loved.

And the coolest thing is when I grew up and I did an inner child meditation and I went back to that moment, I realised the whole entire time that was me. That was me in the now as an adult visiting my child self. So don't be surprised if you have a memory of someone visiting you and it was you that just did that now because my friends, time is not linear. That may take a little bit to process. Please be gentle with yourself. Drink some water.

Stomp your feet. Do some grounding. Sometimes it's nice to do a bit of a stretch like a cat. Shake off anything that no longer is required. This is a beautiful process. Stay grounded. Drop those barriers. Stay expanded. This is how we grow in our spiritual practices, in our channelling and connecting and unblocking ourselves by unlearning to relearn.

So, I'm really curious how you're feeling. The last thing I want to say to you is you were never imagining it. Maybe you perceived a monster and maybe it was a darker energy and that's how you filtered it through your mind. Maybe you had imaginary friends and maybe they were actually spirits that were helping you out or visiting you or you were actually looking after them. All in all, you're a gifted being. You are a spirit that has a body and it's time for us to wake up to be more conscious and to live our lives as spiritual beings. Use the logic and use the intuition and bring it all together as one. This is called sovereignty.