Why can't I connect with Spirit? The 4 blocks and how to clear them

I want to tell you something that nobody told me for 33 years. You are not blocked. There is a specific reason why you feel like you cannot connect in with Spirit, and what I'm going to share with you today is going to change everything. Your brain is doing a spectacular job of gathering all of the Spirit stuff and putting it into the junk pile before it reaches your consciousness.

But it goes a little bit deeper than that, and I'm going to give you an example. So just imagine this with me. You're at a Christmas party and there is so much going on. There's music going on. There's people laughing. There's so many conversations going on. Amongst all of this noise, you hear your name being called from the opposite side of the room. Your name had been flagged as important. So amongst all the chaos, all the smells, all the noise, all the intensity, you were trained to hear it and to acknowledge it. And we can use this to your benefit when it comes to your spiritual practices and your mediumship.

So here's the thing about Spirit that you might want to know. Spirit doesn't yell. It's a flash of your imagination. It's a sense or a smell or a memory. It's a colour that pops in, and it's not bold and in your face. Ninety nine percent of the time, it is something that, if you don't capture it with your conscious awareness, it's gone.

So I'm going to tell you a little story about my very first reading, because I feel like it might resonate with you, and you may find that there are some mirrors in your very own life. So I was a hairdresser. I was interested in spirituality. I always have been. I've always had signs and synchronicities, but I thought I was the exception and that I couldn't connect with Spirit. I really did not think I had any types of gifts. I thought that was just in my lineage and I didn't have it. I skipped the gift, I thought.

So anyway, here I am hairdressing in the basement of my house, and my client, I knew she went to the spiritual church. I knew she was into mediumship and all the things, and I asked her if I could do a reading on her. I said, after I do your hair, do you mind coming upstairs and I will do a practice reading on you? I think I might be a medium, but I'm not sure, and I need to practice on someone that I don't know, because I didn't want to cheat, and I didn't want to be embarrassed either and feel like a fool. So I thought, this is safe. She is safe, and I knew she'd tell me the truth.

So we went upstairs after I did her hair, and I got this very loud thought, like in my ear, a loud thought saying, put down the cards. So I put down my oracle cards, and I was like, oh my god, what am I doing? I'm literally pretty anxious. I'm on a time frame, because I've got to go pick up the kids from kindy. And I said to her, I'm just going to do this. I'm this anxious kind of mess. I'm pacing up and down my hallway, and she's just sitting there, and I'm just like, oh my gosh, get into it, Victoria.

And I said, all I can see is a man who looks like Clark Gable from Gone with the Wind. And in my brain, I'm like, Victoria, what are you talking about? Gone with the Wind? You remember that from when you were a tiny little girl? So anyway, I'm like, just go with it, Victoria. He was tall. His moustache was very distinguished. He was standing in a certain way. He had this sad kind of energy to him. He wasn't bouncing. He was just standing there in a certain particular way.

And I was like, what else can I see? And next minute I saw a little boy and a little girl, really young, blonde with blue eyes. Well, that's kind of strange. They look completely different to him. And he's holding the hands of these children. And I was like, wow, this is insane. I'm going to be so embarrassed when she tells me no, no, no, that was interesting, but no. Anyway, I kept going, and I just told my ego to go to the corner of the room, because if I don't know, I don't know. And I said to her, that's what I saw. Does that resonate with you?

And she said, Victoria, that was one of the best readings I've ever had in my life. That was my uncle who passed away three years ago, and I've been trying to communicate with him ever since. I've had so many readings, and he hasn't come through for anyone. Everyone said he looked like Clark Gable from Gone with the Wind. He had two children, a boy and a girl, blonde hair and blue eyes. And he had a sadness about him because, in the middle of the night one day, when the children were very young, their mum took the kids and fled. He was a full time dad, and he woke up to his kids being gone, and he did not reunite with them until they were adults. My client was the one who reunited them, when she was overseas working. So it was the first time they saw each other for many, many years. I've got goosebumps. He had come through to say thank you so much for doing what you did.

And then all of a sudden, because I was getting yes, yes, yes, tick, tick, tick from what she said, the feelings and the emotions came through. So I went from the clairvoyance, like the movie playing out, the greatest imagination, to sadness and happiness and all these emotions, and I'm telling her, and she was just like, that is super accurate, Victoria.

At that moment, I just wanted to drop down onto the ground and cry. It's like my life flashed before me. How much of my life, in my imagination, did I pass off as coincidence, as an act of imagination, when truly it may have been psychic information? How many people could I have helped? And your mind just starts going. But what I realised was, if I can do this, everyone can do this. Imagination, senses, our bodies.

I felt so scared. I was literally so scared. But I knew it was like standing on the edge of a cliff. I just had to jump, and I just had to speak, and I just had to see, and I just had to trust. And what if I got a no? Then I would have got a no. And what if I kept trying, and I kept practicing, and I kept going for it? And this is what I teach. Nos are not bad. Nos are good, because then we're getting closer to what it is that wants to come through. We've got to train the brain to look out for what is truth, what is important, and utilise our imagination, our senses, our smells. Utilise our hearing, our feelings, our knowing. And when we bring these clairs together, which I'm going to talk about more shortly, everything changes.

I'm going to share with you now the four main blocks, so you can know what they are and start working on them now, so you can be a fantastic reader. And I'm going to name them straight away, so you know exactly what we're going to be getting into. Number one, claircognizance. Super important for us to look into, because people are always focused on clairvoyance instead of claircognizance. Claircognizance is something you can access right now. Number two is emotional overload. It's very hard for us to tune into Spirit when we are overloaded with emotions of ourselves and others. Number three, the logical filter. This is the deep programming that we have received our whole lives. Now, this is not a wrongness, but we need to address this. And number four is visual doubt. We're going to cover all four of these, and I promise you, if you listen, if you start to decondition this, you're going to get really sharp when it comes to your mediumship.

The claircognizance block. This is like the brain fog, and this one is quite prominent in our thinkers, our intelligent beings. I find when I'm doing my Magnificent Mediumship certification, I get a lot of what I call unicorns, very gifted beings that are very intelligent. And the intelligence can create a bit of a mind knot and get us fogged. So the psychic fog is a real thing, and we need to learn how to open up so our claircognizance can come through nice and strong.

So what is the answer to the claircognizance fog, for the brainiacs? This is something I want you to do. I want you to grab an object. A nice simple object, a peg or a pen. Grab the object, stare at it, and literally ask this question: Spirit, what am I missing? What is the first thing that comes through? I want you to notice the feeling. If there was a colour, if there was a word, if there was a sense, your brain definitely did something, or your body definitely did something. What was that thing? What was the first thing? Not the second thing, the first thing. That is claircognizance. A very simple little skill here to access. But what it does is, we start opening up. So your psychic mediumship becomes so much bigger, because you're retraining the brain.

So number two, the emotional overload block. This is for the empaths. This is the empath's burden. This is really the one that resonates with me deeply, because if you are feeling every single other person, if you feel like you're riding a wave and you can barely keep up with the emotions of the world, and the news just flips you over the edge, and the world is so big and emotional and intense, then how are you ever going to hear Spirit? Now, I'm not taking away that intensity from you. I believe you. I'm there with you. But I am here to guide you to what it is that you need to do, so you can actually tap into this ability of your clairsentience. Because clairsentience is what you're sensing. It's what you're feeling. It's really everything other than the noise. So we need to learn how to have stillness, and I'm going to teach you exactly how to do that.

What do we do? Well, first of all, we claim back what is ours, and we let go of what is not. Not my monkeys, not my circus, literally. Now, if it's not my emotion, I don't want to carry it. It's not my emotion to carry. Why do empaths do that? Because we want to connect with the other so much. So if you're an empath, every single day, I want you to do this thing. Who does this truly belong to? For every feeling, every fear, every thought, every emotion that you feel, that you think is yours. Who does this truly belong to? Return to source with love.

If you do this three times a day, or maybe thirty times a day, I started off with doing it about thirty times a day, you will start to understand what is yours and what is not. And I really wanted to hone this in for the empaths, for clairsentience, because it is really, really important that when we are mediums, when we are tapping into Spirit, that we know what is ours and what isn't. This makes us fantastic psychics. You don't need to be overloaded with emotions. You just need to be able to hold your own.

Number three is the logical filter block. This is for the clairaudience. I know this one as well. Have you ever had that high pitch in your ears, like you've been to a loud concert, but you haven't been to a concert? Have you ever had the ear popping, like you've just dived into the water, but you haven't been for a swim? Have you ever had a song go on repeat? I used to have Pink, the singer Pink, and just three words of her chorus going over and over and over for about three weeks, until I got the message. Has that ever happened to you? They call that an earworm.

This is for those of you who hear things and you just think it's your own voice, because the truth is, we are continuously hearing everything. Do you remember, at the very beginning of this video, when I was talking about my very first reading, where I put down the cards, and I heard a voice, in my own voice, through my ear but in my brain, say, put down the cards? And I just put down the cards. I knew I had to. That is exactly what we're talking about.

The funny thing about the clairaudience, this logical filter, is more often than not, the message comes internally, not externally. I very rarely hear Spirit talking to me externally. And here's the thing about how we've been trained when it comes to Spirit stuff and ghosts and all the things. We've been trained to think that Spirit and angels and ghosts and all the things are external from us. But it's not. We are the portal. We are the medium. We're the vessel. We're the communication. We're the remote control. All these buttons, all these clairs, are within us.

Number four is the visual doubt block. So this is the clairvoyance block. This is essentially a universal block, because seeing with our eyes has definitely been favoured over seeing with our third eye, because it's a lot easier, and we've been told, look where you're walking, look at this, look at that, believe what you are seeing, you've got to see it to believe it. So the truth is, we do have a third eye. We do have this chakra here, this energy centre, and it's connected to the pineal gland, and we can literally activate it.

So let me give you some examples. A word just pops into your mind. So you might see the word mind right now. What word can you see when I'm speaking words? What can you see in your mind when I'm speaking? What about your name? Can you see your name in your mind right now? Can you hear your name in your mind right now? Can you feel your name in your mind right now? Can you sense your name in your mind right now? Isn't it interesting? How could you hear your name? I'm curious.

What about a colour? What if a colour just drops in? What if someone that you loved and passed away pops in? I just saw a childhood friend from school. What if you see that visual of that person right there in your mind? What if it comes in a memory form, like being in the schoolyard or being at a Christmas dinner? These are all signals that you are clairvoyant. Now, if you've got an imagination and you've got eyes, you've got a brain, you are clairvoyant. But it's really about changing the expectation of what we think being clairvoyant is.

Okay, I want you to close your eyes down. You know the drill. Nice deep breath. Anchor into your seat or the earth, or both. Crown open. Bringing a white light down. Body scan to relax your body. Come into your heart and expand. And now I want you to do a third eye gaze. What is the first colour that you notice behind your eyelids, in your third eye? Give it a shape. Give it a feeling. And now notice what you notice.

And if this is a little bit hard, and you're feeling like, I can't do this, I'm not clairvoyant, maybe you're hearing and noticing your brain telling you things. Maybe you can visualise there's a golden door in front of you. Maybe you visualise that you're in a room with that golden door, and you can walk up to that golden door, and you open up that golden door, and there is something behind that door. What is it? What is a random thing that you see, sense, notice, feel? Maybe it's a flower, a person, a colour. Maybe it's nothing. Maybe that is something.

Close the door. Bring whatever that vision was into your heart space. Remember it, whether it was a sense, a colour, a person or an image. Put a smile on your face. Feel grateful for being here, for choosing you. And when you're ready, open those eyes.

So please remember, you're not an exception. You didn't just not get the gift, like I thought, like Mum thought. It's time for us to come out of the spiritual closet. It's time for us to claim that we are mediums before we are even mediums. Just like with my first reading, I couldn't go back once I knew that my greatest imagination had some psychic abilities. I've had a thousand nos and a thousand yeses. And this is something I also love to teach about. Don't be deterred by getting a no, or not seeing something, or feeling something. Just keep going, just like any good skill. My friends, it has been such an honour.